The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality

The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality

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The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality

Being spiritual is one thing, being romantic is another. 

One should not take the place of the other in marriage.

Both are essential, necessary, and needed for a successful family life.

After speaking in tongues, make sure you speak to each other.

This “speaking” is important and should be perpetual.

Toasting should not end on the wedding day, in fact, it should just begin.

 Speaking the right words is needed for a great sexual experience, especially for the wife.

It helps her to get ready!

On the other hand, singles should use the right words for each other, and align their souls rather than their bodies. 

The bodies are meant to come together after the wedding, not before.

What should come together before the wedding are the souls, in the place of beautiful conversation, healthy chats, romantic exchanges of words, making plans for the future, and envisioning the future together.

Speaking in tongues should not replace speaking loving words to each other.

Both are very important.

The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality

Speaking loving words to your lover should not replace speaking loving words to your creator.

Both are lovers.

God is the lover of your soul, your dear one is the lover of your body!

God loves you to speak loving words to Him.

Your lover craves loving words to be spoken to him or her. 

After you have prayed, make sure you also play with your loved one!

There must be a balance of the romantic and the spiritual in order to keep your love life going and in order to make a relationship lead to marriage.

Speaking loving words to each other will keep false assumptions away.

Speaking in tongues will keep demonic influence away.

Speaking loving, romantic words to each other adds strength to your love life.

Speaking in tongues adds strength to your inner man.

With your love life, you fight doubt and insecurities.

With your inner man, you fight and wade off attacks of the enemy.
 
That is why the scripture emphasizes that romance alone will not deliver.

The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality

Rom 14:17 (KJV)  
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.


That is, if you want to bring the kingdom of God into your relationship or marriage, it is not in meat and drink alone, it is not in ice cream and cinema outings alone, it is also in right living, in Shalom, and in the Holy Spirit

Do you get it?

That he is handsome alone would not be enough, can he speak in tongues?

That she has hot legs alone would not suffice, does she have a hot heart as well?

I will stop here this morning!

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This One Too Shall Pass

This One Too Shall Pass

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There is one truth I want to drive in this morning! Whether single or married, this truth will be helpful for you! 

The devil’s attempt is always to limit us by what we see. But the scripture is clear on what we are to do regarding that! See it below:

2Co 4:17-18 (KJV) For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; [18] While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

This One Too Shall Pass

First of all, it says our affliction is light! It is not heavy enough to kill us. God is not a taskmaster and He would not allow us to be tempted beyond our strength! 

He allows tests and trials, not to kill us but to work for us eventually.

But then there is an instruction in the above verse. Do not look at those things that are disturbing you. Please don’t focus on them. There is no need for your BP to rise! 

Don’t give mental consideration and acceptance to the issues you are facing. Why?

They are temporal! Glory to God. They are not eternal. They do not have a forever status! They are transient and they shall pass. That is why I like the phrase “And it came to pass”

This One Too Shall Pass

Whatever it is, my dear, that one shall pass too

Those issues that were like life and death issues some five or ten years ago, where are they now? They passed. This one too will pass!

Who then do you focus on? Focus on God and His Word. Judge Him faithful. Meditate on His goodness always and you will experience that goodness in your relationship or marriage. Good morning!


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Fanning the Embers of Love

Fanning the Embers of Love

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Fanning the Embers of Love

Love is usually described by burning flames. When we are really in love with that special someone, our love is burning. Like anything burning, if we don’t want the flames to go down we have to keep it rekindled or burning. We have to fan the coals of our love.

Here are some practical and helpful tips to help us achieve this.

Fanning the Embers of Love

1. Express gratitude

As simple as it may appear, failing to express gratitude can quickly undermine affection. Don’t take love for granted; be grateful for everything. Compliment each other frequently.

2. Spending Quality Time

Make time for each other outside of your busy schedules. It’s just the two of you now. Plan date nights and activities that both of you like. It restores and strengthens your bond.

3. Interaction

This is quite crucial. Discuss your feelings and worries openly with one another. Honest communication aids in understanding each other’s wants and requirements.

4. Resolve Problems

Constructively address unresolved issues or areas of contention. Make an effort to make your relationship healthier and happier.

5. Share happy memories

Laughing over and sharing happy recollections with one other is beneficial. Reminding each other of the good times brings back fond memories.

Fanning the Embers of Love

6. Physical Closeness

Physical contact can revive love. Hold hands, kiss, and hug on a frequent basis.

7. Patience and dedication

Be patient and committed to your partner and your marriage. It may take some time to fan the flame of love.

8. Avoid Monotony

Let your relationship be spiced with fun. Break free from the monotony. Avoid boredom by making your relationship more enjoyable.

Rekindling your love for each other is important. When we value our relationship we will want to keep it from going down and becoming obsolete. Commitment to each other’s needs, feelings, mutual respect, and understanding are also crucial


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Help We Don’t Understand Each Other

Help We Don’t Understand Each Other

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Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

This is an issue faced by young and old couples alike. You and your spouse are different and this will have different perspectives.

Understanding each other is about getting your spouse to see your viewpoint. It requires effective communication and understanding.

Both of you have to be willing and ready to work at your marriage. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or with the marriage.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

Here are some tips to help you convey your perspective:

1. Choose the Right Time: 

Pick a moment when both of you are calm and receptive to discussion.

2. Stay Calm and Respectful: Approach the conversation with a composed demeanor and avoid becoming defensive or confrontational.

3. Active Listening: 

First, listen to your spouse’s viewpoint attentively. Show empathy and understanding towards their thoughts and feelings.

4. Use “I” Statements: 

Express your viewpoint using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, “I feel” or “I think” rather than “You always” or “You never.”

5. Provide Specific Examples: Support your viewpoint with concrete examples and evidence to help your spouse better understand your perspective.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

6. Find Common Ground: 

Identify areas where your viewpoints align and build on those shared interests or beliefs.

7. Avoid Blame Game: 

Refrain from blaming or criticizing your spouse during the conversation. Focus on the issue at hand without making it personal.

8. Acknowledge Their Perspective: 

Validate your spouse’s viewpoint, even if you don’t fully agree. Show that you respect their thoughts and feelings.

9. Be Patient: 

Changing viewpoints takes time, so be patient and allow your spouse to process the information.

10. Give Space: 

If the conversation becomes too intense, take breaks if needed, and revisit the discussion when both of you are ready.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

11. Collaborate: 

Frame the conversation as a collaborative effort to find a solution that works for both of you.

12. Seek Professional Help: 

If necessary, consider seeking the assistance of a professional therapist or counselor to facilitate the conversation.

Remember, the goal is not necessarily to make your spouse adopt your viewpoint but to foster understanding and find common ground. Respectful communication and empathy are key to productive discussions in any relationship.


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Secrets To Keep Love Alive

Secrets To Keep Love Alive

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Secrets To Keep Love Alive. It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is impressive. 

There is a love wave, love current, and all the love vibes around them. They set out to profess their eternal love for each other. 

They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.

The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the love zone? 

Really, no husband or wife starts out overnight from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive, and insensitive.

There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their love affair. 

The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine. 

Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We, therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.

Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.

Secrets To Keep Love Alive

1. Don’t blame

‘It’s his fault

‘She is very disrespectful’

‘He’s not kind and loving’

She’s lazy and overly sensitive

‘He’s always hurting’

Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter, and full of regret, and revengeful. 

When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives. 

You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.

Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.

Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.

I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly. 

Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy are reciprocal in marriage. 

Secrets To Keep Love Alive

2. Don’t Compare

The grass always seems greener on the other side. Never fall for the comparison trap. 

Don’t compare other couples or marriages with your own. 

Yes, you can learn from them but never compare. 

The truth is you never know that other husband or wife.

Every good marriage you admire sacrificed on their path to get to where they are now.

So rather than compare and blame your spouse for not being like husband A, work on your own marriage, pay your own price, and make your own sacrifices.

Secrets To Keep Love Alive

3. Don’t withdraw

The withdrawal syndrome is one thing that destroys a marriage fast. 

It’s a temporary shield you build around yourself to avoid confronting and dealing with issues. 

Don’t withdraw into work, yourself, your passion, activity, church project, children, porn, friends, outings, or keeping late nights.

When you hide in withdrawal, you have created a vacuum for the devil to fill in your home.

You need to understand each other’s temperament and know how to lovingly respect each other’s differences. 

Extroverts and introverts are very different and handle issues differently.

Give each other space. Allow your spouse to grow without nagging them. 

Be patient with your demands. Don’t expect your wife to change overnight. Let the fruit of the spirit grow and manifest in your life. 

Allow your marriage to grow. Let it blossom.

If you are presently experiencing a not-too-pleasant moment in your marriage, let grace flow towards you now, releasing peace, strength, and courage to you. 

I pray for you, may God’s love and a fresh love for your spouse be shed abroad in your heart now in Jesus’ name.


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