Most of the time, we get so much information that we do not care to be grounded in what we think we know and sometimes, head knowledge is different from real knowledge. You don’t know something until you are doing it.
So please don’t get itching ears as the Bible says for just what’s new. Let’s take time to be grounded and think about what I am writing about.
We have looked at
1. Know your spouse’s temperament
2. Don’t take each other for granted.
We will look at:
3. Don’t waste your energy being overly angry at your spouse.
We all get angry at our spouses. Our spouses do things we consider childish, silly, stupid, annoying, disobedient, etc, but please don’t fuss over any matter for so long.
The Bible told us to be angry but not to sin. Let the sun not go down on your anger.
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Eph 4:26
When we have these negative emotions, they do more harm than good. We are to forgive our spouse and not allow a root of bitterness.
Don’t let us dwell on the negative things they do. If not we give place to the devil and we will allow unforgiveness, hatred, suspicions, malice, wrath, etc
Anger in marriage weakens our bonds in marriage. We all can testify to the time we were angry at our spouses and would not talk to them. Sometimes, we are even on the same bed but wouldn’t talk to each other.
You may feel justifiable but you know what, little demons are rejoicing and having a nice time in your home and marriage. If this is not controlled on time, it may lead to some other negative effects.
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Take time to think about what we are angry about. Really some of the time, it is not worth it. We want to get rid of as many negative emotions as possible from our lives.
Be angry if you must be but please get over it on time and move on to becoming a better person with a good attitude. After all, we are all a work in progress.
May God grant us more understanding.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We root out negative emotions from our marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me, Lord to extend Mercy to my spouse in forgiveness
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Forgive your spouse on time and don’t be angry
We started yesterday on this topic and we have looked at
1. Know your spouses temperament:
This will reduce a lot of tension, hurt and frustrations in marriage.
Today, we will be looking at
2. Don’t take yourselves for granted.
Our needs differ from each other. Part of the reasons we married was for companionship. We have to be gentle and patient when dealing with each other.
We must take time off our busy schedule to be with each other. Just sit around your spouse and talk.
Talking could be therapeutic and prevent certain bodily ailments. Before any issue gets out of hands, we should have talked about it.
Let nothing mean more than our spouses. Some have valued business, office projects, friends, money, party etc more than our spouse.
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Every other thing we achieve and do, the wealth we amass and the associate or business partner we get will all leave us, but the one person who will faithfully stay with us is our spouse.
Let us all build long lasting and strong relationship of love, respect and understanding. It is going to take hard work on our part but on the long run it will be worth it.
Take time to know the state of your spouse. Some people just sleep and wake up together, they don’t know their spouse, their challenges or what is going on with them.
If and when our relationship with our spouse is good and cordial, God will ensure that we prosper. The Holy Spirit will grant us the wisdom and give us divine connections to prosper us.
God help us all as we make efforts to meet each other’s needs.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am becoming more loving and caring to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me, Lord to take time out to love my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Think of ways you could be more loving
So many times our marriage is not what we would have wanted it to be.
Most of us have childhood dreams of a wonderful family, loving and understanding spouse, a beautiful peace to live in and everything rosy.
In our imagination of marriage and family life, we never dreamt or thought of hardship, lack, quarrels, arguments and problems. We sometimes think to ourselves, ‘I never bargained for this in marriage’.
God never promised us that life (marriage inclusive) was going to be a smooth ride. He only promised us ‘he will be with us’. He said ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’ Heb 13:5
He has promised us all that we need to weather the storm. He promised wisdom, Grace, peace, His word, the blood of Christ etc. But we have to make up our minds to use all these.
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Here are few helpful hints you can use as a married couple
1. Know your spouses temperament.
I will suggest every couple read about temperaments. Know what your temperament is and endeavor to know your spouse temperament is.
You cannot run away from who you are. You can only improve on it and become spirit controlled temperament.
I remember reading TimLahaye, it literally changed the way I saw myself and my husband. I know why I behave the way I do and I know why my husband behave the way he does. Knowing your temperaments, you can now work on improving yourself.
Joyce Meyer put it like this, “we are all a work in progress and we can enjoy our lives and marriage on our way to becoming a better you”
I will continue tomorrow by God’s Grace. God bless our home and marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am becoming a better me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Give me understanding oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
We must have heard someone telling us to mind our business. We have always thought it to mean focusing our attention on our own business. Well, there is more to this than just focusing on your own business.
I will like to give attention to engaging our minds in unleashing the unlimited power embedded in our minds. I once read a caption many years ago that read, ‘The mind is a terrible thing to waste’. This caption is very true and we need to find ways of putting our minds to help us in achieving our expected goals as it relates to our marriage.
Our minds seats our thoughts, and our thoughts have a lot to do with the outcome of our marriage. No matter how loving your spouse is and how much they are trying their best to make you happy, your thoughts can work against you.
The difference between what you are experiencing now and what you desire to see in your relationship is in the way you have been using your mind.
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Check out the kind of conversations you have with yourself. What is your monologue like?
If you have thoughts like ‘I will never be happy in this marriage’, ‘ My spouse does not understand me’, I will end up heart-broken”, we can never be happy together, ‘I am trying so hard to please him/her but we are so different’, and so on, such thoughts will never make you enjoy the bliss of marriage.
You have to replace these thoughts of defeat with that of winning and victory. Be intentional about living. Focus and reprogram your mind to have that marriage of your dreams. Focus on a specific vision, be committed to it, pursue it, and be resolute because it is achievable.
Purposeful living is engaging your mind to live intentionally in your marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will give attention to my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for Grace to ‘mind your marriage.’
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 12:2 [KJV]And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above.
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In 22 Years – Part 2
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And guess what? Today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
If you missed the first part “Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In 22 Years” written by my husband yesterday, you can read HERE
1. Marriage is done by the mercy of God
Rom 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
There is a part where you work at it from both end, but at the end of the day, it is wise to constantly surround your marriage with the mercy of God.
2. Marriage is highly spiritual. You must engage in all spiritual activities in other to stay at par. Marriage can often be warfare and you have to be prepared for it.
3. You have to be a woman of prayer You cannot afford to be prayerless. A prayerless wife is a careless wife. The devil is out to ruin marriages. Learn to wake up at night to pray as well.
4. Learn to let go of issues. Don’t enforce your right. Be flexible. This goes for husband and wife. You have to close your eyes and ears to certain things.
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5. Be quick to forgive and don’t be revengeful. Be a quick forgiver. Marriage is all about forgiving 7 X 70 times! Practice advanced forgiveness
6. Be free to express your true feelings Be ready and willing to express your true feelings, and the spouse should allow for expression of true feelings.
7. Laugh at each other and laugh with each other Laugher is like medicine, so says the Bible. Let your home be filled with laughter.
8. Be an open book. No secrets Be open about everything. Don’t keep secrets.
9. Don’t insist on your own opinions. Respect each other. Respect is mutual in marriage. Your wife has things to offer.
10. Be a helper. Be supportive, submissive and be ready and willing to make sacrifices
11. Always seek to keep your love ablaze
Have a great day!
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
