The Dangers of Sexual Sins in a Relationship or Marriage
The bible makes us understand that God created sex as a beautiful gift, meant for reproduction, intimacy, and bonding within the covenant of marriage. Furthermore, we know that our bodies are not our own; they belong to God and are temples of the Holy Spirit.
When we use our bodies in ways that dishonor Him, we grieve His Spirit. Over time, if we normalize sin, our hearts can grow hard, and the consequences are grave.
God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.Romans 1:28 (NIV)
If you’ve struggled with an addiction for years, it may feel impossible to stop, but Jesus, the Light of the world, can break even the strongest habit.
If you are a believer and find yourself trapped in sexual sin, the enemy will whisper, “It’s normal… everyone does it.” That’s a lie. Your new life in Christ is pure and righteous.
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul (1 Peter 2:11, KJV).
No sexual sin is harmless. It wars against your soul, dulls your spiritual senses, and hinders intimacy with God.
Take a moment to ask honestly: Why do I indulge in sexual sins?
Boredom or idleness? Then fill your time with purposeful activities like Bible study, prayer, service, exercise, or learning new skills.
Pornography or sexual media? If you’re trying to break free from sexual sins, yet consume sexual content, you’re feeding the very habit you’re fighting. Jesus said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off”. That means removing triggers without compromise.
Here are practical ways to be free from sexual sins
1. Run to Jesus first: Only He can cleanse, forgive, and give you the strength to walk in purity.
2. Replace bad habits: Read Scripture daily, join a prayer group, serve in your church. Idle hands and minds are the devil’s playground.
3. Remove triggers: Delete sexual content, unfollow tempting accounts, and get rid of romantic/pornographic books and media.
4. Confide in someone mature: Accountability is powerful.
5. Stay persistent in prayer: Victory is often a process. Keep leaning on Jesus daily.
If you are single, you need to guard your mind and eyes, use your single years to grow spiritually and in purpose, not to indulge lust, and above all, learn self-control. It’s the same discipline you’ll need in marriage.
And to the married, understand that sexual intimacy is God’s provision against sexual temptation. If you struggle with sexual sin in marriage, it may signal a deeper intimacy or communication gap. Address it together prayerfully. Also, protect your sexual bond by keeping your desire directed toward your spouse, not self-gratification.
As Sandy narrated her present ordeal, she wept profusely because of what she had been through. She was raised in a good home, but she ended up finding herself in unbelievable lifestyle.
It was a lifestyle she once condemned and which she vehemently opposed, but alas, she became a victim of that which she abhorred. It was a lifestyle she hated and yet could not let go.
The more frustrated she became with sleeping around for money, the more the god of money sucked her in.
Her situation was cemented in an intertwining of a sexual life she detested but which offered a financial reward she wanted.
Mr. Andy on the other hand was caught in the thicket of adulterous strings, his money became a weapon in his hands to lure ladies into sexual escapades, he wanted to stop, but the dual influence of the spirit of mammon and the spirit of perversion held him by the jugular! He had not only lied to his faithful wife, he had become a lie, compensating his faithful wife with unfaithfulness!
Lovette and George were engaged and are supposedly the children of God. But they are caught up in habitual immorality, they cry today, only to sin the next day. The whole thing looked like a joke, a cycle of repentance and deliberate disobedience.
Pastor Johnson is called and anointed. But he found himself in a web of self-deception, compromising heavily with people under him that he is meant to lead. He had been bound with a religious spirit, think God must be approving his shameful lifestyle because of the ‘result’ and the anointing he thinks he has. The reality is that he is a dead man walking!
The scenarios could go on and on. Several professed children of God caught up with pornography, masturbation, lesbianism, homosexuality and other sexual perversion!
Hear the word of the Lord today. God is not mad at you neither does he condemn you! But He would not also condone any sin! Is there any reason why He would like you to lose your soul? No! Especially, when the price has been paid of your behalf!
Heb 13:4 AMP Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.
Relationship or marriage ought to be a worthy, precious and great price. It is not a game. It is not an experiment. It is supposed to be held in honor. It is sacred. It is an institution that God himself initiated.
The marriage bed should be undefiled. Don’t dishonour what God has honoured, or there would be consequences! Don’t let the devil tell you that you cannot stop. Don’t let the devil tell you cannot live right. Don’t let the devil tell you everybody is sinning. All those are lies.
Heb 13:5 AMP Let your character or moral disposition be free from love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and craving for earthly possessions] and be satisfied with your present [circumstances and with what you have]; for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]
Tomorrow, I will show you the interplay between mammon and perversion.
Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY Lord, I am free from the sport of mammon and perversion.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will supply all your needs
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 13:5 MSG Don’t be obsessed with getting more material things. Be relaxed with what you have. Since God assured us, “I’ll never let you down, never walk off and leave you,”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all ungodly and sinful associations and influences
1. The first thing I want to mention is that everybody knows what his weakness or weaknesses are. You know yours; I know mine.
2. Once you know, it is good for you to acknowledge and accept that there is a weakness.
A lot of people live in denial, never accepting or owning up to what is obvious. It is self-deception, nothing more. Such people can argue with you till tomorrow on what is already too obvious.
3. After you accept that there is a weakness or a particular lust; then you are opened to help.
This is important because you cannot help a man who thinks he doesn’t need help. It is a difficult venture trying to help a man that thinks you are the one that needs help.
4. Having known this, it is important to know that your weakness is not a sin, it is the weakness that you refuse to confront that leads you into sin and becomes a lust.
5. Know in the background that God has made a way of escape for you in any kind of temptation you find yourself, so it is just simple sense that you turn to God and not trust that you can handle it yourself.
6. Tomorrow, we will pick a particular lust and see how we can practically confront it by being accountable in order to deal with it. We will be talking about masturbation.
I pray that God will help you to deal with any issues you have through these practically proven steps.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will fulfil purpose. I will fulfil destiny.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask for the grace to deal with my weaknesses practically.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Practically confront those weaknesses today.
