Marriage requires a lot of hard work and focus. You must be so focused that all your thoughts are filled with how to make your home a success through hard work and holding on because the storms of life are real.
And there arose a great storm of wind, and the waves beat into the ship, so that it was now full.
Mar 4:37 [KJV]
Woe to any marriage that does not have Christ in their marriage. Only Jesus is the calmer of every storm of life. When you have Him, the storms of life bow. He is the Prince of Peace and the only one qualified to say peace be still.
Usually, when storms come, their only aim apart from killing and destroying is to distract us.
And he was in the hinder part of the ship, asleep on a pillow: and they awake him, and say unto him, Master, carest thou not that we perish? And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
Mar 4:38-39 [KJV]
Storms distract us from our focus. A storm is anything contrary to the peaceful state of our marriage. A storm could come in form of a fight, strife, disagreement, sickness, pressures at work, pressure from the in-laws, unpaid bills, children, whatever affects our state of peace is a storm.
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Whenever there is a storm, Jesus is inactive. May Jesus not be inactive in our home!
You have to be together as a couple and avoid distractions together. Your husband and Jesus in your boat are your main focus. Every other thing or person is a distraction.
God has a race set for each of us. That race should be our focus. Whatever will not help us in achieving our goal in marriage is a distraction.
You have to learn to stay by each other. Be a pillar of strength to each other and support yourselves to achieve your divine destiny.
Stand by your husband with your finances. Stand by your husband emotionally, don’t let him be vulnerable. Stand by him with encouraging words. Stand by him with your prayers. Stand by him by being obedient and in agreement or being agreeable with him.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not distracted. I am focused
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to focus on Jesus and not see the storms
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mar 4:39 [KJV] And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Keep Jesus at the center of your focus in your marriage
A person is said to be committed when he or she is pledged or bound to a certain course or policy, when he or she is devoted to a task or purpose, exclusively allocated to or intended for a particular purpose.
So a person is committed to his/her spouse when he/she is bound or pledged to the course of the marriage covenant.
First, being committed to your spouse is a thing of the heart. You must have it settled in your heart that you have the best spouse given to you by God.
You may have to work hard at achieving being the best. Being committed to your marriage vows is doing everything possible to keep the bond of peace.
There will always be differences but the ability to handle our differences in a mature way is love.
A good understanding of what is expected of you as a married couple is very important. You must have a personal vision for your marriage.
It shows you are 100% committed to your spouse when you give him/her your undivided support. Some are giving their support but it is not full support.
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Some are committed and in the marriage as long as their feathers are not rough and everything is fine.
Job’s wife was not totally committed. Our commitment is revealed more during the hard times. I believe that is why the marriage vows says ‘ ….for better for worse, for richer for poorer’ that is 100% commitment.
Ruth is a good example of a wife that is committed. Her commitment was even unto death and way after death.
Ask yourself are you like Ruth or Jobs wife?
In these days when husbands and wives commitment to each other are just on border line. We ask God to give us Christian homes and make us Christ like husbands and wives, whose commitment is 100%
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am committed to my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be committed to my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
This is an important topic because every one of us gets angry. Anger is probably the most common vice in every marriage. Every couple, white or black, colored or Asian gets angry at least once in a day.
Whether we get angry or not is not the point here, how we handle our anger is. Some couples have outbursts of anger while others suppress theirs.
Neither one of them is good. The explosive anger is bad because things may have been destroyed sometimes beyond repairs. It is like the effect of a raging fire. It has no time to wait and discern.
The quiet kind of anger, that is suppressed usually comes with withdrawal. It is like rain that eventually causes floods.
It is our responsibility to master it.
Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
God recognizes the fact that being angry is not a sin in itself. But anger has to be controlled not to cross the line of sin.
God gave us permission to get angry but it must be over by end of day. In other words, ‘Do not stay angry’.
As a couple, you will experience your spouse getting angry at most times, because he or she is human, but you have to learn how to forgive him/her quickly.
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It crosses into the devil’s zone when your anger causes bitterness, strife, hatred, and the likes. When you meditate on your anger, you give the devil time and space to expand it.
That is one of the reasons suppressing anger is evil.
Read on how to manage your anger. Seek God’s help and think of methods that work for you that will help you.
Remember, anger not controlled or managed can destroy your marriage or at least steal your unity and oneness.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I master my anger, I dwell with my spouse with understanding
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom to master my anger.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Signs or symptoms make us pay attention to certain areas of our lives.
There are certain signs or symptoms that our marriage shows that make us know that it is time to pay attention to our marriage.
When you have a headache, it is a sign that you need to pay attention to your body. Something is wrong somewhere. It could be a result of body weakness or something.
Finding out what went wrong is a whole lot of effort on its own
After you find out what is wrong, you then take the right medicine to cure or get rid of the symptoms.
In the same way, our marriage shows certain signs that make us aware of the fact that our marriage needs help.
Here are some of those signs:
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1. Observation from friends and family.
When friends and family begin to ask questions and are worried about the way your marriage is going. When things are obviously wrong and it is visible to your friends. Then you need to retrace your steps and begin paying attention to your marriage.
2. When your children’s attitude begins to change.
There are several ways when things are not cordial between husband and wife, that affect the children.
They may become withdrawn, stubborn, sickly, prone to domestic accidents, lower performance in school. Once you begin to see these signs, then your marriage needs attention.
3. Physical abuse
If there is any kind of abuse in your marriage then that marriage needs attention. Either you visit a marriage counselor, read books, pray, listen to messages, or change your attitude or behavior.
When either of the spouses becomes violet or threatens in the marriage, then your marriage needs attention.
Note that in all these, it is not about who is right or wrong, it’s about quick intervention in the marriage, and proffering solutions to wherever the problem is.
4. Withdrawal
When either of the spouses is withdrawn and no longer enjoys the company of the other spouse, that marriage needs quick intervention. When the couples are nothing but mere bed mate or housemate
When silence becomes the order of the day and you find it difficult to share your thoughts, feelings etc. That marriage needs help. When the new normal is monosyllable questions followed by monosyllable answers, your marriage needs help.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow by God’s grace.
How To Get Fresh Wine For Your Marriage. Every once in a while, it is important to attend a place where other couples are sharing their experiences.
We all experience burn out and we often get tired of the whole daily routine of house chores, taking care of the children, wives tending the home and taking care of the husband, going to the market, husbands going to work daily looking for money to pay bills and so on.
All these routines day in day out leave us sometimes frustrated and just getting along.
However, the wine of marriage must be kept renewed from getting stale because of the imminent dangers.
There are marriage ministers and ministry set aside and instituted by God to help us. Marriage could be the greatest blessing and as well the greatest regret of one’s life, depending on how it is handled.
Marriage is highly spiritual and it takes spiritual principles to have a blissful marriage. For example, you cannot be selfish and expect your spouse to live joyfully with you. Because it is spiritual, we often need men of God to speak into our lives and marriage and break satanic strongholds off our marriages.
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Obviously, one of the aims of the devil is to destroy homes, families, and marriages, but thank God He came to give us life and to give it to us in abundance. This life is the very life of God that gives us the capacity to function in the class of God.
Such couples’ program is what we have put together to help your marriage experience the new life and new strength to carry on.
This year’s KHC Marriage Bootcamp is not to be missed. We will be discussing issues like communication, conflict Resolution, spicing your sex life, parenting, finances, health Talk, and lots more.
The venue is the Redemption Camp and it starts today.
Friday, 17th – From 4 pm
Saturday, 18th -All Day
Sunday, 19th – Departure by 5.00 am
Amongst many things, we will be looking at Communication, Conflict Resolution, Spicing Your Sex Life, Parenting, Finances, Health Talk, And lots more!
You don’t want to miss this wonderful opportunity. Plan and prepare to attend. Your marriage is worth all the sacrifice.
Remember, pour into your marriage and invest in it and you will enjoy the dividends thereof.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make plans to renew and refresh my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom in the affair of my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
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