Ten Decisions That Can Turn Your Relationship – Part 2

Ten Decisions That Can Turn Your Relationship – Part 2

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6. Decide to have quality relationships.

When God will send help, He will use men. Appreciate people and don’t bang or kick at doors, if you must close doors, close them gently.

You might still need to pass through the same doors some years down the line. So, don’t take the doors off the hinges or the hinges off the door!

7. Decide to be nice.

Be ready to offer help when you can. Learn to relax and smile. You are not the only one that has issues, so don’t stamp them on your forehead. Don’t walk with your shoulder down like all the problems of the world are on you.

Don’t get so depressed because you have no suitors to the point that your countenance is sending them away without knowing!

Joh 15:12 (KJV) This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.

8. Decide to stay where you are appreciated and not where you are just tolerated.

Everybody wants to be appreciated. Our dog, Shady, would refuse to eat when you scream at her. How much more, humans! Don’t let men trample on you and your esteem. Don’t sell your body for money. Maintain your dignity.

1Ti 4:12 (KJV) Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

9. Decide to be humble.

Remove every shoulder pad because God is just starting with you. The last miracle you got is the least God can do in your life. Stay humble. God resists and opposes the proud. He exalts the humble.

Thank God for every breakthrough and don’t let it get into your head. Don’t stop going to church because of a couple of millions in your account!

Jas 4:6 (KJV) But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.

10. Decide to be a giver.

Never ignore opportunities to give! Fulfill your vows. Don’t joke with your tithes. Be a kingdom investor and you will see more coming your way! It never fails.

Pro 11:24 (KJV) There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth;and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.

I chose to make quality decisions that will advance my life. 

Lord, help me to be disciplined with my decisions.

Galatians 5:16, NLT: “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.”

What decisions are you taking today? 

Joh 15

Ten  Decisions That Can Turn Your Relationship Around

Ten Decisions That Can Turn Your Relationship Around

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2Sa 8:15 ERV – David ruled over all Israel, and he made good and fair decisions for all of his people.

This morning, I want to write to you by the Spirit of God on a few things you can do that are guaranteed to turn your life around for good. Life is about decisions!

Think about yesterday and look back at the number of decisions you made alone yesterday.

The life you are living now is a consequence of the decisions of yester-years. The life you will live tomorrow is a springboard from the decisions you are making today.

Every MAN has M-A-N seasons. That is Morning, Afternoon, and Night!

The problem is that the consequences of bad decisions made in the morning of one’s life do not show until nighttime!

You are probably in the afternoon season of your life now. The mistake of the morning season does not fixate you into a permanent regret night-time.

You can change what your tomorrow will look like with strong decisions.

The challenge behind making decisions is that habits and comfort zones will be confronted, most times painfully. But it is the price you must pay to move forward.

If you want a different result in your life, you cannot continue to do things the way you have been doing them.

Here are the decisions to make. The list is not exhaustive, however.

1. Decide to have a relationship with God.

You cannot go far without this. Your life could be ended with a gentle breeze like when you blow off a candle-light, and that would be it. Fear Him who created you and have kept you alive! Be grateful for the gift of life by giving your life back to Him!

Mat 10:28 (MSG) “Don’t be bluffed into silence by the threats of bullies. There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life—body and soul—in his hands.

2. Decide to fellowship with God daily.

You need that daily renewal and rejuvenation or you will soon be wearied. Weariness at its peak can bring suicidal feelings. Be wise!

Isa 40:31 (MSG) But those who wait upon GOD get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind.

3. Always seek the help of the Holy Spirit.

As a believer, you have been configured to succeed only with His help. Without Him, you will not have dominion over sin.

Gal 5:16 (KJV) This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

4. Decide to be accountable.

Don’t live your life recklessly. Deliberately get a mentor or pastor over your life. That is how you are preserved. Get somebody over your life that you can call on the phone anytime for wisdom! Stay in touch with that person. Give to him. Pray for him. That is how to be a good protégée.

1Ti 4:14 (TPT) Don’t minimize the powerful gift that operates in your life, for it was imparted to you by the laying on of hands of the elders and was activated through the prophecy they spoke over you.

5. Decide to stay off iniquity.

Don’t cut yourself short and jeopardize your destiny because of exuberance. Zip up! Stay away from all sexual sins. Be a man, not a boy! Ladies, preserve your virtue! Stay faithful to your spouse. Don’t trifle with pre-marital sex!

2Ti 2:19 (KJV) Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.

I will stop here and continue tomorrow.

I chose to make quality decisions that will advance my life. 

Lord, help me to be disciplined with my decisions.

Galatians 5:16, NLT: “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.”

Read your bible 

Gal 5

Words Can Make or Mar Your Love Affair

Words Can Make or Mar Your Love Affair

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Pro 13:2-3 KJV
(2) A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence.
(3) He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.

I want to write about something important this morning. It is a principle of the scripture and that which guarantees us daily victory in our daily work, in our relationship, marriage, and life generally.

It is what you say with your mouth. What you say with your mouth is very important because it will literarily give direction to your life! The words you say with your mouth are so powerful that they will overwhelm your life and seek to control the events of your life and love affair.

I believe it is for this reason that Jesus Christ said:

Joh 6:63 KJV
It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.

When you were born, you needed to make a sound. That would be the sign of life. If a baby refuses to make sounds, he gets some spankings. As the baby grows into a toddler, everybody expects the baby to start talking.

Words are formed eventually and that becomes a sign of growth. You needed to ask a lady out and she needed to respond with words before marriage can happen. Nobody proposes or reply a proposal with silence.

On the wedding day, vows of words are exchanged and those words are terms of the marital covenant. In a marital affair, constant, loving words must go on or the marriage will die. That is how important words could be.

To give your life to Jesus, some words must be confessed and that would be it! In the Spirit realm, words are so important and the devil knows this. That is why he seeks to feed you with negative thoughts so that you can verbalize them. The moment you verbalize that negativity, it becomes your experience. That will not be your portion in Jesus name.

So the question this morning is “what are you saying?”

The scripture above says when you keep your mouth, you keep your life. Watch what you say!

Don’t make statements like:

“I don’t even understand my life.” (You will never understand it when you keep saying that)

“I am very confused” (You just invited the spirit behind confusion to have legal entry into your soul)

“I think there is a curse working against me” (You just empowered the devil to operate)

Never say the wrong words. Never use wrong words on your fiancée or your spouse!

Don’t say words like, “you are very stupid!”

Don’t say to your wife that she is slow.

Don’t call your husband an irresponsible man.

Potential Wife, don’t cut your potential husband into two with your mouth. There is a difference between a wife and a knife!

Husbands-to-be, don’t hurt and wound your wife-to-be with insensitive words, words mean a lot to them.

There are parents who call their children, “coconut head!”

How will the child be brilliant with that prophecy when you know the only thing inside a coconut is water? Or don’t you know that as parents, whatever you call your children is like a prophecy into their future?

Don’t say to your wife, “Fat lazy woman, you were once slim and beautiful when I found you, but now, you are….” Guess who turned her that way? Rather than say that, go and enroll her in a gym!

Don’t say to your husband, “It is the greatest error of my life marrying you,” I regret ever knowing you!” Rather than say that, pray for him, because you are one!

As singles, if you are enduring verbal abuse daily, don’t close your eyes and walk like a zombie into that relationship. Seek help, because he might not change, in fact, it will often get worse after marriage because marriage doesn’t change anybody.

If the lady you want to marry is always shutting you down for whatever reason, it is defective, seek help and seek counseling!

Words are very important! Don’t tell me somebody loves you when he or she tears you apart with words that demotivate and weaken you daily!

I am speaking the right words to help my love affair

Pray that God will give you the wisdom to speak rightly always.

Pro 10:19 MSG
The more talk, the less truth; the wise measure their words.

Analyze your love affair and check if you have been speaking the right words

Prov 10

I have Doubts, Should I Still Go Ahead?

I have Doubts, Should I Still Go Ahead?

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Sade is deeply in love with Andy. They both looked forward to marriage. But deep down in her mind, there are doubts. She didn’t know what to do with the doubts.

George and Sandy are seeing each other. For him, Sandy is beautiful, but this nagging feeling about something not being right was always there.

Betty and Buddy are married. They had a little boy and everybody thought their marriage is a beautiful one, but they are beginning to question whether they are meant for each other.

This morning, I will like to address the issue of doubts in relationships. What do you do with these doubts?

When do doubts occur in a relationship or marriage? These are some instances.

1 When a relationship is not of God and God is trying to get your attention.

2 When a relationship is of God, but the devil wants to confuse you so as to miss God’s will.

3 When your expectation for marriage are unrealistic and your expectations are not being met.

4 When you get involved in sexual sins, and then confusion enters the soul because God’s order has been violated. The devil will take advantage of the situation and bring confusion unless you quickly ask God for forgiveness and then repent genuinely.

5 When your perspective to life and marriage is warped, you will have doubts about a relationship or marriage, even when it is in God’s plan.

6 When you begin a relationship or go into a marriage without duly asking for God’s direction.

7 When all you did before a relationship or marriage is seeking some prophet or guidance without a personal inner conviction.

8 When you begin a relationship or go into a marriage as escapism from what you have just been through.

9 When all authority figures in your life are against your relationships and marriage. Along the way, doubts will arise.

10 When serious challenges arise along the way, and you cannot handle them properly, you will begin to doubt.

The next question is can doubt be completely eliminated?
The answer is a big NO! You see, you are still in the days of your flesh, and doubts will still attempt to come into your heart, but when you have heard God, you will easily dispel the doubt!

Remember Jesus Christ? Doubts began to come at the garden of Gethsemane when the agony of what was ahead overwhelmed him.

The next question is what do I do to guard against doubts?

1 Never take a step until you are sure it is God’s plan.

That way, when doubts arise, you will easily identify the source and then you can deal with it. You will know that the doubt is coming to fight you out of God’s will and you will resist it.

But when you are not sure whether it was God or not in the first place, when doubts arise along the way, you are unsure of how to handle it, because inner conviction is absent.

2 Better be late than be wrong!

Don’t be hasty. Don’t fall in love senselessly.

3 Listen to all authority figures in your life, Pastors, Parents, Mentors et cetera.

While they are not supposed to decide for you, God can often speak through them to warn you about steps you are about to take. Do not despise or disregard their wisdom.

4 Learn to read and study God’s word regularly.

It brings you the wisdom that stabilizes your soul.

The next question is what if I am already in doubt?

1. Go back to God to confirm what He said in the first place.

There is nothing wrong with hearing God again.

God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this (Psalms 62:11 KJV)

2. Take time to stay in God’s presence and you will hear Him again.

Sometimes you might have to fast to get your mind quiet.

3. Stay away from every sin.

Ask God to forgive you if you are hooked up with masturbation, pornography, pre-marital sex, or some other sexual perversion.

4. If you are married and doubt is arising, the thing to do is not to give up and start seeking a divorce.

You are already one and the scripture does not advocate divorce as the first option unless in extreme cases where your life is being threatened. So, go back to God and pray, for there is nothing impossible with Him.

5. Learn to pray together.

When you don’t pray, unnecessary issues will arise often and destabilize you.

The last question is how can I be sure a decision is of God?

When a decision you are about to take or have taken is of God, you will have peace. It is an unexplainable peace that doesn’t seem to line up with physical reality sometimes, but the peace will be there that tells you all is well. When this peace is absent, never go ahead with that decision.

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7 KJV)

I pray for you this morning that God will keep your hearts indeed by His peace!

I will not miss it.

Lord, surround me with your peace.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Phil 4:7 ESV)

Pray through before making that decision

Phil 4