Thou shall not judge. Beatrice scolded Mary from afar with her eyes. How could she not know that taking money from the cashier’s table was stealing? And now everyone knew what had happened.
They were good friends at school and Beatrice couldn’t bear the shame and embarrassment her friend had brought on her. She vowed not to be friends with Mary again.
Weeks before, Beatrice’s mother had followed her to school to see the principal. Beatrice had four textbooks that didn’t belong to her. She had taken them from the bags of her classmates without them noticing.
The principal had scolded her and asked her to return the books and meted out some punishment to her.
All through this, Mary never disowned her or felt embarrassed or ashamed as Beatrice felt now. How come Beatrice suddenly thinks she is better than Mary and labels her a sinner?
Here is what the bible says about sinners.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
Romans 3:23
The verse tells us that we were once sinners and not fit to receive God’s love but for Jesus who died that we might experience the glory of God in our lives.
No one can say that he or she has never sinned. Only God can not sin. Once we were sinners and now God has redeemed us from the consequences of sin through Jesus.
With this verse, understand that we can only continue to ask for forgiveness for our sins and receive help to not sin consciously.
And we are not to also judge others as sinners. Do not be like Beatrice, be like God, and don’t judge.
May the Lord give you the grace to not judge anyone. Amen
Prayer: Lord, help me not to judge anyone, most especially my friends. Help me to love them.
Action point: Before you judge anyone, ask yourself if you have ever done anything like they did. Would you like to be judged?
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4. Two people who are sentimental
When two people who are sentimental get married, their lives will be devoid of principles that are meant to keep them focused and energetic in their marriage and home.
Two sentimental people will always judge a situation from a sentimental point of view rather than principles. In no time, they can ruin themselves because you cannot go very far living and swimming in the ocean of sentiments.
They would not be able to achieve much because they would have excuses for their mediocre lifestyles.
5. Two people who are often uncontrollably angry
Two angry people in a relationship and marriage cannot go far. See the scriptures:
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Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV)
The scripture here advises that you should not get involved with somebody that has anger problems and who refuses to work at it.
An angry man can take a knife or gun one day and end it all. An angry wife can ruin things in seconds.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious–– don’t get infected (Proverbs 22:24-25 Message)
6. Two people who are deceptive
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under the delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other.
They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out.
Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
(Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth it to waste time on what would not work.
We started on the topic of keeping love alive in our marriages in yesterday’s devotional. Let’s delve in the remaining things we need to keep love alive.
2. Don’t Compare
The grass always seem greener at the other side. Never fall for the comparison trap.
Don’t compare other couples or marriages with your own.
Yes, you can learn from them but never compare.
The truth is you never know that other husband or wife.
Every good marriage you admire sacrificed on their path to get to where they are now.
So rather than compare and blame your spouse for not being like husband A, work on your own marriage, pay your own price and make your own sacrifices.
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3. Don’t withdraw
The withdrawal syndrome is one thing that destroys a marriage fast.
It’s a temporary shield you build around yourself to avoid confronting and dealing with issues.
Don’t withdraw into work, yourself, your passion, activity, church project, children, porn, friends, outings or keeping late nights.
When you hide in withdrawal, you have simply created a vacuum for the devil to fill in your home.
You need to understand each other’s temperament and know how to lovingly respect each other’s differences.
Extroverts and introverts are very different and handle issues differently.
Give each other space. Allow your spouse grow without nagging them.
Be patient with your demands. Don’t expect your wife to change over night. Let the fruit of the spirit grow and manifest in your life.
Allow your marriage to grow. Let it blossom.
If you are presently experiencing a not too pleasant moment in your marriage, let grace flow towards you now, releasing peace, strength and courage to you.
I pray for you, may God’s love and a fresh love for your spouse be shed abroad in your heart now in Jesus name.
My children will flourish. A well nurtured garden is always pleasant to look at or to relax in, but no one will desire to stay in an untidy garden.
A garden is not left all by itself to be well nurtured, it takes a conscious effort.
May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace;
Psalms 144:12 (ESV)
Likewise for our children, we must work towards nurturing them by teaching them the word of God, praying for them and believe in God to become what he has created them to be.
We should always pray that our children will be strong and straight and pointed toward heaven.
Not dwarfed by bad habits or foolish choices, not choked out by the weeds of the world, but they will be of visible character who stand alone, strong enough to withstand the storms of life.
Also, that God will grant them visible strength, godly character, and the beauty of full development.
Prayer: My children will flourish in Jesus name. Amen
Action point: Pray for your children
Declaration: My children are blessed to flourish at an early age so that they bring forth the good fruit of godly character.
As singles and married couples, you are to deliberately work things out in your relationship or marriage and with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here is what the scripture says:
…work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. (Philippians 2:12b KJV)
In courtship, you are to work things out. Courtship does not lead to marriage automatically, you are to work things out in your disposition, attitude, and reactions.
Now there are some couple combinations that are sure to crack along the way. When you find yourself in these spots, you need to seek help prayerfully and with a lot of wisdom to address the lurking issues. Here are those combinations:
1. Two people who are unbelievers
Two people who are unbelievers may love themselves, may be committed to each other, but when the storms of life come, they will fight their battles alone and you know, some of those battles can be very fierce.
They will not have God’s support since they don’t have a relationship with God. They will not have the benefit of sonship and it can be very intense! They need to connect with God!
2. Two people who are believers but refuse to grow
The second group of couples are those who may be believers but whose minds are not renewed. The only thing is that they already have a relationship with God, but apart from that, they are still carnal.
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They still do their stuff like unbelievers would do. They still want to have fun in forbidden areas and they still want to explore the perverse, which would often come with dire consequences.
My advice for couples in this group is that they seek help as soon as possible.
3. Two people where one is born again and the other is not
Here is another scenario that doesn’t always play out well, except with a lot of patience, prayers, and perseverance. I always advise singles, don’t think of getting married to someone who doesn’t have a relationship with God.
It would always be filled with challenges that you might have to fight alone because you are not agreed on your choice of weapons.
It can be frustrating while one is praying, the other is clubbing.
You want to pray, but he or she thinks you are just being fanatical. That can be very disconcerting, to say the least.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is amazing.
There is a love wave, love current and all the love vibes around them. They set out professing their eternal love for each other.
They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.
The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the love zone?
Really, no husband or wife starts out over night from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive and insensitive.
There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their love affair.
The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine.
Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.
Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.
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1 Don’t blame
‘It’s his fault’ ‘She very disrespectful’ ‘He’s not kind and loving’ She’s lazy and overly sensitive’ ‘He’s always hurting’
Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter and full of regret and revengeful.
When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives.
You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.
Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.
Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.
I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly.
Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy is reciprocal in marriage.
There is a way God expects us to give. Joyful giving is another wonderful way of giving. It comes from your heart. Especially when you see the amount of happiness you put on the faces of others.
2 Cor 9:7(ESV) Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
The bible tells us to give with joy at all times. Not with grumbling or anger. But with intense joy. That is the way God expects us to give.
God gives us with joy. He created the earth with joy in His heart. The bible tells us that while creating the earth, He kept seeing the things he was creating as good.
He kept creating out of the joy in his heart from seeing the wonderful things He was creating.
Be like God today. Give with joy. That is the way God expects us to give.
As you bless others with joy, God will equally bless you too with joy.
First of all, there is a difference between one’s love language being “gifts” and when one is just being covetous or greedy.
If your fiancé/fiancée/spouse’s love language is gifts, what it means is that until you start appreciating him or her with gifts in a consistent manner, he or she will not feel loved.
How do you know if someone is not just being greedy?
1. Do or Die?
He will not always demand gifts in a do-or-die manner.
2. Love Gives
When you are in a relationship, and no gifts are forthcoming, there may be an issue there because love gives.
What if he or she has no money or has no job? As I said, a gift is a gift and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Writing her a poem is a gift!
Buying him one tiny little chocolate is a gift! What is important is not the gift itself, it is the gesture that brings assurance of being loved and cared for.
When you are able to give gifts in the midst of not too much provision, you will also be able to do so when you eventually have more income.
Your giving spirit is more of an attitude than spending power.
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3. Love is patient
He will not back out just because gifts are not forthcoming. She will not break the relationship because you are not financially buoyant.
4. He will not just be a receiver
He will not just be demanding while he folds his arms and never gives back. Love gives.
5. Giving Back
He will give away gifts too because that is the language he understands and that is what he craves. She would want to give back gifts as well.
6. Gift is not Payment
When a lady gives out her body for money, that is not about love language because what she gets is no longer ‘gifts’ it has become an illegal payment for services rendered and that is not God’s order.
7. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone. Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Gifts are one of the love languages as postulated by Gary Chapman.
Below are a few of my thoughts concerning this topic.
1. Don’t Manipulate Your Spouse Into Gifts Buying
As married couples, the idea is not to disconnect or quarrel with your spouse if he or she is not speaking your language.
You can lovingly discuss with your spouse what makes you happy. You can also reach out and buy him or her gifts and then your spouse does the same in return.
2. Intertwined
As married couples, acts of service and gifts are intertwined. This is because you can give your time, encouragement, empathy, show your love to her in the kitchen and give her some of your time, watch a football match with him when you will rather be having a nap.
But there are people who associate gifts as a love language to have a lot of money.
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3. Eat your cake and have it?
Some single ladies have different guys for different purposes. Some to buy them phones and tabs, some to pay their rent, some to load their phones, some to buy them air tickets, some to load them with cash… well, this is not about love language, it is more of trying to eat your cake and have it.
If this idea and way of living is brought into the marriage, there will be a lot of issues.
It is more of greed and covetousness. It is more of being caught in the web of the deceitfulness of riches. It is not consistent with God’s principles and this will rather slow you down in your journey to a good marriage.
4. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone.
Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
Learning the principle of giving. Examine this: Sade tossed the bag of chips to Titi. The bag hit the sharp edge of the table and its contents spilled over the dirty floor. The whole class burst into laughter at this and Titi ran out of the class with tears streaming down her face.
‘I wanted to give her the chips since she asked for it.’ Sade said, laughing with the others. ‘Now she made me waste my chips.’
‘Then why did you throw it? You could have just given it to her.’ Anne scolded Sade.
‘She should have caught it. it’s just a bag of chips.’ Said Sade.
‘How would you feel if someone did the same to you?’ Asked Anne.
Yes, how would you feel if someone wanted to give you something and did so in the wrong way? Like Sade did to Titi.
When you want to give someone something or do them a favour, do so the way you would want to be done for or to you.
The bible tells us that how we give is how we will receive; “Good measure pressed down and running over”
Remember, God gave us life and He never treats us bad just because He is our Maker. He expects us to give in a way that will please Him. A way that we will expect to be given too.
So, remember to give the way you would want to be given. I trust that you have learntLearning the principle of giving
Prayer: Dear Father, forgive me for the times I have given the wrong way. Help me to remember to always give the way I would want to be given too, in Jesus name. Amen.
Action point: Give just the way you would want to be given.
Declaration: I am not selfish. I give the way I would love to receive.
Yesterday, we spoke extensively on the issue of soul ties. I explained how they are formed.
This morning, I will show you practical ways to break free from soul ties and mistakes of the past.
As singles, you should learn to put your body under. Your body ought not to dictate to you. Rather, you are to allow your spirit to gain ascendancy over your body! It is very possible to stay off a sinful lifestyle because the scripture is emphatic when it said, “Sin shall not have dominion over you.”
How do you break soul ties from past sexual mistakes?
1. Ask God to forgive you of the mistake
2. Repent and make up your mind not to do it again.
3. Fast and pray and ask God to severe every bonding and soul ties
4. Disconnect from such a person. Stop all the calls, chats, and pings.
5. Psalm 23 says, “He restoreth my soul!” Ask God to restore your soul
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6. Stop living in sin. Jesus told that woman, “Go and sin no more!”
7. Patiently wait for the salvation of God in your relationship. Don’t be hasty. Cooperate with God’s plan.
8. Believe that God has a plan for you and that the plan will become a reality.
9. Keep reading and studying God’s word. Your mind will be renewed over time. For example, if you can follow this devotional consistently, your mind will be renewed in this area and you will get to know a lot of things and be prepared for marriage. A lot of people have testified to that.
I pray for you this morning that God will grant you more understanding.
Right now, I exercise my authority as God’s servant, I break every form of soul ties that may exist in Jesus name.
I destroy every plan of hell over your destiny, I declare you free from consequences of past mistakes and I ask in the name of Jesus and by the power of the Holy Spirit, that your soul be restored now to God’s desire for you as an individual and in your relationship in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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This is a woman at the top echelon of her career, so she can often become prideful if care is not taken.
The husband should be secure enough to let his wife go for the best and ultimate in her career.
There are husbands who can be so threatened with the progress of their wives. This is a wrong heart. Let her be, and let her go for the best.
The keyword here is honor. As long as the wife does not get proud.
2. The Stubborn Wife Who Will Not Budge
Some wives can be stubborn o! From counseling experiences, I have seen wives that would stand on their opinion even when you show them the scriptures. There are stubborn men as well o!
How do you know a stubborn wife?
Stubborn wives don’t talk much, they just won’t budge. They will just be looking at you like Lucozade, but what they will do is what they will do.
This is not good as well. It is not beneficial for the prayer life of the couple.
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3. The Manipulative Wife Who Is Dextrous
The manipulative wife has several weapons in her arsenal including crying, throwing tantrums, withdrawing, talking endlessly, refusing sex, nagging, until she gets what she wants.
She always wants the man at her beck and call.
This may go on for a while especially if the husband is on the calm side, but one day, he would definitely react.
4. The Insistent Wife Who Is Not Meek
The insistent wife is hard, difficult, and doesn’t listen to anything apart from what she knows or wants. Her major weapon is anger.
She always wants to be told what she wants to hear and she picks up a quarrel with anybody that dares go against what she feels.
Her husband lives in perpetual fear of what could happen next.
This is a wrong attitude that could be detrimental to the marriage. The problem is that what she knows is limited and what she wants can often be a wrong desire.
We are all work in progress and nobody knows it all. Meekness or being teachable is a great virtue in marriage.
Husband and wife should strive to live considerably with one another. Put yourselves in one another’s shoes. This is where maturity is.
May God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good woman to my husband.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, take away from me every iota of pride.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:11 [NLT]Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What kind of wife are you? Make amends where necessary
Who is your friend? That’s a question you must always ask and answer genuinely from time to time. The truth is that your friends can make or mar you.
Now, as a born-again Christian, there are things you shouldn’t attempt to do or that shouldn’t cross your mind.
When you suddenly find that those things are constantly popping up in your mind, you’re getting attracted to them and can’t seem to know why check yourself.
One way to constantly put yourself in check is by asking questions.
Ask about the type of music your so-called friend listens to. Ask about their view on dressing. What kind of movies do they see? What about their parents? Are they involved in their life?
Most times, when you change your friends, a change occurs in your words, thoughts, and actions. This is because you are exposed to new stimuli and have to adjust to accommodate them.
Asking such questions helps you to understand why you are attracted or feeling what you’re feeling.
You can also speak to your parents or pastor about it.
A quick solution is to immediately leave those friendships that make sinful acts attractive to you.
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
Prayer: Lord, help me not to be attracted to sinful deeds, words, and thoughts. I put my mind under your care, purify my words, thoughts, and actions daily. Help me steer clear of people who will corrupt me in any way.
Action plan: Again, assess your friendships. Which new friendship has got you acting differently from how you were before? What negative things have you started thinking of or doing? What or who caused it? Talk to your parents about it and end that friendship.
Declaration (children): I will not team up with bad friends. I will not bring sorrow to my parents. I receive grace to break all wrong associations.
Sade and Tony have been engaged for only three months. But in the short time they were together, they could not remember as many times as they have had premarital sex. They practically used it to greet each other anytime they get to see.
But when they quarreled after three months, they parted their ways and went differently.
Somehow, they kept thinking of each other. They had moved on differently and each of them even have new relationships but they kept on thinking of each other.
What happened to them?
The reality is that they have what is called “soul tie!”
This is what sex does! How does this happen?
In marriage, sex brings a bonding between the couple, because that is one of the purposes of sex. It cements the couple and joins them together at the highest possible level. Their souls become knitted together. They become one. They are glued together, and God says nobody should put them asunder.
But outside marriage, there is also a bonding. It is just that it is another kind of bonding. It is an illegal bonding that gives access to the operation of demonic entities in one’s life. It is called soul ties.
This is what the scripture is talking about here:
“Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.”
(1Co 6:15-16, KJV)
Can you see that?
In sex before marriage, the two people also illegally become one body! They are not married, but there is an illegal bonding that gives access to legal operations of demonic activities because of disobedience.
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Message Translation puts it this way:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.””
(1Co 6:16, MSG)
So we see that this is spiritual. As a matter of fact, when you get involved in sex with someone, you are actually having sex with everybody that person has had sex with! It is not uncommon to see a person suddenly stealing after being intimate with someone that steals!
There is nothing like casual sex. Nothing is casual about it, it is spiritual. There is nothing like one night stand. One night stand can lead to an eternity of woes and damnation.
There is nothing like a quickie outside marriage. One quickie and one’s destiny can be quickly set back by five years or more! This is just the reality!
You see, you need to understand that as a child of God, the devil is trying to trip you. And a lot of people have been tripped. Yes, you can ask for forgiveness, and God will forgive you and cleanse you but when you keep getting careless and you make this a habitual lifestyle, then you are cooperating with the devil for your destruction. It is as truthful as that.
So, what do you do?
I will conclude tomorrow. Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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We started this topic a few on the things that the husband will want his wife to do for him days back. We looked at
1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them.
Today we will look at
2. Be ready to offer him help.
I know some women could be saying, I need help also let him help himself, is he a baby?
And yes, it could be overwhelming. When you work at a job, care for the house, the children, go to the market, do the laundry sometimes, there seems to be no time to take care of yourself, let alone help him out.
I always tell people, God is asking you to be everything. He is asking to be all that is needed par time with the strength He supplies.
This help could be as simple as being a good listener, who offered support.
There is capacity inside every woman to function as a helper. This is an unselfish role. You must be willing to the embassy this role and put on the garment of a helper.
Remember: you want to be a wife that will be celebrated, whose rewards will be obvious to all.
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3. Pray for you husband
Some people believe that when you pray you are being fanatical. Well, try functioning without oxygen and see how far you can go. It’s almost impossible.
You pray not only because you have a problem. Develop a relationship with the Father. In that case you learn to talk with Him about everything, especially about your husband.
Pray for his protection in this evil world. Pray for his job. You can make use a daily praying guide.
Remember, when you are praying for your husband, you are praying for yourself.
4. Submission is a vital part of the deal
The word submission have been abused and it’s intention has been reduced to merely that of the lord and servant.
Submission and love go hand in hand. A wife that is loved, will definitely be submitted.
The role of a woman viz a viz that of a man requires her to be submissive.
She is not inferior to her husband, but positionally, she occupies the second position.
For any woman or wife to make the home and marriage worthwhile, she has to be submissive to her own husband.
5. Respect him.
There is no husband who does not like being respected. If you think respect is no big deal to your husband, wait till someone else gives him respect and see what happens.
If your husband is not making a big deal of you respecting him, wait till a few more years. It will be as if your husband has changed from who he was. So it’s better to begin now, practicing respecting him.
Respect can be seen in almost everything. From how you prepare his food, to the way it is served, how you talk to him and talk about him in private and public, all reveal the way you value and respect him.
I believe if we can do these things, we will be loved, cherished and valued more by our husband.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit to know how to meet my husband’s needs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father Lord, teach me to be patient enough to listen to your guidance
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 31:10-11 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start practicing these things
Are you wondering how to show love to your parents? Does home feels like wildfire is ravaging through it? You are always at loggerheads with your parents and the house can’t seem to contain all of you.
Quick questions for you;
1. How many of these bushfires are you causing?
2. How many rules did you break?
3. What could be happening now if you had just listened and obeyed their instructions?
It takes two to tango and a coin definitely has two sides. Don’t totally blame them for the heat in the house. You should work at learning how to show love to your parents.
Now, your parents couldn’t have decided to make the house uncomfortable for you. You think they are, because you are not having your way, you want them to be fine with your behavior and just keep quiet.
Check yourself very well and see where you did wrong. Find your faults, make amends, and see if the temperature won’t go down at home.
See if the house won’t be large enough for everyone, Including you.
“my child, you must follow and treasure my teachings and instructions.”
Prov. 2:1
Be the peace you want to see at home. Yes, be at peace; learn how to show love to your parents.
Finally, remember God’s command about obeying your parents and the benefits of doing so. Take it to heart and practice it.
“Do not deceive yourselves by just listening to his word; instead, put it into practice.”
James 1:22 GNT
God bless you richly as you honor your parents. Amen.
Prayer: Father, help me to scrutinize my ways and make changes in all the areas I need to.
Action point: Scrutinize your words, actions, thoughts today, and see where your faults lie. When you find them, speak about them to your parents and ask for their help.
Declaration: My children are well behaved. They do not make the home uncomfortable for anyone. They do not set the home on fire by their actions and inactions.
What is that one quality you should watch for in a prospective lover or spouse?
There are many qualities, and there are many attraction points, but one thing you should take into cognizance is what I want to talk about this morning.
This quality can preserve a couple and make their marriage last longer. I am talking about the quality of meekness.
What is meekness?
Meekness simply means being submissive, being teachable. Meekness is not weakness, rather it is strength under control
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary describes meekness as having or showing a quiet and gentle nature; not wanting to fight or argue with other people.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures:
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Pe 3:3-4 (KJV)
The scriptures advise that aside from the pulchritude, which is evident in adorning of the hair, use of jewelry, and nice wears, let there be an adorning of the heart as well, that is an ornament of MEEK and quiet spirit.
You see, we all come into relationships with baggage, baggage from the past, issues from past emotional upheavals, tensions arising from strained relationships in the past, highly opinionated postures emanating from parental upbringing, warped ideas resulting from emotional, verbal, sexual, and physical abuses, and the list goes on.
The only way we can survive in a relationship or marriage with all the undesirable and irritating baggage is to be MEEK!
To be teachable and submissive. That is the only way to make it in relationship and marriage
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A hard posture, statue-like stance in relationships will always almost destroy any courtship. Flexibility and willingness to adjust and learn new things will go a long way to add spice and fun to your relationship or marriage.
Even as a child of God, your success is predicated on continual renewal of mind, with the word of God. The word of God is the key to learning meekness. There is a change and a transformation that come into your life as you behold the word of God.
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
2Co 3:18 (KJV)
If you are already in a relationship, that is one way to start changing. You cannot change your lover. If you attempt it, you will be frustrated. You are not equipped to change anybody. But with the word of God and its study, anybody can make a change in his or her life.
God loves those who are meek and teachable!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am meek and teachable for my lover
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, give me a teachable heart.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:4 (KJV) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Marriage wine can often dry up, turn sour or simply lose taste. Relationships can lose the spark, the fun, and the glee! Love can wane, can grow old, and can fast dissipate. Feelings are fickle, never with a forever status.
What do you do when love seems to wane, when the tummy butterflies have all rested their wings, love birds have no more songs when his or her words evoke no more feelings, and the blushing, the dimples, and the smiles have all gone?
What do you do at such times? This is the subject of our discourse this morning.
Everything used to be intense, but recently, you are no longer excited. You are married, and the marriage bed has gone cold.
The bedroom used to be a trip but right now it is a complete bore. You could almost be reading a novel while you are at it, and yet the Bible unequivocally advises that
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Pro 5:19 (KJV)
What happened?
Here are a few things that could steal the wine off the marriage shelf, that could sap out and zap off every fun in the union.
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1. When you allow pressures to stifle the pleasure There will always be pressures, especially pressures from work. Wise husbands and wives learn to leave office pressures at the office and not bring them home.
Decide to enjoy your marriage through vibrant communication and unhindered flow irrespective of the pressures that be.
2. When you allow the hustles and bustles of life to steal your rest in God Whether you like it or not, there will always be issues to deal with. You must have a commitment to each other in marriage to put each other first place after God.
3. When you refuse to spend quality time together Love will wane when you don’t spend time with each other. Nothing will ever replace quality time spent together enriched with destiny discussions and plans for the future.
Those times of fellowship can never be replaced with any other thing. With compromise, quality time will become dangerous time, bringing with it, damnation and guilt.
4. When you refuse to give yourself self development and learn how to please each other Bringing new wine into a relationship or marriage can be learnt. Both parties must give attention to learning. Learn how to minimize your weaknesses and maximize your strength
5. When you stop praying and the devil starts preying When the wine finished at the wedding at Cana in Galilee, they had to enlist the help of Jesus.
There is no doubt that the supernatural is needed in keeping the bedroom fire hot and in bringing fresh wine into relationships and marriage.
Keep your relationship and marriage established on the foundation of prayers!
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The devil has no place in my home.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
The power of your words cannot be overemphasized. The destiny of any child can be shaped by the parents, long before the child is born.
Words declared over the baby go a long way to determine how the baby will turn out to be. That is why fathers are called upon to declare blessings over the child at the point of naming.
We see an example in the bible.
Luke 1:76 [KJV]And thou, child, shalt be called the prophet of the Highest: for thou shalt go before the face of the Lord to prepare his ways;
This was Zechariah praying for his child. He prophesied over his child. He spoke into the future of his child. He declared positive words into the life of his son. He declared God’s word over the baby. The power of your words over your children is great.
This that Zechariah did is what parents ought to do from time to time. From a tender age, learn to declare faith-filled words into the lives of your children.
It is not too late to start. Regardless of how old your children are, you can still speak into their future. Yes, speak! The power of your words over your kids is great.
You can decide how their tomorrow will eventually turn out with the words of your mouth.
Prayer: My children will make an impact in life, in Jesus name. Amen
Action point: Start declaring positive words over your children.
Declaration: My children will inherit the earth. They will rise higher and higher. They are not limited by anything. They are God lovers.
Writing letters is powerful. It is one of the most potent forces to stir, sustain and fuel love between two people. Interestingly, chatting, audio calls, and video calls have taken the place of letters, and yet none of those could do what a letter would have done.
E-mailing may be close to it, but there is nothing like that feeling of reading a letter from your lover in his or her handwriting.
Single or married, when last did you write a letter to your loved one?
Oh, Pastor, it’s old-fashioned Well, so is love! God wrote letters on stones for the children of Israel.
In the New Testament, God is still writing letters, but now He is writing His laws into our hearts directly!
Much of God’s love was communicated and expressed with love letters to us. The Bible is simply a book of letters to us.
Pauline’s epistles were letters.
Ye see how large a letter I have written unto you with mine own hand.
Gal 6:11 (KJV)
He kept on writing letters, and those letters are references all over the world today. His letters outlived him. Your letters are much more powerful than you.
It was said concerning Apostle Paul that
For his letters, say they, are weighty and powerful; but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech contemptible.
2Co 10:10 (KJV)
Did I write letters? I wrote volumes of them. Everything God told me, every dealings, every experience, the visions, and aspirations, were all succinctly communicated to my loved one while we were in courtship.
I wrote her I would preach. I wrote her we would preach together. I wrote her God told me I would teach about relationships as far back as 1997!
And that helped her significantly to cooperate with what God would do with my life. And those letters are still in our room today. Preserved on paper and on our hearts.
I have been writing KHC newsletters since 2007, and devotionals since 2010. Do you know that they are simply letters from me to you? Daily letters that have touched several lives across the globe. Daily letters that have saved many a relationship and marriage from the brink of an imminent crash.
If by reason of proximity, letter writing will be cumbersome, then do mails, and write the mails like letters.
Some of the most powerful blogs we have on earth today are simply letters, the communication of a deep-seated thought or an idea in someone’s heart.
So, why don’t pick your pen and do a letter to that loved one?
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And for those who have nobody writing any letters, I pray today, that God will cause your path to cross with that man or woman He has ordained for you in Jesus name.
Write a love poem. Write about how much you love him or her. Write about how much you value him or her.
Write on the picture you have in your heart about him or her that you’ve not been able to find words to communicate. Write about the qualities that endear him or her to you that you have never articulated before.
Write a letter and end that prolonged quarrel!
Write a letter today, and say something good from your heart. Appreciation that is not verbalized or documented dies eventually. And yet that appreciation can be the needed fuel for your loved one to keep going another mile!
May God grant you more understanding!
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to communicate rightly with my lover through letters
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write love letters to him/her
