How to Handle Conflicts in Marriage

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How to Handle Conflicts in Marriage is continued from yesterday. If you missed yesterday’s reading, go HERE

4. Take Responsibility for Your Part

Blame-shifting only fuels resentment and prolongs conflict. A graceful approach involves acknowledging your role in the disagreement and apologizing sincerely when necessary. Matthew 7:3-5 challenges us to examine our own faults before pointing out others’.

Solution: Use “I” statements to express accountability, such as “I realize I overreacted earlier, and I’m sorry.” Taking ownership fosters mutual accountability and reconciliation.

5. Focus on Solutions, Not Scorekeeping

It’s easy to fall into the trap of keeping score—tracking past grievances or tallying who does more work. However, this mindset breeds bitterness and hinders progress. Instead, focus on finding practical solutions that benefit both parties. Philippians 2:4 encourages us to look not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others.

Solution: Collaborate as teammates rather than adversaries. Ask, “How can we solve this together?” Prioritize unity over personal victories.

6. Pray Together for Guidance

Inviting God into the conflict transforms it from a battleground to a place of healing. Praying together allows both spouses to surrender their frustrations to Him and seek His wisdom. Psalm 34:18 promises, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Solution: Hold hands and pray aloud, asking God to soften hearts, grant clarity, and restore peace. Trust that He will guide you toward resolution.

7. Avoid Personal Attacks

Criticism and contempt are toxic to relationships. Attacking your spouse’s character or belittling them erodes trust and damages intimacy. Colossians 3:8 warns against behaviors like anger, slander, and malice, urging believers to put on compassion and kindness instead.

Solution: Stick to discussing specific actions or behaviors rather than attacking your spouse’s identity. For example, say “I felt hurt when the dishes weren’t done,” rather than “You’re so lazy!”

How to Handle Conflicts in Marriage