Well, you can know. It is so easy to know but we often close our eyes to the obvious signs. I am going to use myself as an example.
Ours is a typical campus lovebirds story. There are ways I felt and there are things I did.
While these may not be specific things he must do as well, they are just to guide you in actually knowing whether the love is genuine.
1. I wanted to be with her always
More than anything, I wanted to be around her.
Something is not in place when he is not bothered about not seeing you in months.
A lady once told me she is preparing for marriage and yet the husband-to-be had not seen her in two years despite that they were just a few kilometers apart. Well, it turned out that he eventually left her for another person.
2. I felt like I was her protector
We all know God is her protector, but I had that feeling I was responsible for her.
This feeling engendered compassion which in turn informed my actions towards her.
If you have been slapped, be careful. If you have been forcefully violated be careful.
If you have been left in the cold because he was angry not minding your safety, be careful. If you have been massively embarrassed and shouted at in front of friends and families, be careful.
3. I wanted her to be happy
I couldn’t bear the sight of her being moody or downcast.
I would always try to make her laugh, quote scriptures to her about the joy of the Lord and all that.
If he doesn’t care about you being sad and depressed for days as a result of his actions, be careful. Things are not likely to change after the wedding.
If he seems to enjoy you being down and sad, something is wrong somewhere.
If he doesn’t care about you being pregnant again despite the trauma of the abortion you went through, you need to speak to your legs. Abortion is murder, it should not be trivialized.
By the time you have aborted twice, you really need to review your life and get out of that abusive relationship that will lead nowhere.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make the right choice in God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to see what I cannot see.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
This is a very relevant topic to all people who are married. We all belong to one of these groups in our marriage.
a. Your intimacy is good and needs little improvement
b. Your intimacy is just there and you want a fast revival
c. Your intimacy is bad and you are close to compromising
d. You are enjoying your intimacy
e. Your intimate life is very dry and boring and you are bothered
f. Your intimacy is not good and you don’t care.
g. Your intimate life is bad and you are settling yourself outside.
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Every couple must fall under one of these seven categories. Five of these categories are very bad and need urgent attention.
You must keep the flames in the bedroom red hot. The health of a marriage is largely dependent on the health of the bedroom.
Wives, don’t use love-making as a reward system for your husband, whereby when he is good and you are happy with him, you give him your body. You are not a prostitute who gives sex for reward.
Deal with every issue before they are allowed to cripple your love life.
Intimacy is first of the heart before it becomes of the body. All inhibitions must be taken off your marriage until you both become naked and not ashamed.
Close all doors to the enemy and swallow your pride. You cannot be full of yourself and expect things to work out. Some wives issue out commands to their husbands just so that they can make love to them. They become lord of the rings.
Don’t leave your matrimonial bed. Don’t sleep in different rooms, it will not work. Pray for whatever flaws he/ she has. Don’t judge or criticize your spouse to the point of rejecting them.
Whatever the issue, you are married. Save your marriage before it is too late. Forgive yourselves and embrace each other. Your marriage can still work out beautifully well.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will enjoy my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to satisfy my spouse at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take your spouse to “Jerusalem”
There are several things you can do for your grandparents. Today, we will look at one thing you can do for your grandparents. Respect them!
Yes, as simple as that sounds, respect them.
One of the ten commandments given by God to the Israelites talked about respecting parents.
“Honor your father and your mother. then you will live a long time in the land. The Lord God is going to give you this land.”
Exodus 20: 12 ICB
You respect them because God is still their God!
Though old, weak, and grey hairs decorating their heads, they are still God’s children. He hasn’t forgotten them and will never do so.
Even when your hair has turned gray, I will take care of you. I made you and will take care of you. I will carry you, and I will save you.
Isaiah 46:4 ICB
Your grandparents in a way are also your parents. They may not have directly given birth to you but still have some authority over you.
Whatever promises God made to you, He made to them also. When He helps you, they also receive help. God provides for them as He provides for you too.
He saved them as He saved you. Jesus died for them just as He died for you. In their old age, God is still their strength. As you ask for strength, they also ask the same from God. And God gives you both.
They have the power to bless you. Their blessings come as a result of their deep affection for you. You are like another child to them; their golden child.
Israel blessed Joseph’s sons before he died.
They have the power to bestow wealth on you.
A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children…
Prov. 13:22 AMP
Respect them as you do your parents.
May God continue to strengthen our grandparents in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Prayer: God, thank you for still being there for my grandparents. Thank you for providing and protecting them.
Action point: How about checking on your grandparents this week or visiting them?
Declaration: My grandparents will live to eat the fruit of their labour.
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Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 167
He suffered no man to do them wrong: yea, he reproved kings for their sakes, Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.
1 Chronicles 16:21 – 22 KJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 167
1. 1. Let’s begin to worship and give thanks to God
2. In the remaining days for 2021 to be over, the mark of ‘touch not” is upon me and my family in Jesus mighty name
3. I command kings to favor me the remains days for 2021 to be over and through out 2022 in Jesus mighty name
4. No man will do me wrong in every aspect of my life in Jesus mighty name
5. Kings are rebuke d for my sake that seeks to do me harm in any area of my life in Jesus mighty name
6. Father in the name of Jesus help me to always stay anointed, that the power of the enemy may not touch me in 2021 and 2022 in Jesus name
7. Fire of God surround me keep me, my spouse, family and loved ones shielded and protected in Jesus name
8. In my journey through out 2022, as I go about my life and ministry every harm is removed from my pathway in Jesus name
9. I plead the blood of Jesus in Jesus name on everything that pertains to my life, marriage, children, business, ministry ,career in Jesus name
10. 10. Let’s begin to give God thanks for answers to our prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 167
In Jesus’ mighty name, kings are rebuked for my sake. The mark of ‘touch not’ is upon me and my family. We are divinely protected and shielded from every harm. Those seeking my harm and planning to do me wrong shall be disappointed in Jesus mighty name
Don’t let his shiny lamp, his fine car, and his iPhone without God deceive you. Those things bring temporary happiness that will fizzle out.
Real joy, constant victory only comes from God-ordained relationships and marriages who are constantly living by the word and the Spirit.
If he has no oil, he would think the lamp is the problem, and he would go and get more lamps, he would dabble into adultery!
They that were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: [4] But the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps.
Mat 25:3-4 (KJV)
Nothing is more excruciating to be married to a wicked spouse, cheating on you, lying, deceiving, full of frowardness, and never giving you peace of mind.
Nothing is more debilitating to be married to a strange woman, a knife instead of a wife, bringing daily hell instead of daily help!
Nothing is more fulfilling to be married to a man or woman who is faithful to God, and has no capacity for evil through cheating, lying, playing religion, brandishing lamps without oil.
Where is your oil? Where is your depth? Where is your fear for God? Where is your integrity? Do you pay tithe? Do you honour God? Then you can ask me out and only then will my heart fall for you!
I challenge you to look beyond the lamp and go for the oil, the oil will lubricate your destiny and prevent your marital engine from knocking!
I pray for you this day, with every fibre of my being and with the strength of my call, you will not miss it!
Can you pray in the Spirit a little?
I commit you into the hands of the one that will exalt your horns like the horn of a unicorn and who will anoint your head with fresh oil.
Every form of confusion is removed from your life in Jesus name!
You will not collide with losers. You will not be entangled with foolishness. God will go ahead of you and make the crooked places straight. Affliction will not have intercourse with you! Delay is removed from your race! Heaven will announce you!
Be blessed today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make the right choice in God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to choose wisely.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
