There is a habit that is so unhealthy for any marriage. Do all you can to avoid it like a plague! It’s called Nagging!
One of the persons you should respect when he is offering marital advice is King Solomon. You will never be able to break his record. With a thousand women in his harem, no living human being has been able to break that record.
He was simply in a class of his own when it comes to women. He had them all and he would know a lot about them.
So he gave a piece of advice in the book of Proverbs.
It is better to dwell in a corner of the HOUSETOP, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Pro 21:9 (KJV)
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a nagging spouse.
Pro 21:9 (MSG)
So, nagging can make a man relocate from his bedroom to the penthouse!
But that was in verse 9.
Suddenly in verse 19, like someone just hit with a revelation or who just woke up from slumber, he said
It is better to dwell in the WILDERNESS, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Pro 21:19 (KJV)
He must have remembered another one of his wives!
Here, he says nagging from an angry woman will not only drive a man to a penthouse but to a desert, a wilderness!
Nagging can be irritating and frustrating. The Message Translation says here
A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet;
Pro 27:15 (MSG)
If most men were sincere, they would tell you they often keep late at night and stay longer at work to avoid the nagging that might be waiting at home!
A wise wife will refrain from nagging!
Let me conclude by giving you a Dictionary definition of nagging
Adjective; continually faultfinding, complaining, or petulant: persistently recurring; unrelenting:
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will cooperate with my spouse at all times.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray to God for a patient spirit.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 21:9 (AMP) It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman.
There is somethingabout that which comes from within. The pulchritude is that which is seen, but is often a total departure from the true reflection within. And yet the reality is that the external alone cannot be used to conclude on the entity. Adam saw bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh, not just flesh alone!
Dwelling on the flesh, the externals alone is a gross mistake in decoding the personality. What makes a person includes the deep things, the values, the happenstances in the realm of the mind and events that go in in the heart.
Those who have placed the pulchritude above the inner character have been known to regret it later. Outward beauty have been known to be a complete contradiction to the ugliness that can flow like a polluted river from within.
It is to this intent that the scripture advises
Let your true beauty come from your inner personality, not a focus on the external. For lasting beauty comes from a gentle and peaceful spirit, which is precious in God’s sight and is much more important than the outward adornment of elaborate hair, jewelry, and fine clothes.
1Pe 3:3-4 (TPT)
Even though this is talking to women, same applies to men.
There is a beauty that must come from your inner personality, and this is what defines who you are. This is what people live with, which may be different from what they see initially.
There can be outward beauty and inner ugliness.
Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful face on an empty head.
Pro 11:22 (MSG)
A beautiful face on an empty head adds nothing of value at the end of the day.
Make up, powders and so on are cool, but beyond that, ensure you are beautiful within as well, It will help your marriage a lot.
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am beautiful in and out.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for wisdom for your marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Peter 3:3-4 (MSG)What matters is not your outer appearance — the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes — but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY List your strengths and weaknesses.
Women are interestingly influential. Ok, the man is the head of the house, agreed, but the woman wields a lot of influence in the home.
Satan wanted to get to man, he went through the woman. He knew if he could get the woman to eat the fruit, the rest is history with the man, and that was exactly what happened. We see this in Genesis 3:6
When the Woman saw that the tree looked like good eating and realized what she would get out of it—she’d know everything!—she took and ate the fruit and then gave some to her husband, and he ate.
Gen 3:6 (MSG)
Look at that scripture!
She gave some to Adam and he simply ate it! No question, no resistance, no objection. He ate it in love!
The woman is influential!
So much is the influence a wife wields over her husband that the scripture even says a wife can influence her husband without even saying a word!
Let’s take a look at it.
1Pe 3:1 (TPT) And now let me speak to the wives. Be devoted to your own husbands, so that even if some of them do not obey the Word of God, your kind conduct may win them over without you saying a thing.
That is instructive! Without a word. How true can this be? Without saying a word. Can you begin to see that you don’t need to talk too much till your husband feels completely nagged.
You can be a woman of few words and yet of tremendous influence.
As a wife, decide to be a good wife by influencing your husband in a good way. Job’s wife was a bad wife, she asked her husband to curse God and die. Thank God he never listened.
Decide today and watch how that will impact your marriage massively.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make a positive impact on my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to influence my spouse positively.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Peter 3:1 (AMP) IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study the bible reading for the day
We are in Day 10 of September To Remember already! September To Remember Fasting program is set up to birth the greatness that we have within us.
Scriptures for Today
“Open up, heavens, and rain. Clouds, pour out buckets of my goodness! Loosen up, earth, and bloom salvation; sprout right living. I, GOD, generate all this.
Isa 45:8 (MSG)
For I will pour water on the thirsty ground and send streams coursing through the parched earth. I will pour my Spirit into your descendants and my blessing on your children.
Isaiah 44:3 (MSG)
I’ll make them and everything around my hill a blessing. I’ll send down plenty of rain in season—showers of blessing!
Ezekiel 34:26 (MSG)
“What a day! Wine streaming off the mountains, Milk rivering out of the hills, water flowing everywhere in Judah, A fountain pouring out of GOD’s Sanctuary, watering all the parks and gardens!
Joel 3:18 (MSG)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 10
1. Go ahead and thank God for the tenth day of the fast.
2. Begin to pray to God to open up the heavens for you.
3. Pray that God will pour out His buckets of goodness over you and your family, that there won’t be room enough.
4. Begin to command the earth to loosen up for your sake, and bring forth salvation into every aspect of your life.
5. Pray that streams of refreshing will burst forth out of the dry places of your life.
6. Pray that the Spirit of God will come upon you and overshadow you so that you can birth all the promises that God has given you.
7. Pray that as you wait upon the LORD this season, He will send down plenty of rain – showers of blessing – and make you a blessing.
8. Pray to God to bring you into the day of His blessings – where wine, milk, and water flow from everything you touch.
9. Begin to pray about your personal requests for this season of fasting and prayer.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 10
I declare, my heavens are opened. I will no longer operate under closed heavens. The rain of God’s blessing is pouring on me. Buckets of God’s goodness are poured on me.
The earth loosens up for my sake. Whatever I put in the ground, is growing. Nothing dies in my hands. My children receive the blessing. My relationship/marriage receive the blessing. My job, business, career, and the works of my hands receive the blessing. Everywhere I turn to today, I see the blessings. So shall it be in Jesus name, Amen.
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The ambitious early men were too focused to be distracted. Their project was clear. They were going to build the tallest building in the world. Whatever technology existed at the time, God Himself attested to the fact that they will succeed.
and he said, “Now then, these are all one people and they speak one language; this is just the beginning of what they are going to do. Soon they will be able to do anything they want!
Gen 11:6 (GNB)
God said nothing will be impossible for them because of the oneness in their speech and language. God knew what to do to stop their ambition. He tampered with their speech.
Come, we’ll go down and garble their speech so they won’t understand each other.” Then GOD scattered them from there all over the world. And they had to quit building the city.
Gen 11:7-8 (MSG)
The resultant effect of their garbled speech is that they could no longer understand themselves, then a scattering and then they quit building.
This is quite instructive and interesting.
O yes, in marriage, there will be little quarrels and disagreement here and there. You know what? Keep on talking. Papa Kenneth Hagin said learn to disagree without being disagreeable!
Do not allow strife in your marriage. When you stop talking as a result of hurt, your speech has been garbled and you will soon be unable to build anything. Now, this is the plan of the devil. He wants you scattered. He doesn’t want you to build anything. He doesn’t want you to do anything meaningful together. Ensure you don’t cooperate with him anyway.
Keep on talking. Don’t hurt too deep. Be a quick forgiver. Laugh a lot. Enjoy yourself as couples and do not allow anybody to pour “stones” into your “Garri!
Have a blessed day with your spouse!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not give place to the devil. I keep on talking with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that you are sensitive to your spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (HCSB)The LORD said, “If they have begun to do this as one people all having the same language, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.
