Top 10 Benefits of Forgiveness in Marriage
Forgiveness is one special gift we have graciously received from God. God instructs us to forgive ourselves and also extend forgiveness to others who offend us. Let’s see the dictionary meaning of forgiveness. I believe understanding what forgiveness is will help us in forgiving others. Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
This morning, we will look at 10 benefits of forgiveness in marriage.
- Emotional Healing: Forgiveness and not holding onto past hurts and resentment heal emotions, promoting a healthy mindset and helping us move forward in marriage.
- Promotes Healthy Communication: Couples are better able to communicate freely and openly, leading them to be more vulnerable with each other. Resentment blocks communication channels.
- Improves Intimacy: Forgiveness breeds more intimacy, while unforgiveness breeds resentment, strife, grudges, and bitterness, all of which are intimacy blockers.
- Better Understanding: There is better understanding when couples forgive, knowing that they are not perfect and are subject to making mistakes and hurting their spouse.
- Resilience: Forgiveness strengthens the bond between couples. When forgiveness is genuine, their commitment to each other deepens, and they are able to face any challenges in the future.
- Better Atmosphere: Forgiveness creates a loving atmosphere where unity and joy are present, and there’s no animosity and strife.
- Marital Fulfillment: Forgiveness gives a sense of fulfillment in marriage where you feel loved and not judged.
- Reduces Stress and Tension: Forgiveness will reduce the tension and stress caused by unforgiveness. Couples will enjoy a happier, freer, and more loving marriage.
- Children are known to be better, healthier, smarter, and more emotionally stable when parents don’t have resentment towards each other.
- Increases Empathy: Forgiveness helps couples to see things better from each other’s perspective and understand one another better, embracing their differences.
Overall, forgiveness helps couples live better, achieve more results as couples, and enables the Holy Spirit to work better in their midst.
Let’s see what the Bible says about forgiveness:
Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
God will strengthen us to walk in forgiveness in Jesus’ mighty name.
In the case of sexual unfaithfulness on the part of the wife or husband, should we still forgive and how do we deal with the same situation?
Yes, absolutely! Forgiveness is not about doing the offender a favour, it is doing yourself a favour in terms of mental health, bodily health, answered prayers and many more.