Five Things to Look for in a Lover Part 1 

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Five Things to Look for in a Lover Part 1 

Hey there! So, you’re on the quest for the perfect life buddy? Let’s break down the five must-haves in a potential spouse.

I met my wife when I was twenty-four and she was twenty-one, while on campus, some twenty-eight years ago! And yes, there was something I was looking out for even though I was young then! Let’s take a look at a few of these elements as they will help us in our quest for a godly lover! 

1. The Big G – Fear of God:

Alright, first things first – the fear of God. Not the “oops, I forgot to do my chores” kind of fear, but more like having a super cool and understanding boss. Beauty fades! Beauty is not the first thing. Some strange women are beautiful and some wicked men are handsome.

But if you are blessed with a handsome man or a beautiful woman who also has the fear of God, you are blessed indeed.

Do you know why I have been faithful to my wife? Do you know why I don’t have girlfriends all over the place? The only reason I have not compromised is that I have the FEAR OF GOD! That was what Joseph had and he ran away from free sex. So, go for the fear of God! Beware of people who have the fear of God temporarily just to get what they want.

2. Keeping It Real – Integrity and Sincerity:

Next up, we’re talking honesty, integrity, and no cheating at board games! 

The scripture says something powerful:
The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them. (Proverbs 11:3 KJV)

Now, if you come up with arguments like, there is no sincere man, every man is bad and this and that, that is what you will attract. You cannot attract what you don’t believe exists! Don’t conclude on humanity because of your experience with one man! All men are wicked, you are wrong! All ladies are stupid, you are wrong as well. You need to renew your mind by God’s word and to believe God for the best.

I will conclude this topic tomorrow. Good morning!