Continued from yesterday. You can read Part 1 HERE
There are Josephs, Samsons and there are Amnons!
There are women who bring help and there are those who bring hell. There are wives and there are knives!
There are those who delight in your God and those who deride your faith.
There are Deborahs and there are Delilahs! There are Sarahs and there are Jezebels.
I say this with all sense of responsibility and humility, if I had married the wrong person, I will not be in ministry today. I know that because a lot of ministries have become miseries.
A lot of gifts and callings have been silenced and hibernated in the kitchen forever because of the wrong choice!
A lot of glorious callings have been guillotined, hung, and suspended because of the wrong choice.
Now, Pastor what do I look for in a man or a lady?
It is very simple. Look for a man or woman that is BLESSED!
Don’t look for money or comfort alone, look for the blessing first.
If he or she is not blessed, the money will all disappear. And even if it doesn’t disappear, joy will be far away.
The blessing! That is what to look for.
Look for a man that will not be threatened of you and will bring out the best in you.
Look for a woman that will complement you and not distract you in this journey.
Look for a man who loves God, he will truly love you.
Let’s take a look at just one example.
And Abraham gave ALL that he had unto Isaac. – Genesis 25:5 (KJV)
What is the “All” that Abraham gave to Isaac?
It is called the blessing!
The blessing makes all that a man does to prosper just like a curse can make all that a man does to come to null and void.
But if Abraham gave all to Isaac, what then did he give to all other sons?
But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham had, Abraham gave GIFTS and sent them away from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto the east country. – Genesis 25:6 (KJV)
He gave all other sons all kinds of gifts which in today’s world would include cars, houses, lands, and so on.
But to Isaac, he gave ALL, and ALL is the Blessing!
Look for a blessed man, not a man who has a car but is not blessed.
The blessed man will eventually get all the cars and houses and the jets!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, lead me to that person you have designed for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And Abraham gave ALL that he had unto Isaac. – Genesis 25:5 (KJV)
Sally, a God-loving babe is single, sassy, smart and searching! She has many suitors, but she just can’t seem to decide what she should really go for. She knows God loves her and is assured of that, but she is yet to find the man that will truly love her. Who should one really go for? What is it that must not be negotiated?
Before saying “I do,” what should one do?
Before walking down the aisle with the loved one, the sweetheart, the fedora, the rose, the lily, what should one really look out for?
What should a man look for in a lady or what should a lady look for in a man?
This is our bone of contention this morning and we are going to have to crack it by the Holy Spirit.
In relationship and marriage decisions, there is something that should not be negotiated. This is what we are looking at this morning.
There is something that you should watch out for that if you cannot see, you should talk to your lower limbs and pick a race.
You cannot marry everybody or just anybody. In the scriptures, God is particular about where the children of Israel should marry from.
In the contemporary world of 2022 and beyond, what do you look for?
After being involved in ministry work and pastoring for over two decades, with countless experiences in counseling sessions, I can tell you a few things.
After being married for twenty-two years plus, my eyes have seen a little. I have listened to countless brides crying and agonizing over the phone over their regrettable choices in marriage. I have listened to mature men break down like little boys because of the frustration experienced from their wives.
In the world of relationships and marriage, all men are not equal or the same. There are men and there are mean men.
There are honest men who speak with integrity and there are froward men whose mouths speak deceit and lies.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not say I do to the wrong person
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do the best for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And Abraham gave ALL that he had unto Isaac. – Genesis 25:5 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do well to share this devotional
9. God’s word will renew your mind and make you become a better person
Are you wondering how you make some changes especially concerning old habits that seemed ingrained in you and tattooed on your mind? God’s word is the way out. The word of God brings transformation. It can lift a man from the miry clay to the mountain top.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:2 KJV)
10. God’s word will help you to know your rights in God and get the best in your relationship, marriage and home.
Finally, it is in God’s word that you get to know and discover your rights in God and lay claim on them. You are not to be overcome by sin again. The bond of iniquity ought not to have a hold on you again. Its power has been broken. Sin shall no longer lord it over you. You are no longer the sinner trying to be righteous, you are the righteous whom the devil is trying to trap.
The power of lack, insufficiency, and poverty has been broken in your life. You have all things in God right now. The power of sicknesses and diseases has been crushed in your life! That cancer has no place in your body. That arthritis is no longer your portion. That heart condition has been taken care of…all these truths and more are what belong to you as a child of God.
When you study God’s word and discover what He has done for you when his body hung on the cross, you will have the boldness to demand what belongs to you in God!
May God grant you more understanding!
I pray for you this morning, every tree in your life and destiny that my God has not planted, be uprooted now in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
4 God’s word will become light and direction to help you choose as a single.
There is rigour in direction. Life is about decisions, but that is not all to it. Good life is about making the right decisions. The frailty of our human nature is overcome when we rely on God to lead us in our choice of marriage partner. ‘The Lord is my shepherd’ becomes a living story of our life when we embrace His word.
5. God’s word will bring stability to your relationship and marriage.
As you put God’s word in your heart, it will help your discernment in knowing the right people and the wrong ones. In a relationship or marriage, you need stability. You need God’s help to have a successful marriage. You need a wisdom from above that will not make your marriage follow the usual pattern of separations and divorce.
And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure. (Isaiah 33:6 KJV)
6. God’s word will regulate and help maintain your relationship and marriage when you follow its principles.
Following the principles of God gleaned from His word will help to regulate your relationship or marriage from the hullabaloo of marital journey.
7. God’s word will help you to have peace of mind in that relationship or marriage
God’s word brings peace. It helps put the couple at rest and delivers them from cheating on each other. It helps the couple to be satisfied with each other, and saves them from the pits that the enemy might have dug on their paths.
8. God’s word will help you to raise your children
When you train a child in the way he should go in the principles and systems of God, he will not depart from those principles when he grows up.
Rather than worry about the overwhelming peer pressure that an average youth is exposed to, show that youth the ways of God and his or her destiny will be preserved.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, make me a word addict
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joshua 1:8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use
All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. (John 1:3 KJV)
Here are ten things that God’s word will do for you.
1. God’s word will clean up your past
It doesn’t matter what your past looked like, the word of God, anointed in and of itself, will wipe the slate clean for you! It is almost unbelievable and incredible to the human mind, but in one stroke of sacrifice, Jesus paid the price on your behalf. The past should never hold you to ransom again. You have been made free. The mistakes of yester-years can no longer bear its fangs at you today!
2. God’s word will birth hope for your future
After your past is forgiven and forgotten, the same word of God will birth hope in you. This hope is a necessary ingredient to help you receive the fullness of God. All of a sudden, light dawns on your heart and hope comes alive, that it is not over, after all.
3. God’s word will produce faith in your heart to conquer the world.
Faith comes by hearing God’s word. As you hear and read more of God’s word, faith will rise in you. Why is faith so important? It is with faith that you will wrought victory in God!
For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world:and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. (1 John 5:4 KJV)
See it in Message Translation:
Every God–begotten person conquers the world’s ways. The conquering power that brings the world to its knees is our faith. (1 John 5:4 Message)
Did you see that? Faith that comes through God’s word has the power to bring the world and its systems to its knees! Glory to God!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
