This One Thing Will Always Birth Crises In Marriage
I have counseledhundreds of couples in the last twenty-two years. Marriage has always been and will always work. There are things you do and it is guaranteed that the marriage will work. There are things you ignore and it is sure that crises will emanate.
There is one sure thing if undone, will always birth crisis every time. This has to do with accountability.
Ever met anyone who does not want to be accountable and doesn’t want to talk to mentors? At the root of this is Pride! This is accentuated in the scriptures.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures
Wisdom opens your heart to receive wise counsel, but pride closes your ears to advice and gives birth to only quarrels and strife.
Pro 13:10 (TPT)
How do you know a wise couple? They are open to wise counsel. You see, there are issues that will come up in marriage that will be beyond you. God forbid that you have nobody to talk to!
Many a couple’s heart are closed to counsel and this is not good because they are only operating by what they know and the reality is that what they know is limited. Limited by their age and experiences.
It is wisdom then, to open yourselves to counsel because God will surround you with at least one person who has wisdom to help in whatever imbroglio you might have found yourselves.
That scripture says pride closes the ears to advice and shockingly, pride also gives birth to quarrels and strife.
Is your marriage riddled with strife and quarrels? Then find out if you have not made statements like “You must not discuss me with a third party!”
Yes, you must not discuss your issues all over the place, but you should have at least one person who serves as mentor or pastor you should talk to. And this person shouldn’t be either of your parents in any way. They will always be biased.
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will work.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the needed wisdom to build my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 13:10 (AMP) Through pride and presumption come nothing but strife, But [skillful and godly] wisdom is with those who welcome [well-advised] counsel
The spirit of fear is one that can hold people in bondage, and stop them from succeeding. Appearances can look real but in actual fact are not. Your expectations are false and are looking real. How do you stop yourself from being overwhelmed with all the pressures of fear? Just take a moment to stop everything and just pray.
Praying helps you to get an understanding of what to do or not to do. Prayer is a tool to help you understand what is happening and how to deal with it. It helps you deal with the spirit of fear also.
The major thing is that you shouldn’t allow fear – any of your false expectations appearing real, to stop you from doing what you’re supposed to do.
God doesn’t want you to have any form of fear and even if you do, He asks you to release them all to Him. He can carry them all and has the solution to solving them. The spirit of fear should not torment you.
Learning To Pray was taught by Rev. Dunamis Okunowo on the 8th of September 2021 during the Midweek service at Shouts of Grace Center, Joke Plaza, Beside Trans Amusement Park, Bodija-UI Road, Ibadan.
In his teaching, learning to pray, Rev. Dunamis made mention of the following important points:
People who are deliberate and detailed get their goals realized. Your prayer life has to be deliberate and intentional. God wants us to speak to Him intelligently, not complaining and weeping sentiments.
You must be very careful so that your utterances do not contradict your prayers.
In prayer, remind God that IT IS WRITTEN.
Put me in remembrance: let us plead together: declare thou, that thou mayest be justified.
Isaiah 43:26 (KJV)
Produce your cause, saith the LORD; bring forth your strong [reasons], saith the King of Jacob.
Isaiah 41:21 (KJV)
Go to the place of prayer in the integrity of God’s word, not in your labour. God is bound by His word.
‘Plead your case that you may be justified’ – that’s exactly what the Bible says. Therefore hold God by His word.
Before you go to God in prayer with Scriptures, first sit down and eat those Scriptures. Meditate on it.
It is the word you eat that becomes your testimony.
Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
Jeremiah 15:16 (KJV)
The more you meditate on God’s word, the lesser the problems.
Nothing gets done until you go on the platform of God’s word.
Where is the Scripture that makes you different from the ordinary people? You need Scriptures for every aspect of your life.
Your motive also matters in prayer. Don’t ask to consume it upon your lusts or to ‘pepper’ your enemies. When you ask, do so with a Kingdom mindset. You must learn to honour God when you come to the place of prayer. Come before God with due respect – avoid calls, gisting with others, etc. Even before our human superiors, we are disciplined (imagine talking with the president of the country, and then picking your phone to answer a call!), not to talk of God. You can’t be playing and praying at the same time. Prayer time is serious business; it is a consecrated time.
To listen to messages of Rev Dunamis, go HERE or HERE
Today is Day 9 of September To Remember! September To Remember Fasting began around last week with Daily prayers and waiting upon God. Get ready to receive from God as you participate in this fast.
Scriptures for today
And they shall build houses, and inhabit them; and they shall plant vineyards, and eat the fruit of them.
Isa 65:21 (KJV)
They shall not build, and another inhabit; they shall not plant, and another eat: for as the days of a tree are the days of my people, and mine elect shall long enjoy the work of their hands.
Isa 65:22 (KJV)
They shall not labour in vain, nor bring forth for trouble; for they are the seed of the blessed of the LORD, and their offspring with them.
Isa 65:23 (KJV)
And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while they are yet speaking, I will hear.
Isa 65:24 (KJV)
Prayer Points
. Go ahead and thank God for the nineth day of the fast.
2. Pray to God concerning getting your own house and that He will establish you in your business.
3. Pray for your marriage/relationship, business, ministry, career, etc; that God gives you the wisdom needed to build them.
4. Come against everything that the devil has planted in your life; begin to uproot them now!
5. Bind every spirit that wants to make you labour and not eat the fruit of your hands.
6. Pray to God to grant you length of days, strength of days, and glory of days.
7. Begin to declare fruitfulness upon all your labours; that you will never labour in vain
8. Pray that the blessing of God rests upon your family; and that your children come into that blessing.
9. Lift up your personal requests to God now, and pray in the spirit.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 9
I will build and inhabit. I will build and dwell in the land. I will not build for another. I will eat the fruit of my labour. My labour will not be wasted.
I receive the harvest of seed sown in the past. My harvest is sure. The works of my hands, I call blessed.
I will not labour in vain. I will not plant in vain. This season of waiting, the Lord hears me as I call.
The Lord hears me as I cry. The Lord hears my petitions. My voice shall be heard this morning. In Jesus name I have declared.
Sade has been abused since she was young. Almost everybody who met her wanted to abuse her. From her cousins to her Uncles, and then to the gateman. From fellow schoolmates to friends and neighbors, it has been the same story. It is as though she has a magnetic entity in her body that draws people filled with lust.
She got born again and the story did not change. She is completely frustrated and did not what to do. At the root of it all, she discovered she has grown to a point where she actually entertained herself with abusive thoughts. She looked forward to being abused unconsciously and she would often position herself in such scenarios by following guys she barely know to their homes for sex romps
She is completely frustrated. She has prayed, read her Bible, and fasted, yet the problem persisted.
Well, the main issue about Sade’s problem is that she has an addiction; and it is called sex addiction. She thought she was just being an emotional person. But she is wrong.
It is even possible she has not yet slept with anybody, aside from all the touch and kisses, and yet be sex addicted. This is because not all sex addicts need to have sex to feed their addiction, they only need to fantasize.
Such people can have sexual pleasure by just viewing pornography, by thinking about a certain person that has been tattooed into their brain, by a certain object or image they have photographed into their brain.
The brain has then attached sexual pleasure to these persons, objects, or fantasies such that all they need is a thought away. And of course, because this is dominant in the brain, anytime an opportunity presents itself to express these carnal thoughts, they simply give in. This is why such people often say they cannot say No.
Such people will certainly need a form of therapy in addition to the renewal of mind exercises that is persistent to become free. I will write more on this in the ensuing days.
If you find yourself in such a scenario and you believe you need help, you can send me a mail at khcpartners@gmail.com or send a WhatsApp message via +234 802 350 7395 for private premium therapy that can be of help.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free from all forms of emotional addictions.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from all forms of emotional addictions.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:1-2 (NKJV)I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
