Love Before And After Wedding: Why Falling in Love with the Wrong Person is Dangerous
Love is a beautiful feeling that everyone desires to experience. However, falling in love with the wrong person can have disastrous consequences. In this article, we will discuss the dangers of falling in love with the wrong person and why married couples must keep the love burning before and after the wedding.
Why fall in love with another person’s spouse?
Falling in love with another person’s spouse is not only immoral but also dangerous. Such desires waste your time, blind you to the original thing God wants to do in your life, and ultimately bring a delay in God’s individual plan for you. Besides, you will be endangering your life, and the wrath of a man or woman whose spouse is being trifled with is not something to experience.
It’s the same when you have sex with your neighbor’s wife: Touch her and you’ll pay for it. No excuses. Adultery is a brainless act, soul–destroying, self–destructive; Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good (Proverbs 6:29,32-33 Message)
Why fall in love with a person you cannot spend your life with?
Falling in love with someone you cannot spend your life with is a recipe for disaster. If you don’t like him or her, but you are in love, then something is amiss. If you know that he or she doesn’t like you but you are in love, then it’s time to apply the brakes.
You should not fall in love with a person who violates God’s principles, even if your parents, friends, or pastor approve of the relationship. Remember, you cannot love a person you don’t like.
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Why fall in love with a man because of money?
Money cannot buy love, and falling in love with a man because of money is the wrong purpose for sticking together. Such a man will eventually fail you because man is built to disappoint. Therefore, do not attempt to make a man your Jehovah Jireh.
Married Couples – Love Before And After Wedding
Marriage is a sacred institution that requires deliberate effort to keep the love burning. Married couples must fall in love with each other repeatedly to protect themselves from intense temptations and traps that are out there.
Do not allow the fire to go out in your marriage. Be creative, and never stop wooing each other. Take yourselves out again, toast each other again, get the flowers, and write the poems again! When you make that sacrifice for each other, you will have peace of mind in your marriage and be able to maximize the power of agreement that lies in a good marriage.
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What do you do when you find yourself in love with the wrong person?
If you find yourself in love with the wrong person, it’s time to walk away, run away, or fly away. Do not allow emotional connections to keep you in the wrong relationship.
You must save your soul by delivering yourself as a roe from the hand of the hunter and as a bird from the hand of the fowler (Proverbs 6:5).
Even though it can be uneasy, you must think about the inevitable agony that lies ahead, the consequences of disobedience that are sure to come, the disenfranchising of oneself from the favor and support of God, and the delay of God’s beautiful plan. When you sum them together, you will muster enough strength to fly away and say a “strong NO” to a wrong lifestyle. The beauty of it all is that God will be waiting to embrace you and make all things right!
Conclusion
In conclusion, falling in love before and after the wedding is a beautiful thing that can add depth and meaning to our lives. However, it is important to remember that not all love is created equal, and we must be discerning in our affections.
Falling in love with someone who is already married, for example, is not only morally wrong, but it can also lead to serious consequences and heartbreak for all parties involved. Likewise, falling in love with someone for their money or status is not true love and will ultimately lead to disappointment.
For married couples, falling in love with your spouse over and over again is an essential part of keeping the fire alive in your marriage. It takes effort and creativity, but the rewards are immeasurable.
And for those who find themselves in love with the wrong person, it is important to have the strength to walk away and choose a better path. By doing so, we can find true love and happiness in God’s plan for our lives.
Wrong Sources of Marital Advice. Marriage is an institution built on trust, respect, and communication. When two people decide to spend their lives together, they vow to be there for each other in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad. However, sometimes things can go wrong, and communication can break down. When this happens, it is not uncommon for one or both partners to turn to other people for advice or support. But how do you know if you are seeking advice from the wrong voices in your marriage? In this article, we will explore some of the signs that you may be seeking advice from the wrong people and offer some tips on how to find the right ones.
Your friends are biased
It is natural to turn to your friends for advice, but sometimes their advice can be biased. Your friends may have their own issues in their relationships that they are projecting onto your situation. Alternatively, they may have always had a negative view of your partner, which could color their advice. While your friends may mean well, it is essential to recognize that their advice may not always be objective.
Wrong Sources of Marital Advice
You turn to family members
Family members can also be biased. They may have their own issues with your partner or their own agenda. For example, if your parents went through a bad divorce, they may be overly protective and want to steer you away from any potential problems. While family members can be a great source of support, it is important to recognize their biases and take their advice with a grain of salt.
You seek advice from online forums
The internet can be a great resource for advice, but it can also be a breeding ground for misinformation. Online forums are often filled with anonymous people who may not have any qualifications or expertise in relationship counseling. It can be challenging to know who is offering sound advice and who is just trolling.
Wrong Sources of Marital Advice
You consult with co-workers
Your co-workers may be great people to commiserate with, but they are not necessarily relationship experts. Additionally, office politics can come into play, and your co-workers may have their own agenda. It is essential to keep work and personal life separate and not let office gossip influence your decisions.
You turn to social media
Social media can be a great tool for connecting with people, but it is not always the best place to seek advice. Social media is often filled with people who may not know you or your situation, and they may be quick to offer their opinions without having all the facts. Additionally, social media can be an echo chamber, where you are only hearing opinions that confirm your biases.
So, if these are the wrong voices, who are the right ones? The right voices are those who have experience and qualifications in relationship counseling. These may include licensed therapists, counselors, and coaches. Additionally, couples who have successfully navigated similar issues can be a great source of support and advice. Finally, it is essential to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Your partner is the one who knows you and your situation the best, and they should be your primary source of support.
Experiencing a breakup or divorce is not something anyone desires or looks forward to. As a matter of fact, God hates divorce, and it is not His best for His children. However, in some cases, it happens, and the aftermath of such events is usually filled with hurt, betrayal, pain, regret, and heartache. It doesn’t matter who is at fault; what’s essential is getting healed from every hurt. With God’s help, you can overcome the pain and come out stronger. In the name of Jesus, He will give you double for your trouble, and you will forget all your past hurts.
Here are five ways to handle your ‘Ex’ as a single or married person so that you can become a better person rather than a bitter one.
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When Your Ex Won’t Let Go
1. Acknowledge that the relationship has ended
Some people may hold onto the hope that something might happen to bring them back together. However, if your ‘Ex’ is not willing, there is nothing you can do to change that. Denial will only keep you stuck in the past, preventing you from moving forward. You need to let go of the past to embrace the new. Just like God recognized the death of Moses before Joshua could take over, you need to recognize that the relationship is over before you can move on.
When Your Ex Won’t Let Go
2. Minimize all forms of communication
You need to reduce all forms of communication to the barest minimum, such as visits, calls, chats, and texts. Maintaining contact with your ‘Ex’ can lead to double dating and cheating on your new partner, which will only cause more hurt and pain. Some ‘Exes’ might want to continue enjoying your company without committing to you. Don’t fall for this trap, as it will only waste your time and hurt you even more. Avoid checking their social media updates to keep up with their lives or getting jealous when you see them with someone else. Let them be and move on.
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When Your Ex Won’t Let Go
3. Learn from your past relationship
The best way to overcome the pain and hurt from a past relationship is to learn from it. Don’t let the devil have the last laugh by dwelling on the past. Take the time to reflect on the mistakes you made and learn from them. Don’t rush into another relationship or try to prove a point. Instead, go at God’s pace and ask yourself questions like What went wrong? What were the wrong choices I made? These questions are not meant to depress you but to make you wiser. Learn about human behavior and tendencies, how to treat a lover, and put God at the top of your priority list.
For those who have been married once, divorce should not be an option. However, in some cases, it may be necessary when there is violence and abuse involved or when reconciliation is no longer possible. In addition to the tips mentioned above, forgiveness is key to moving on.
Bitterness will only crush you more, so get healed. Do not use your children as a tool to fight back, as this can plant bitterness in their hearts.
In Jesus’ name, I pray that God will give you the strength to fight for your marriage, and may He restore that which is lost and fill your mouth with laughter again.
How To Satisfy Your Wife: Tips for Better Communication, Romance, and Bedroom
Marriage is a beautiful union, but it takes work to keep it strong and healthy. As a husband, one of your primary responsibilities is to make sure your wife is happy and satisfied. In this devotional, we’ll discuss some tips on how to satisfy your wife sexually and emotionally.
How To Satisfy Your Wife
1. Communicate Effectively
Effective communication is key to a happy and healthy marriage. Here are some tips to help you communicate more effectively with your wife or fiancee
a. Empathic listening Listen actively and attentively. Put yourself in her shoes when she is talking.
b. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements “You” statements can come across as accusatory, so you might want to avoid that.
c. Avoid interrupting your wife My wife, for example, doesn’t like me to interrupt her when she is talking. Even saying “okay” too many times is an interruption for her. It took me years to learn this.
d. Be open and honest Be transparent. Once your wife sees that you are dishonest, you will break her trust and that can really be counterproductive.
e. Respect each other’s opinions and feelings Do not dismiss her opinions even if they sounded “stupid” to you! Please take note of this and thank me later!
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How To Satisfy Your Wife
2. Prioritize Romance
The second thing you want to take note of is this. Romance is an important part of any marriage. Here are some ways to keep the romance alive:
a. Surprise your wife with small gestures, like bringing her favorite snacks or leaving her a romantic poem for her
b. Plan date nights. This helps you to be deliberate about your marriage.
c. Show physical affection, like hugging and kissing. This shouldn’t be difficult. Is that what every man wants?
d. Do things together that you both enjoy. Find mutual activities and dive into it.
Dear singles, don’t even try to take “romance” to the physical level. Be nice, and courteous, and understand that you are the protector of her body, not the violator of it!
How To Satisfy Your Wife
3. Keep the Sex Life Interesting
Singles, keep sex out completely. It’s not even on the menu!
For couples, a healthy sex life is crucial to any marriage. Here are some tips to spice things up in the bedroom:
a. Communicate openly about your desires. Deal with inhibitions.
b. Try new things, like different positions, but don’t break somebody’s daughter’s legs!
c. Take your time and focus on foreplay. She needs an average of twenty minutes foreplay unless you are doing a quickie!
d. Be attentive to your wife’s needs and desires. That helps her to be responsive in bed.
How To Satisfy Your Wife
4. Show Appreciation
Showing appreciation is an important part of any relationship. Here are some ways to show your wife how much you appreciate her:
a. Compliment her. Do this deliberately, Single or Married.
b. Say “thank you” Do not take her for granted, no matter how “little,” you think the effort is.
c. Do things for her without being asked. Be creative.
This is where we will stop today!
By following these tips, you can improve your relationship with your wife and keep your marriage strong and healthy. Remember to communicate effectively, prioritize romance, keep the sex life interesting, and show appreciation for your wife.
If only men can take their place, if only they can be responsible, if only they can lead rightly, we will surely have fewer broken marriages and damaged hearts!
Men are important! Daddies are precious. Fathers are golden!
Most young ladies today have serious defects in their lives because of absentee fathers or non-existent ones, and they, in turn, take this pain and transmit it in raising their own sons thereby perpetuating an anomaly into generations!
Oh that men would realize that which is committed unto them
Oh, that man would know that their carelessness does not end with them but initiates a crazy network of consequences that affects the wife, the children, and everybody around!
Where are the men?
Our text today which inspired all I have written above is taken from
Song of Solomon 2:3 (KJV) As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
My Husband Stands Out Like An Apple Tree
Let me quickly point out three things here:
An apple tree among other trees
An apple tree is different from all other trees because of the uniqueness of immense benefits encapsulated in the apple. So should men be!
When a single guy is like an apple tree, he is not like other guys who just want sex, who are just looking for fun, and who don’t mind taking advantage of ladies.
When a married man is like an apple tree, he is different from all other trees, he wouldn’t cheat on his wife and he would not violate the sanctity of their marital covenant!
My Husband Stands Out Like An Apple Tree
2. I sat down under his shadow with great delight
As a man, your shadow should bring shade and comfort to that lady, not the agony of heart!
The lady should find a great sense of security and peace under the protective covering of her beloved. She should feel sheltered and shaded; that she is no longer at the mercy of others, but now under his care.
My Husband Stands Out Like An Apple Tree
3. His fruit was sweet to my taste
The fruits of his spirit should align with the fruit of the spirit. His character should be sweet to her taste!
The remembrance of every single guy should be a sweet taste to the fiancee, not memories of abuse, rape, and violence!
The remembrance of every husband to his wife should bring sweetness to the palette, not regret and acute bitterness!
Lord, give our singles ladies men like apple trees among other trees!
Lord, make the husbands of our women, choice men, apple trees among other trees, bringing security and peace, sweetness and bliss in Jesus’ name!
