So we went around the rooms welcoming the new students on that wonderful evening. This would play out to be the very first time I set my eyes upon her.
Wondering who sent us that day, but went anyway.
So we got to her room and it happened that we spent the longest time with her, and interestingly, I had the shortest conversation with her because my two other friends had a common ground with her immediately while I had none!
Don Moen just released a hit song at the time and it happened that she was playing that song when we entered her room.
My two friends knew the song, while I did not have a clue, having been raised as a purebred Anglican Church guy.
So they sang along and discussed the song while I just looked on.
While there, God told me point-blank she would be my wife. While she was stunningly beautiful, I was not in love. I admired her, but there was no desire then.
I don’t believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in a “knowing at first sight’ This was exactly what happened to me.
You know, the Holy Spirit informed me of what was to happen but did not ask me to go and ask her out immediately.
And this is where we often make mistakes. We often jump out and the lady is not ready and you get a resounding No! When God speaks to you and you have a burden, find out whether it is a burden for PREPARATION or PERFORMANCE.
Do not follow your feelings, follow His voice! That is where peace is and that is where fulfilment lies!
By divine orchestrations, we found ourselves together at Ogun State University, Now known as Olabisi Onabanjo University. I came in 1991/92 session and she came in 1993/94 session.
I was two years ahead of her, in 300 level while she came in as a new student.
Most of my friends had girlfriends, I had none. They would often bring girls to the hall and the girls would spend days and sometimes weeks!
I was always amazed, like, what did they tell these “fine girls” that made them abandon their own schools and classes and relocate to another school to play the role of “small Mummy?”
And yes, you should never do this as a young lady!
Listen to me, every time you do that, it will always culminate in some regret!
You are never able to “hold” a man or secure him, by subjecting yourself to such “affliction!” That is the only thing I can call it!
I call it an affliction because on one of the occasions, one of the guys who had “camped” a girl for two weeks straight took a belt and beat up his girlfriend! I was the one who went to collect the belt from him! Wasn’t that an affliction?
It was one of the reason I did all my best to get a “one-man-room” because guys who brought in girls easily “de-roomed” their roommates. This means the roommate had to look elsewhere to sleep!
The parents of these girls would never imagine where their daughters were and the parents of the guys too would never imagine their wonderful sons were already on that lane! The more reason as parents, you consciously start inculcating the right values in your children!
Back to how I met her! On her very first night, my self and two other friends went round to welcome the new students that we referred to as “Jambites!
So what happened?
I will continue from tomorrow! Leave in comment section if you want me to continue tomorrow!
Happy new month! This month will be glorious for us all. We started writing on this topic three days ago. Did you miss them? Not to worry! see them below.
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under the delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other. They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out. Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. (Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth wasting time on what would not work.
7. Two unforgiving people
Lastly, two people who refuse to forgive one another easily can block the blessings of God in their marriage, home, and life. Bitterness of heart is a blessing blocker. If one of the couples is forgiving and praying for the other, it can be easier to resolve the issues, but when both parties are hurt and bitter from time to time, they are not helping themselves, they are not helping their home and of course, the inflow of God’s blessings and favour will be truncated.
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; (Hebrews 12:15 KJV)
The root of bitterness in a marriage will eventually spring up and get everybody including children defiled.
The way out
So what do you do? Seek help. Don’t keep quiet and watch things degenerate. Re-connect to God and pray a lot. Seek wisdom from pastors or mentors. Seek to understand your spouse and see how he or she is thinking to have the right perspective. I pray concerning every storm in your relationship and or marriage this morning, be still in Jesus’ name! I speak the peace of God, Shalom, not missing, nothing broken over you and yours in Jesus’ name!
