Men Need Acceptance While Women Need Attention. Nobody enters marriage with the intention of divorcing, but along the line, there is a disconnection and couples have crises.
Men and women are different species if I can use that term. That’s why it becomes absolutely necessary for them to study and learn about each other’s world.
God has put so much investment into marriage. The first institution that God created was marriage. He made Adam a husband and a father. Marriage was the first institution before any other institution
We have successful lawyers, businessmen, and doctors, who have spent years before becoming what they are while not succeeding in their marriage because they failed to learn about marriage.
Men’s number one need is Acceptance. Women, never confront your husband. Men are warriors and fighters by nature. If you confront him, he will resist you, instinctively because the warrior in him will rise up.
When you accept him, he knows you are for him. You are an ally, not an enemy.
Women, when you want to get your husband to change don’t confront him. The direct correction will not work. He is not your child which you correct. You are to love your husband and you are to correct your children.
The rule is to accept your man, don’t confront him.
For example, if your husband dresses roughly, don’t tell him he dresses roughly and he needs to change. Tell him he is a very handsome guy and that he will even look better when he wears complimentary colours and dress sharp. He gets the message or better still, find a time he is more relaxed and tell him he looks finer with colours that match.
Women like to fix things, please don’t try to fix your man. Accept and celebrate him. Men Need Acceptance While Women Need Attention
On the other hand, women need attention. Your wife needs attention. Everything she does, the hair she makes, the cloth she wears, everything is to get your attention. Notice her, verbalize the fact that you notice her. Don’t ignore your wife. Be the first to notice what she’s wearing and comment. Notice when she makes a new hairstyle and make comments.
Tell her she is beautiful and gorgeous. Be tender towards her like you will do to a baby. Shower her with attention, don’t neglect her for another lady. It’s a No, No. Don’t show another female more attention than you show your wife, under any circumstances.
Couples, learn this about each other and make necessary adjustments.
Your marriage will thrive. Men Need Acceptance While Women Need Attention
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I accept my husband. I give my undivided attention to my wife
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father help me to realize that men and women are different. Grant me wisdom in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5: 33.….husbands love your wives, wives respect your husbands
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be mindful of accepting your husband and giving attention to your wife
Understanding Timing In Marriage. I once listened to a message by Bishop T.D Jakes titled, “Timing Is Everything.”
Sometimes what makes one thing bad and the same thing good is just about timing. What makes words spoken to a loved one good, bad or hurting beyond how it is spoken, is timing.
As husbands and wives, we have to study and understand proper timing. A good and skillful wife understands and uses the concept of timing to her advantage.
Women have great power and influence because they were created by God to be needed by men. God made man in Genesis 2, after He had made animals, plants, sun, and moon, He said it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper meet for him.
Men are not good (according to God’s standards without their wives).
Women are not just gifted more than men and extremely sophisticated, they are very much needed by men. Their make determines their functionality. Every woman is made and created to nurture and carry babies. God trusted women with the next generation.
Women are so much valuable in men’s life.
They have to understand this and carry themselves with this mentality. Wives, you have to defend your value.
You have the responsibility of ensuring you are not devalued for any reason. The value you place on yourself will determine the value placed on you. Have you ever seen a buyer paying more than the value placed on the commodity? Never, the buyer pays the value placed on the commodity.
The wife’s power of influence works better when the right timing is put into consideration.
The concept of right timing when put to use by the couple makes to things work better in the marriage.
Eccl 3:1 There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
A right time for birth and another for death, A right time to plant and another to reap, A right time to kill and another to heal, A right time to destroy and another to construct, A right time to cry and another to laugh,
Understanding Timing In Marriage is crucial for knowing the right time to doing things as couples.
It becomes the wrong timing for the wife to make her grievances known to her husband when he is already feeling down. Men are territorial beings and will like to be in charge and in control. So telling your husband, you are not happy about something automatically puts his defence up.
Husbands, it becomes wrong timing for you not to consider the fact that your wife is an emotional being and sermonize her over a mistake she is already sorry about.
As couples let us be mindful of the things we do or don’t do considering whether it’s the right timing or not.
Our marriage will thrive!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have understanding of the right time and seasons in my marriage
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father give me wisdom to consider the right timing before acting in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eccl 3:1 There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Consider the timing before acting. You don’t act out your feelings everytime
Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts. This morning I will like to write specially to the wives.
Good women could be frustrating their husbands’ efforts not because they are wicked but because they don’t know.
Men and women are so differently wired and that’s why it becomes important to learn about the different ways they are wired.
Women’s brains are like spaghetti, so they have things mixed up and jumbled up. Men’s brains on the other hand are like rice. Men separate issues and have the ability to treat events separately. Women, because of the way their brains are wired are tempted to give wrong, discouraging, and demoralizing vibes, when their husbands are trying to make efforts in pleasing them if something else is going wrong in other aspects.
A wife will not appreciate her husband’s good deeds if he fails in certain other areas. For example, she will not appreciate her husband’s hard work in providing for the family, if he criticizes her.
Women are giving to details. So they tend to focus on the little details not working. This could mean women are petty. Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts
If their husbands are putting 95% effort into pleasing them and 5% is not working. They tend to put their attention on the 5% not working.
The key here is to put your attention on the aspect where your husband is doing well and praise him. Praise him for the 95% or 5% as the case may be. He will get so excited and intoxicated with the praise that he will want to do more and better in those areas you want him to change.
Men will run from situations that make them feel pressured. They will rather stay where they are celebrated, that’s why men stay where they perform better eg their works.
So wives, my advice this morning is to celebrate your husband’s little effort in pleasing you, make a big deal of it and just hint at those areas you want him to improve on.
If you follow your natural wiring of focusing on details, you will keep demoralizing your husband. Praise him when you feel like complaining.
Your marriage will thrive. Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am appreciative of who God has given to me as my husband. I celebrate all his effort in pleasing me.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father give me wisdom and understanding concerning my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. Philippians 4:6 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to appreciate your husband’s effort to please you.
Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands. One of the first commandments of marriage is ‘selflessness’. You will find happiness if you make your spouse’s happiness your priority. Husbands, if you truly love your wife, you will want to meet her needs.
Women have many needs but in today’s devotional, I will write about three of those needs.
Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands 1. Affection The Webster dictionary defines affection as “a feeling of liking and caring for someone or something : tender attachment : fondness”
Women love it when their husbands are fond of them. Husbands can show affection to their wives in a number of ways. The baseline is whatever you do in loving your wife, be thoughtful of her. Like her person and genuinely care for her and about her.
Let her know you are proud of being her husband. That you are proud of her, you genuinely value her contributions and opinions in your life.
Tender touches also show your affection towards her, public displays of affection (PDA), like holding her hands, smiling, and looking into her eyes are some other displays of fondness.
2. Meaningful Conversations Women love talking. Even for the introversive ones, she will still long to express herself by having meaningful conversations with her husband.
Meaningful conversations like what her desires are, her aspirations, her opinions, and her vulnerability are all that make for meaningful conversations for her. It’s important for a wife to be vulnerable to her husband.
It is a turn-off to conversations when the husband does not listen to understand his wife, and they can’t have a mature conversation.
Couples will always be different and so will have different opinions.
When husbands tune off, wives often feel they don’t care. Strong relationships are built on deep and meaningful conversations and real communication.
So if your wife says she wants to talk, switch off the TV, put your phone aside and give her your undivided attention.
3. Family Commitment Women need to feel secured. One of the ways she feels secured is when the wife knows that her husband is committed to her and her children completely.
Be Committed to your family by putting them first place in your thoughts, and decisions and being considerate of their welfare and happiness.
Let your wife see how important your family is to you. Love your children and be committed to them
Whether your marriage is on the rocks or strong as nails, it will absolutely benefit from examining these needs and applying them to your marriage. Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself.
Your marriage will thrive! There are the Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my wife. I am affectionate towards her. I meet her needs for meaningful conversations and I am committed to our family.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Let the love of God be shed abroad in my heart towards my wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY In any case, as for you individually, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and wives should respect their husbands. Ephesians 5:33 CEB
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be affectionate and love your wife genuinely. Be committed to your family and have meaning conversions with your wife
Couples – 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives. The first one is Respect
Men thrive better in marriage when their wives trust and respect them. I believe it is not just a need but how men are wired. They are wired to love and respond to respect.
You can make respect a priority in your marriage consciously. Your husband will always sense your attitude of respect. Respect in words and actions even in the very little things can make your husband calm and not uptight or harsh. With our soft answers, we can make them feel great.
Wives, be wise, don’t answer your husbands with a disrespectful tone or body language.
When he knows he has a wife that respects and celebrates his opinions he won’t want to exert his headship.
I guess it makes them feel on top of the world. You know like the feeling of being a king.
As the children grow, it is also essential to teach them and show them by example how to respect the man of the house.
The Bible also gives clear instructions, not a suggestion to wives to respect their husbands in Ephesians 5:33b CEV translation “…and wives should respect their husbands.“
Respect can be expressed in so many ways. Ask your own husband how he will like you to respect him. Since respect means different things to different people.
2. Intimacy
Men love it when they know that their wives are devoted to them. All men love it when you touch them. So, don’t allow the day to pass without your rubbing your husband’s back, or head, giving him a hug, a kiss, cuddling when watching a movie, or cuddling in bed. Just touch everywhere and anywhere. He is your husband.
Every Husband wants to know they are attracted to their wives physically. So initiate sex Let your husband know that he is the best and that he is still the handsome guy you fell in love with.
Share deep thoughts and feelings with him. Be vulnerable and let your husband know how you feel about issues and communicate without inhibitions.
3. Appreciation
Men do a lot in terms of keeping the family together especially good men. Being a good husband, father and a good provider is not an easy task. This is one of the 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives
So your husband will do well with some praise and appreciation
Be generous with your appreciation and praise. Don’t just appreciate your husband in your thoughts and in your heart. Learn to verbalize your appreciation. Say thank you, to your husband for helping out around the house. Don’t take those things for granted.
Say thank you for every little thing he does. Be quick to notice little and big gestures. Let them be big deals to you. Thanking your husband is very powerful, little wonder it’s one of the magic words
Celebrate his success and achievement. Be passionate about his work or job. Thank him for his effort, hard work, and diligence.
Let your husband be sure of your praise if any other person doesn’t praise him.
Leave short notes for him, letting him know how much you appreciate him.
Don’t focus on things you don’t have or the things he doesn’t do. Focus on the things he does and he will do more. It is a law, what you focus on becomes bigger and of course, he will also get better at being a good husband. These are the 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good wife. I focus on meeting the needs of my husband always. I am not weary of doing good.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I ask for grace to be a doer of what my husband needs in Jesus mighty name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY In any case, as for you individually, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and wives should respect their husbands. Ephesians 5:33 CEV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Respect your husband, appreciate and be intimate with him
