We started this topic yesterday. Let’s go further as we unravel the mystery behind having a model marriage.
1. Be supportive
The role of the wife is that of support. Support in what? Support in whatever and everything your husband is doing? In the small things as well as the big things, serious or not so serious things, relevant or not so relevant things.
It is difficult to say what is relevant to him or not because women and men are wired differently. That is why you need to make up your mind to be supportive in all areas.
This cannot be overemphasized. Our role is that of support. As a wife, you have to learn it, pray it into your life and ask for Grace to be a supportive wife.
You can give your support in very numerous ways. Be observant and sensitive you will know where to support your husband.
You may also have to ask him from time to time, how you can support him now because seasons in marriage change. So don’t be rigid. Support him with your finances. Don’t detach your support from your finances.
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2. Be prayerful
As a wife, if you don’t pray for your husband, who or what do you then pray for? We should be praying for our husbands daily as top priority.
And when he was at the place, he said unto them, Pray that ye enter not into temptation. And said unto them, Why sleep ye? rise and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. – Luk 22: 40, 46
When you pray, you guide yourself from entering into unnecessary temptations. If your husband is anointed, he needs prayers. If he is not so anointed, he needs prayers. Whichever way you want to look at it, he just needs prayers.
He needs prayers to take the right decisions. He also has authority over you.
I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. – 1Ti 2:1-2
When we pray for our husbands, we are also praying for ourselves because only then can we live a peaceable and quiet life.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a supportive and praying wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to do all that is needed to have a model marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luk 22:46 And said unto them, Why sleep ye? rise and pray, lest ye enter into temptation.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to look at areas you can give your support and begin to give it.
I almost can hear someone say, ‘can one really have a model marriage?’ My answer is an absolutely yes. You can have a model marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it. Marriage is work, but God promised that our labor of love will be rewarded.
The work requires the input of both the husband and the wife. It is not supposed to be the sole responsibility of one spouse to do all the laboring. Both should labour for the marriage but in different aspect of the marriage.
Marriage requires hard work, commitment, sacrifice and like someone puts it, you have an appointment with 4 things,
1. Appointment with losing
2. Appointment with dying
3. Appointment with sacrifice
4. Appointment with suffering
All these look negative but in reality, they are just God’s way of developing our faith muscle and causing us to die to the flesh.
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It is not only women who need to lose, die, sacrifice and suffer, but both the husband as well as the wife.
A wife loses her life just to care for her children. So it’s not really losing, dying, sacrificing in terms of punishment but to gain something higher and worthwhile.
So also, you have to die to your own convenient ways or your opinions if things will work out In the marriage.
Tomorrow, I will point out some things the wives can do to have a model marriage.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am supportive of my husband in all areas.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to be a supportive spouse in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to look at areas you can give your support and begin to give it.
There is tremendous power available when we as couples live in agreement. Agreement does not mean we are the same or have the same opinion.
Husbands and wives are by design different because their roles and assignments in the marriage are different.
To enjoy a wonderful marriage where both are in sync, the husband and wife must understand this perspective. The devil understands this and that is why he fights our agreement all the time.
Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree (harmonize together, make a symphony together) about whatever [anything and everything] they may ask, it will come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven. – Mat 18:19
The Bible emphasizes this truth. Couples should have a vision or goals for their family. They should make up their minds right from the onset of the marriage that it’s a No, No to divorce, they will try and communicate their needs to each other, forgiveness will be a priority and they will support one another.
You may not agree on trivial things but they must ensure they are in agreement on some core values. Unity is very important in marriage. In fact, the essence of marriage is for husband and wife to be in unity so that their strength can be multiplied.
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God Himself promised to be in their midst.
For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. – Mat 18:20
The power of God flows in a marriage where there is unity and agreement, where the husband loves the wife and the wife is submissive to the husband. They move forward and are able to fulfill their dreams and accomplish great feats just as God ordain it.
When the wife gives her full support to whatever the husband is doing, knowing that if he succeeds they succeed together.
It is high time husbands and wives everywhere begin to see what the devil is doing and wants to do and shut the door against division and disunity in their home.
Their focus and aim should be to always line up in agreement with each other, to be each other’s greatest fan.
Wives, even if you don’t understand him, (as you will not most of the time), you should still give your support as an act of obedience to God and then allow God do the rest. Your position as a wife is not to tackle him, but to support him.
The instance you may not support him will be if it is a direct violation of God’s commandments.
May God help us all in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We seek to be in agreement always.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be constantly in agreement with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 18:19 Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree (harmonize together, make a symphony together) about whatever [anything and everything] they may ask, it will come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be in agreement with your spouse, that is what makes you one flesh.
Husbands, by the position of headship they occupy determine to a large extent what happens in a marriage. They provide leadership for the marriage and dictate the direction the marriage goes. The husband should be responsible for charting the vision for the family.
In carrying out his task, there are certain things he should not engage in.
1. Don’t frustrate your wife.
You frustrate your wife when you don’t appreciate her efforts. A woman by default does a lot in terms of taking care of the home and the family. So if there is one thing the husband should do, it is constantly appreciating his wife.
2. Don’t keep secrets from your wife.
A lot of wives are really hurt over their husband not talking to them as a friend. It is very disheartening to know that your husband has secrets he is keeping from you. Some husband’s make certain amounts of money they don’t declare to their wives. Some have affairs and even have children from other women and their wives got to discover under unpleasant situations.
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3. Don’t cheat on your wife
Adultery and infidelity is the number one cause of separation and divorce in marriage. Do everything you have to do to avoid having an affair. When you cheat on your wife, you come against the covenant that bind you together and God is not pleased. You open the door for the devil to afflict the family and the children are exposed to all sort of negative things.
4. Don’t be a Boss in your marriage
When the husband takes the route of being the boss in the marriage, things will not work out the way they are meant to be. The wife is an help meet to the husband, but you forfeit her help when you treat her like you are her boss. It is a mutual relationship and the husband is meant to be a servant leader.
5. Don’t ‘shut down’ your wife
Your wife should never be shut down. Her opinions, view points and ideas should never be laid aside as irrelevant and stupid. The husband should recognize the fact that his wife is a gift from God to help, support and assist. Even if you are of different opinions, learn to respect your wife’s opinion and treat her suggestions as valuable even if you won’t be using her ideas.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I don’t frustrate, keep secrets, cheat, shut down my wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a servant leader
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start practicing these things.
Apology is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure.
There has been instances where the husband does something that hurts the wife, a simple ‘am sorry’ would have resolved the matter, but the husband refuses to apologize because of his ego. In marriage, we cannot afford to have a blotted ego. We have to be humble. In humility, we serve each other and are to look out for each other.
Back to my analogy, the wife gets hurt over the fact that her husband offended her. She enters into the strife not talking to her husband for days. She too is claiming her right for the need to be apologized to.
Meanwhile, she should also apologize for being in strife.
Between the couple, it always takes two to tango. At every point, if we would just learn to swallow our pride and apologize, most issues will be solved.
The unending cycle of strife continues.
The devil is having a great time keeping couples from fulfilling their God ordained destiny and doing exploits.
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How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up? – Deu 32:30
A times, we allow the devil cheat us because we allow our flesh and we refuse to apologize.
When we hurt each other and it is not intentional, we should still learn to apologize. It could be hard especially if we are not used to apologizing.
God bless us as we begin to apologize even for the small things we do to offend our spouse. Apologize out of love not a sense of duty or an obligation
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am humble and quick enough to apologize to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the spirit of humility and grace to apologize.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Deu 32:30How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be the first to apologize to your spouse for the next 30 days.
