The Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage
The Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage. Just like a person can be diseased and wouldn’t show for a while, it is possible for a marriage to be unhealthy without immediate expression of the underlying problems. But there would be tell-tale signs. There are many of them, but we will take a look at a few of them this morning.
The Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage
1. When there is no relationship with God
A marriage in which the couple has no relationship with God is sure to crack with time. You cannot build a home successfully without God.
Psa 127:1 (KJV) Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
It is only God that can turn a house into a home.
Don’t just have a relationship with God, build it, nurture it.
It’s the same for singles getting ready to meet their loved one or already in courtship. Don’t fall in love with someone who doesn’t have a conscious relationship with God.
How do you know a person who doesn’t have a relationship with God? It’s too simple. His actions, words, choices, and priorities will reveal the kind of person he is.
You don’t just want a handsome guy, you also want a spiritual man. You don’t just want a lady with hot legs, her heart must be hot for God too!
It takes a man who really knows God not to slap or beat his wife! It takes a lady who knows God not to become a constant irritation to his husband!
2. When the couple is not accountable
An unaccountable couple is sitting on a keg of powder, waiting to explode any minute.
Life is all about wisdom, and every error and failure experienced is an expression of foolishness lurking within.
Accountability helps you to learn from older couples and those who have been where you are trying to be.
It is the most dangerous thing in this world to fall in love with someone who is not accountable! Singles that hath ears, let them hear now!
The sad part of a counseling session is always that part where this kind of conversation ensues:
“Who is his/her Pastor?”
“He doesn’t have a Pastor”
“What about his parents?”
“His parents can’t talk to him. He won’t listen”
“Does he listen to any of his friends?”
“None of his friends can talk to him.”
“Who does he listen to then?”
“He listens to nobody!”
The moment a guy or lady has disfranchised themselves from all authority figures, the moment they are isolated from any help, the moment they are disconnected from those that can speak into their lives, it is always a complicated situation! So you will do yourself a favour by considering only those who are accountable! If you are already married, ensure you sort this part of accountability lovingly, and prayerfully. May God help us all.
These are two of The Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage. I will stop here this morning!
Good morning!
I will be 50 in October! Don’t forget to mention me in your prayers today…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
Lord, I love you passionately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father, please set my heart on fire to love you passionately.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Psa 42:1 (KJV) As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Love your spouse passionately.
BIBLE READING
Job 32
Accountability is key. Thank you for this word of wisdom sir.