In Love With An Angry Person?
I will be writing to the couples first and lastly to singles.
Pro 21:19 (KJV)
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
The role of a wife is to give her husband a conducive atmosphere in the home.
A woman can turn a house into a home.
She can make the house serene or too hot to stay in.
When you find your husband coming home late, avoiding conversations with you, and preferring to hang out than hang in with you, you need to be careful that you are not doing anything to resent him.
The scripture says contentions, nagging, anger, uncooperative attitudes, tantrums, and such can make a man relocate!
He would avoid spending time with the lady because he knows all he will get is nagging and complaints.
When a man is confused or doesn’t know the decision to take yet, he keeps quiet.
That is why you discuss some things with him and then he says nothing. As in nothing!
He probably needs to think it through.
A lady makes it worse by nagging and holding him by the neck to say something by force.
However, the last thing that will come out of a man’s mouth is to say “I am confused!” Every man is egocentric!
When he is confused, he keeps quiet!
Give him time to sort, process, and decide, and don’t unwittingly drive him away.
For singles, work on your anger. Anger can make men run away!
Guys are logical, so in each of your anger episodes, they are thinking about what will happen after the wedding and making up their minds.
That could, on a few occasions, be the reason why some guys just disappear after promising a wedding! They got scared!
I am not asking you to pretend.
I am asking you to work on it.
Read books on anger management.
Read scriptures that talk about anger.
Some of them will humble you.
For example,
Ecc 7:9 (MSG)
Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.
Anger can end relationships
Anger can scatter relationships
Anger can divide a God-ordained relationship!
Gen 49:7 (KJV)
Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
The Message Translation is apt.
Gen 49:7 (MSG)
A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.
Your God-ordained love affair not be shredded!
Your courtship or marriage will not end in the trash!
Your home will not be scattered like confetti!
