How to Strengthen Spiritual Connection as Married Couples

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 8, 2024 | Singles and Married

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What Even Is “Spiritual Growth” as a Couple?

Imagine this: you and your partner aren’t just growing closer through Netflix marathons and Sunday brunches—you’re connecting on a whole other level. Spiritual growth is about deepening your sense of self and purpose. And when it’s in a relationship, it means finding ways to grow together, too.

For couples, spiritual growth means creating space to be real, open, and honest. You’re not just two people living side by side—you’re learning to align in ways that strengthen trust, communication, and unity. Sound heavy? It doesn’t have to be! Think of it as discovering a new kind of harmony, where you both feel seen, respected, and supported.

Why Growing Spiritually as a Couple Matters

Building spiritual intimacy adds depth to your relationship that goes beyond the usual. Here’s why it’s worth it:

You’re building trust: Being vulnerable in your beliefs and practices strengthens your emotional safety net.
You deepen empathy: Growth journeys aren’t always synchronized. But with spiritual closeness, you’re learning to give each other space and support.
It brings you closer: Working on a shared purpose aligns your values and gives you tools to handle life’s ups and downs.

Crafting a Shared Vision for Your Spiritual Path

Got a vision for where you want your relationship to go? Creating a shared spiritual vision doesn’t mean agreeing on every belief but rather finding common ground. Here’s how to make it happen:

Start with Real Talk: Sit down and chat about what “spiritual growth” means to each of you. Are there any values or practices you both connect with? Finding these overlaps can be powerful.
Set Couple Goals: Maybe you’re into meditation, or maybe volunteering as a couple feels like your vibe. Choose a couple of meaningful goals that you’ll actually look forward to.
Check In, Like You Do With a Friend: Life changes—so will your spiritual path. Touch base every so often to see if you’re both still vibing with your vision or if it needs a little tweaking.

Have a “vision night” every few months to reflect on where you’re at. Light some candles, grab snacks, and talk about your goals and dreams.

Create a Sacred Space That’s Yours

Finding a space at home where you can both feel at ease can seriously up your spiritual game. And no, it doesn’t have to look like a Pinterest board to be meaningful.

Tips for Making Your Own Sacred Space:

Pick the Right Spot: Choose a quiet nook where you can sit together undisturbed.
Add Personal Touches: Bring in things that matter to you both—maybe photos, books, a candle, or anything that reminds you of your shared journey.
Keep It Simple: The key is that it feels relaxing. So if minimal works, keep it minimal.

This space doesn’t have to be all deep and serious. Think of it as a little corner where you can pray, meditate, or just sit and chat about your day.

Try Out Some Spiritual Exercises

You don’t need to be all formal with this; do whatever brings you peace and connection.

Daily Meditation: Even a few minutes together can make a difference. Try breathing exercises or quiet reflection—something that brings you both calm.
Couple Prayer or Gratitude Practice: Not big on traditional prayer? No worries! You could try expressing gratitude or affirmations together, focusing on things that bring you closer.
Read Together: Pick a book or some inspiring readings. Have mini book club chats about your thoughts; it can bring out ideas and perspectives you never knew you had.

These are less about what you’re doing and more about creating regular moments of togetherness.

Dive into the Community or Go on a Retreat

Sometimes, stepping out of your bubble and connecting with others adds new depth to your journey. Community events—like workshops, study groups, or volunteering—give you shared experiences and fresh perspectives.

Retreats can also give you space to go deeper together, away from the everyday hustle. They’re a chance to connect, reflect, and maybe come away with new insights about yourselves and each other.

Try something that pushes you out of your comfort zone as a couple. It’s great for bonding, and you’ll have stories to laugh (or cry) about later.

Keep Those Conversations Open and Chill

Communication is everything, especially when it’s about something personal like spirituality. Keep things open, honest, and respectful—no judgment or pressure. Here’s how to make it work:

Choose Your Timing: Bring it up when you’re both relaxed. Casual settings, like a cozy weekend morning, make it easier to be open.
Be Honest About Your Feelings: Use “I” statements, like “I feel encouraged when we talk about these things.”
Know When to Hit Pause: If things get tense, it’s okay to take a break and come back later.

You don’t have to agree on everything. Sometimes, it’s enough just to listen and show that you respect each other’s perspectives.

Celebrate the Wins, Big and Small

Growth isn’t all serious! Take time to appreciate how far you’ve come.

Reflect Together: Once in a while, sit down and talk about what’s changed since you started this journey. Celebrate the progress, even if it feels small.
Mark Milestones: Light a candle, write it down, or go out for a meal—whatever helps you make it memorable.
Revisit Goals Together: Sometimes, revisiting your shared vision or goals reminds you why you started this journey as a couple.

Growth happens in layers. Looking back at where you’ve been gives you fresh energy for where you’re headed.

In the End, It’s All About Connection

Spiritual growth as a couple isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about exploring together, understanding each other more deeply, and building a love that goes beyond the surface. Embrace the journey, give each other grace, and have fun growing together.