In your journey of life, you are going to meet “destiny opposers!”
They just don’t like your face or anything you stand for!
It doesn’t matter if you are nice or not, as a matter of fact, some of these opposers are those you have been benefactors to one way or the other, which even makes it more painful.
Those you brought help to who are now bringing hell back to you!
They are all over the place in life and in marriage!
They could be your exes, mentees, or even mentors. It could be whichever way!
What about if you are very close to God? Oh, that is even when you attract them like bees.
Well, in one way, it’s also an orchestration of the devil to keep you distracted, un-focused, and disorganized.
If you wait to fight the set of people or pay them some attention, you might end up slowing yourself down.
How do you deal with this set of people?
Apostle Paul had someone like that! How did he deal with the person?
Let’s take a look.
2 Timothy 4:14-15 (KJV) Alexander the coppersmith did me much evil: the Lord reward him according to his works: [15] Of whom be thou ware also; for he hath greatly withstood our words.
So much evil was done to Apostle Paul. It must have been very painful for him to document it.
But what did he do? He handed him over to God.
Why is this the best thing to do?
It is the best to do because that will keep you away from unnecessary hurts and bitterness, which of course can hinder prayers.
It is also the best thing to do because God is a righteous judge and He can be trusted to retribute back to men according to His justice system, which cannot be faulted.
Did you learn something today? Have a fantastic day ahead of you!
Fireworks to Fizzle: Why Love Wanes and Butterflies Die
Comfort and Danny were so much in love when they met on campus. Their love seemed so genuine as they richly engaged in the public display of affection.
Their love was contagious such that those who saw them fell in love with their love!
It was a story of “till death do us part: until they got married and discovered that death is even weak. There were other things that “did them part!”
No need to wait for death again, they were ready to part!
Fireworks to Fizzle: Why Love Wanes and Butterflies Die
The love has waned. The butterflies have injured their wings and some have died. The wine of love is dissipated and nobody wants to refill. The fickle feelings could no longer be tickled.
Their mere appearance to each other used to lighten their countenance now brings gloom.
What happened?
One of the things that happened to Danny and Comfort is that their love was purely romance-based. They did not understand Agape love.
So when different things kicked in, the romance flew out of the window and their love collapsed like a pack of cards.
While Romance is essential, do not ignore the book of Romans!
Fireworks to Fizzle: Why Love Wanes and Butterflies Die
The agape love is God’s kind of love that is unconditional!
This love is so powerful because it is the very nature of God. It is a love that forgives quickly, that doesn’t do tit for tat, that loves irrespective of weaknesses.
The Agape loves decides to love whether there is feeling or not.
The agape love can’t see side chicks. The agape love is too focused to entertain any distraction.
The agape love doesn’t cheat. The agape love simply loves their spouse without apologies.
This is what sustains marriage after a wedding! The wind may blow, the storm may rage, and the butterflies may disappear, but ensure you stay grounded on agape love and you will be good!
agapaō
Definition: of persons: to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of, to love dearly to love, value, esteem, feel or manifest generous concern for, be faithful towards; to delight in, to set store upon
True love is never a straight course. On, there are winding roads, there are stops, there are resting places there are places for refuel, there are moments of flat tires, there are moments of complete engine breakdown.
The good news? If you stay together, you easily navigate this stormy and windy moment of the marital journey.
Still, on the scripture, we looked at yesterday,
Song of Solomon 2:1-2 (KJV) I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. [2] As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
Exploring the Trajectory of True Love
Lily of the Valley and the Rose of Sharon are two separate plants with distinctive traits.
Hibiscus syriacus, sometimes known as the rose of Sharon, is a blooming shrub that normally reaches heights of 8 to 10 feet. It produces big, spectacular blooms in the late summer and early fall. The flowers are available in several hues, such as white, pink, blue, and purple.
Whereas, the perennial herbaceous lily of the valley reaches a height of 6 to 12 inches. Little bell-shaped flowers that bloom in the spring can be found on them.
In the same way, you will not always gain the height in marriage. Yes, there will be high moments, as the rose of Sharon, but there will also be low moments as the lily of the valleys.
Rose or lily, your love must be constant and unchanging!
True love ensures you do not abandon your spouse when they come with the garb of the lily of the valley! Rather you join hands together, to navigate your way out of the valley!
Exploring the Trajectory of True Love
For singles, looking for roses and avoiding the lilies is a mistake, because in no time, the rose lover may soon find themselves in the lily moments and vice versa. It is important to love the person and not just the shape, fragrance, and aroma of the rose.
The hips will not always be like that. The lips change sizes during pregnancy. Figure eight often morphs into figure football!
Stop looking for the rose, look for God’s direction. It is only God that knows the rose that will still “rose” you fifty years down the line!
Ade and Sade! What a rhyme in their nomenclature! The rotundity of her backside gives you goose pimples. The strength of veins in his arm tickled your insides. Their love seemed made out of the very heavens, when they met! Everything seemed to click. The lips, hips and tips all fell in place! Their heats would vibrate upon setting eyes on each other! They eventually got married, and then the winds and the storms arrived in quick successions. Their love were tried. They vacillated between the cross road of “ Irreconcilable differences” and “My marriage will not crash”
Their love became doubtful. They spoke angrily to each other. Hot words were thrown as arrows, causing damages within.
What happened?
The Rose and The Lily of Our Love Life
They started with the rose but could not handle the lily!
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The rose of Sharon talks about the beauty, the effulgence of cuteness and prettiness all rolled together. This is what often bring you together.
You so much loved one another that nobody else existed. Even God was sometimes put at bay! Baba nla mistake!
You both wanted to stay with the fragrance, shape and the aroma of the rose! The rotundity of her backside gives you goose pimples. The strength of veins in his arm tickled your insides.
Life seems like a perpetual ecstasy!
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The Rose and The Lily of Our Love Life
I remember promising my fiancee back then, in 1996, after I asked her out, that I will never quarrel with her, because I loved her so much. Was I drunk? Probably drunk in love!
Have we quarrelled? Ha! O ti poju! You start promising all kind of impossible things because of rush or adrenalin.
Till you discover that life is mountain and valleys!
The problem is that there are no roses in the valleys! You would be inundated with lilies!
Song of Solomon 2:1-2 (KJV) I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. [2] As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
Surrounded by marital thorns, you became overwhelmed.
You now begin to ask funny questions.
Did I really hear God?
Haba! You did not hear God and you went down the aisle, forsook, your parents, dropped their names and took another, cried some crocodile tears on wedding day, and exploded into joy and laughter as you proceeded to honey moon!
Haba! You heard God! Or who did you hear before you took all that risk!
Life is about roses and lilies! Mountains and Valleys!
In the valley, stay together and navigate your way back to the Mountain!
Don’t drop your spouse because the roses seemed to have died and you are choked in between thorns!
Marriage is about staying other, through thick and thin!
This matter is deep o, but I will rest it here and we will still visit it!
Sister Sade can pray for Africa. She prays so much that people drop prayer points with her. What about Bro Sunday? He can pray from Sunday to Sunday!
It was said of Bro. Sunday that when he was praying, he can stay in one spot and be vibrating his head for seven hours straight!
There was also this brother that loves to pray on the roadside and would often wander into the bush still praying. The day he impregnated one precious sister was when we knew he had other missions in that bush he would always enter!
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There is frustration with a lot of people who pray but really do not get answers!
A lot of married couples pray, but are just doing it religiously because a tenth of their prayers was not really answered!
What could be wrong?
Let’s take a look at the scripture!
Matthew 6:7-9 (MSG)
[7] “The world is full of so-called prayer warriors who are prayer-ignorant. They’re full of formulas and programs and advice, peddling techniques for getting what you want from God. [8] Don’t fall for that nonsense. This is your Father you are dealing with, and he knows better than you what you need. [9] With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply. Like this: Our Father in heaven, Reveal who you are.
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Strengthening Your Bond: From Prayer to Forever
Take a look at what we can get from the above scripture:
Amazing! Prayer warriors can be prayer ignorant!
Formulas, programmes, advice, and peddling techniques will not work in prayer
It says all that above is nonsense
You are dealing with a Father, not a tyrant of some stranger god!
God knows what you need, better than you know it!
God loves
Prayer begins with “Who He is,” not “give me this or that!”
Having identified the above, what can you get from there? I am sure the Holy Spirit will reveal a lot of things to you, but what I want to point out is this:
In prayer, it is more of a relationship with God than requests for something!
You are dealing with a father!
Strengthening Your Bond: From Prayer to Forever
Go after that fellowship, the revelation of His person, a friendship with divinity, spend time in His presence seeking to know Him in relationships or marriage, and a whole lot of prayers would be answered.
You begin to know God as one that could do exceedingly abundantly above all you can ASK of THINK!
Don’t just ask and run off! Seek Him. Pant after Him! Genuinely, and you will begin to break the seals and the scrolls will be shown to you!
