“God, When?” and Other Dangerous Prayers

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“God, When?” and Other Dangerous Prayers

You’ve probably said it.

“God, when?”

When will I meet “the one”?

When will my spouse finally get the hint?

When will my spouse learn to be romantic?

When will my relationship stop feeling like a part-time job with no pay?

We say it jokingly… but sometimes, it’s a real cry. A cry for clarity. For companionship. For calm in the chaos that love sometimes brings. For a more blissful marriage.

But let’s be honest—half the time when we pray “God when?”, what we mean is “God hurry!”

Because we don’t just want love—we want it now. Packaged and perfect, especially for the gram.

But here’s the twist: God is not on your timeline. He’s on your transformation.

And while you’re watching everyone else get engaged, post anniversary photos or of romantic gestures by their spouses, or buy their third matching pyjamas set, God is saying,

“Let Me work on your heart before I give it to someone else.”

Or

“Let Me work on your heart first for your spouse.”

Love is beautiful… but it’s also heavy.

It will test your patience, expose your pride, and stretch your capacity to forgive.

And if you’re not ready, you’ll fumble a blessing that was meant to last a lifetime.

And if you are already married, it could be that you are also part of the problem! You may just never know. So, allow God work on your heart.

So yes, pray about love. Long for it. Prepare for it.

But don’t waste your waiting. Don’t idolise what you don’t understand.

And please—stop comparing your journey to someone else’s highlight reel.

God’s timing is perfect.

And when it’s your turn, you won’t have to beg, chase, or shrink to fit.

It’ll be clear. It’ll be God.

And it’ll be worth the wait.

And when God works perfectly on your heart, dear married one, your marriage will get more blissful. Your spouse will also come around!