We don’t like waiting. Singles hate waiting for the right person; couples hate waiting for a change in their partner. But love, real love, always passes through seasons of delay.
Abraham waited for Isaac. Hannah waited for Samuel. Joseph waited for freedom. Yet in the waiting, God was forming something deeper than desire—He was forming trust.
Singles, don’t rush the waiting season. God is not punishing you; He’s preparing you. Waiting is not wasted when it builds wisdom.
Couples, be patient with the process. You may not see change today, but growth often happens quietly, beneath the surface. Keep watering your relationship with prayer and kindness, even when you don’t see instant fruit.
Love that endures waiting becomes stronger. It stops being about timelines and becomes about trust.
In God’s hands, delay is not denial—it’s development.
Not every relationship feels balanced. Sometimes one person gives more, prays more, forgives more. Singles often face this tension while dating someone who seems less invested. Couples experience it when one spouse feels they’re carrying the emotional or spiritual weight alone.
But here’s the truth: love will never always be 50/50. Some days it’s 80/20, other days 40/60. What matters is whether both people are committed to closing that gap when they can. What matters is whether both are giving their 100% whilst striving to do better.
However, my dear singles, if you constantly feel like the only one giving, kindly step back and assess. Love shouldn’t drain you before it blesses you.
Married couples, here’s for you: instead of keeping score, focus on building balance. Communicate. Appreciate what your partner does, even if it’s not in your preferred way. Encourage growth rather than resentment.
God’s love toward us is always greater—and that’s our model. We keep giving, but not foolishly; we love, but not blindly.
In today’s culture, many singles find themselves in “situationships”, a connection with chemistry and consistency but without clarity or commitment. It offers the thrills of romance without the responsibility of real love. The problem is subtle but serious: it slowly steals your time, focuses your emotions on uncertainty, and blocks you from being available to the right person. Scripture says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). Guarding your heart means guarding your time, attention, and future.
Situationships thrive on mixed signals and momentary comfort. It looks like late-night chats with no plans, affection without accountability, and the question no one answers: “What are we?” God is not the author of confusion but peace (1 Corinthians 14:33). If the dynamic constantly produces anxiety, it’s not leading you toward covenant. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Agreement is the minimum requirement for progress.
Quick heart-check questions:
• Do we share a clearly stated intention for this relationship?
• Does this connection move me toward purpose and godly standards?
• If I walked away today, would I feel relieved or regretful?
Practical steps to break free from situationships:
1) Name it if it isn’t committed. Call it what it is. (Ephesians 4:25).
2) State your boundaries and communicate your standard for exclusivity and timelines (Philippians 4:7).
3) Require alignment if definitions are dodged, and take it as direction to move on (Proverbs 19:20–21).
4) Seek counsel and share with a mentor/pastor for wisdom (Proverbs 11:14; James 1:5).
5) Refill your schedule with purpose, serving, learning, and community so your heart isn’t tempted to return to crumbs.
Remember- Ruth’s purposeful movement positioned her for covenant; she wasn’t stuck in cycles (Ruth 2–3).
Pray this: “Lord, establish my steps in Your word; let no in-between relationship have dominion over me.”
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No one talks about how scary it is to fall out of love with someone you thought you’d love forever.
One minute, they’re your answered prayer; the next, you struggle to feel anything. You smile less and withdraw more. The connection that once lit up your world now feels like a flickering flame.
But before you make any rash decisions, pause. Love is a commitment, not an emotion. Feelings fade, but godly love doesn’t. The Bible says, “Love bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things. Love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13:7–8). So the spark isn’t gone, maybe it’s just buried under disappointment, unmet expectations, or unspoken frustrations.
Falling out of love doesn’t always mean the relationship is over; sometimes, it’s time to rebuild.
Ask yourself:
Have we stopped communicating?
Have we stopped praying together?
Have we grown apart because we’ve stopped growing with God?
Many relationships drift because people stop being intentional. Love can’t thrive where neglect lives.
What if you’ve done all you can and the feeling is still gone? Then you need to be honest with yourself, with them, and with God. Staying in a relationship out of guilt, fear, or obligation is not God’s will. He wants you in a relationship that brings peace, not confusion. “God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown…” (Hebrews 6:10).
If you’re in this space where you’re no longer sure, don’t run, reflect. Also, don’t settle; seek clarity from the One who knows your heart even when you don’t. God is not afraid of your silence, confusion, or breaking point. He specializes in restoring what feels lost. However, He also gives you the grace to walk away when love is no longer aligned with His Will.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and do you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
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There are days when love feels like a lot to handle. Not because your feelings have changed, but because you’re tired. You’re putting in the effort, showing up, trying to communicate, praying, overthinking, making adjustments, and still, there’s this tension. Something feels off, and you can feel it.
This part is not often talked about. When you’re trying to love someone the right way, it stretches you thin. It’s not about a big disagreement or some obvious issue; it’s the emotional toll of striving to be consistent, patient, forgiving, and open all at once. It can start to feel overwhelming.
That’s why this scripture resonates with me so well, it says;
“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair.” — 2 Corinthians 4:8 (NIV)
Paul wasn’t necessarily addressing relationships here, but this verse really speaks to them. Love can sometimes feel like a heavy load. When you love someone, especially in a way that reflects God’s heart, it will expand what you can handle. And every now and then, it makes you wonder what’s really going on.
So Why Does It Feel This Heavy?
Here are three reasons love feels heavy, even when it’s genuine:
1. God uses love to grow you.
It sounds good in theory, but in real life, it means you’re going to be stretched. To love someone well, you need patience, self-control, humility, and forgiveness, and those qualities don’t just appear out of the blue. They develop through struggles. True love will expose parts of you that might still be selfish, reactive, insecure, or scared. That’s not a failure but a sign of growth.
2. You’re carrying more than just the present.
Often, the pressure isn’t solely about what’s going on right now. It can stir up past experiences. Maybe it’s a fear of being hurt again or a response to something traumatic. Perhaps your need for control is rearing its head. So, the pressure isn’t just emotional, it’s layered.
3. You’re trying to love from your own strength.
We tend to do this more than we realize. When you try to love without refreshing your spirit through God, you often end up feeling drained. What starts as effort can morph into resentment. Care becomes anxiety, and soon your relationship feels more like a burden than a joy.
Tomorrow, I will tell you what to do when love feels heavy. Don’t miss it.
