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I have often been asked, “How do you know a wrong person for you in a relationship?” And the answer is very simple, “Through his words!”

“But Pastor, what about if he or she doesn’t talk?”

You see, the reality is that he or she cannot hide for long.

His words are a mirror of his heart. If you can listen very well, to what is being said, and listen to what is not said, you will always be able to discern a man’s heart.

Over the years, I have had to attend to young ladies who unwittingly got messed up by married men. It would have been too late by the time they discover what is happening and by that time they are caught in an emotional web.

These married men are skillful, usually older and experienced at preying on young ladies. The sad thing is that sometimes, these ladies are believers, naive, unsuspecting and too trusting to discern between the lines.

Now, words are powerful, and you can actually know the intent of a person’s heart by his words.

The words he or she speaks are reflections of what is intrinsic in the heart. When a married man wants to sleep with you, he comes indirectly with several statements. When you hear these statements, you should run for your life. I mean, run for your life.

Everywhere the scripture proffers a solution to sexual pressures, it asks you to speak to your legs!

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” (1Co 6:18, KJV)

Flee fornication! It means to run away!

You remember Joseph ran away? And he became a prime minister. Samson refused to run, and he destiny was cut short!

You also remember Samson didn’t die immediately, his eyes were first taken out! It typifies that he could no longer read the word of life. That is what the devil does to you when you start compromising, he takes your eyes out, you lose interest in reading the Bible, because he knows that is the only thing that can save you or deliver you!

Okay, let’s quickly run through seven statements that should make you run for your dear life when you hear a married man say them. Never ever take those statements as compliments. They are the expressions of a lust-filled heart designed to slow you down and make you sin against your God.

1. If I have met you before I married my wife, I would have married you

Why should a married man say this? When you hear him say this, it is not time to feel cool and start blushing. It is a statement that betrays his covenant relationship with his wife and it is inappropriate. Stay away from such a man. If you don’t, he would put more pressure and might eventually sleep with you.

Also, beware when a married woman says to you as a single guy that had she met you before meeting her husband, she would have married you.

2. I wish you can have a baby for me. You are so beautiful

You are not a baby factory or a baby producer. You are meant for your husband. Never take this as a compliment. Why would a man be wishing this when he is already married? If you feel special because of that statement, and you get pregnant, the next shocking suggestion from him would be abortion.

3. Can I take you out? I love your company

Don’t cooperate with this antic. A married man doesn’t take you out repeatedly unless there is an ulterior motive. After series of being taken out, your defence will be down.

4. My wife doesn’t give me enough attention

It is a lie from the pit of hell. First, you have already made the first mistake by allowing him to make such statements. Nobody made you an attention giver, so the man should go back to his wife at home. It is a just a ploy to play on your imagination and make you feel cool.

5. You make me feel young again

When you are not a medicine or some tranquilizer! It is a lie, he is not actually feeling young, he is feeling lust. As a child of God with a covenant perspective, you should run away from such men.

6. You are more intelligent than my wife

When a man makes this kind of statement, you should be scared of that man. He had more or less reduced his wife to a stupid entity all in the bid to fool another lady.

At the end of the day, if you cooperate with such men, who do you think is really unintelligent?

7. Where have you been all my life?

Lastly, they make statements like where have you been? Where have you been hiding all the while? Never fall for such statements. It is a deceit from the pit of hell.

The Bible advises that we should not be ignorant of the devices of the devil.

“Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” (2Co 2:11, KJV)

Understand that the marital covenant is so strong that God is committed to fighting whoever tries to break it.

I pray for you this morning, you will not fall into the snare of married men who are deceivers. God will protect you and shield you continually.

Stay away from such men and don’t slow your self down! God will grant you more understanding.

I am discerning. I am kept from married men who are deceivers. My relationship is blessed.

Lord, give me a discerning heart

“After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief—we’re not oblivious to his sly ways!” (2Co 2:11, MSG)

Pray in the Spirit

2 Kings 22-23


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