Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough for God? No matter how much you pray, worship, or try to live right, there’s always a lingering feeling of guilt, doubt, or spiritual failure. If so, let me break the good news to you that you’re not alone.
Many believers struggle with the thought that they are not truly godly and that they’re somehow a disappointment to God. That feeling doesn’t come from God, it’s the enemy messing with your mind.
One of Satan’s greatest strategies is deception. He knows he cannot take away your salvation, so he works hard to make you think you’re not worthy of God’s love. His goal is to make you believe a lie so that you live in defeat rather than the victory Christ has already won for you.
That’s why the Bible admits to us
1 Peter 5:8 “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”
If the enemy can make you doubt God’s love, he knows he can weaken your faith.
You see, your mistakes, struggles, and doubts can not separate you from God’s love. God’s love is constant, consistent, and unchanging.
Romans 8:38-39 that: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Now that you know the enemy’s tactics, here’s how you can fight back:
1. Renew your mind with God’s word daily
The enemy thrives in ignorance, but God’s Word is your weapon. (Romans 12:2)
2. Reject condemnation
Conviction comes from the Holy Spirit to lead you back to God, but condemnation comes from the devil to push you away from God. Learn to recognize the difference.
3. Guard your thoughts
When negative thoughts come, don’t entertain them. Instead, do what is in 2 Corinthians 10:5. Counter lies with truth. When the enemy says, You’re not godly, remind him: I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:21).
4. Stay in a community
Isolation makes you an easy target for the enemy. Stay connected with other believers who can encourage and uplift you.
5. Pray and resist the enemy
Prayer isn’t just talking to God; it’s also spiritual warfare. Fight negative thoughts in the place of prayer.
James 4:7 “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
So the next time the enemy tries to bring guilt and mess with your mind, remind him: I belong to Jesus, and nothing you say can change that truth.
Marriage is an institution created by God for a purpose. It’s one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. This is a world where emotions run high and destiny calls, but many singles still find themselves asking if they should marry for love or purpose.
Genesis 2:18 (NIV) The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
The scripture gave us a reason why it is not good for a man to be alone which is why it said He will make him a helper suitable for him. The gospel truth is that love and purpose work together and every destiny decision must have a strong WHY.
The first thing Adam saw in Eve was her beauty. He was blown away and immediately gave her the name WOMAN. When he was to name the animals that God created, God had to give the instructions, but when he saw his wife, his purpose to oversee, to be fruitful and to multiply began to flow effortlessly, which made him name Eve immediately. Even though he was asleep when she was created out of his ribs, he got her name at first sight and followed through with sweet lines.
Genesis 2:23 (NIV)The man said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
There has to be a complementation between you and your spouse that allows you to flow naturally in the fulfillment of your purpose with deep love.
So, leaving purpose out for love does not balance with the equation of God.
Here are reasons you should marry for love and purpose.
1. Love without purpose is risky
Love is a powerful force. It makes your heart race, gives you butterflies, and makes you believe in forever. But love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage. Feelings can be fleeting, and what happens when life gets hard? You will no longer feel the excitement you once had. When you make love a choice, your WHYs will reflect and you will be able to sustain better than relying on the feelings of love alone.
Proverbs 19:21 (NIV) “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”
Marriage without purpose is like a car without fuel. It may look good on the outside, but it won’t go far.
2. Purpose without love is a struggle
On the other hand, marrying only for purpose, whether it’s for ministry, business, or societal expectations without genuine love can feel like a job instead of a joyful union. If you choose a partner just because they align with your calling but lack deep affection, your marriage may feel forced and duty-bound rather than fulfilling.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”
Purpose alone won’t carry you through the days when you need warmth, affection, and deep emotional connection.
3. Balance love with purpose
The best marriages are those where love and purpose align. Love brings joy, intimacy, and companionship, while purpose gives direction, meaning, and a shared vision. God’s design for marriage is not just about romance or function, it’s about a divine partnership that glorifies Him.
Before saying “I do,” ask yourself:
● Does this person truly love me, not just in words but in action?
● Do we share the same spiritual and life purpose?
● Will our marriage honor God and advance His kingdom?
God’s plan for marriage includes love, partnership, and purpose to work together. If you marry only for love, you may wake up one day wondering why you’re together. If you marry only for purpose, you might feel emotionally disconnected and unfulfilled.
It’s only when love and purpose meet that you experience a marriage that is not only joyful but also God-ordained. So, love and the tendency of your purpose fulfillment have to be found in the person you’re choosing for marriage.
The mind is a powerful tool, and the devil often uses it to attack God’s children. You may have good intentions, but with a poor mindset or negative thoughts, your journey as a believer can be hindered. This is why the Bible says,
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2).
When you surrender to Christ, it’s not just about leaving the past behind, but also about upgrading your mindset. Let go of toxic thoughts and vibes that’ve been holding you back, whether from past experiences or bad influences. A renewed mind is key to your faith journey – it’s where the real transformation happens, shaping your thoughts and actions
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).
To establish some clarity, there are two primary types of mindsets: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset:
Fixed Mindset: Resistant to change, clings to old patterns, and struggles to embrace renewal.
Growth Mindset: Welcomes transformation, is open to new possibilities, and is eager to grow spiritually.
The growth mindset is the one God desires for His children to embrace.
Five Practical Ways to Renew Your Mind as a Child of God
1. Build a Personal Relationship with God
Ask yourself, How close am I to God? If it takes you a moment to answer this question, it’s a sign to get closer. Strengthen your relationship with God through a consistent prayer life.
“Come near to God and He will come near to you” (James 4:8).
2. Read and Meditate on the Word of God
Quiet time is sacred. It’s when you spend intentional time with God, meditating on His Word and allowing the Holy Spirit to interpret it to you.
“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path” (Psalm 119:105).
3. Guard Your Mind Against Negative Influences
The mind is powerful, but it can only produce what you feed it. Be intentional about what you watch, read, and listen to.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23).
4. Think Positively and Block Out Negativity
Refuse to be swayed by the noise of the world. Fix your eyes on Jesus, who is the author and finisher of your faith.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable. If anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).
5. Be Thankful and Take Confessions Daily
Gratitude unlocks God’s blessings and helps you focus on His goodness in your life. Speak confessions that align with God’s Word to upgrade your mindset.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
Renewing your mind is a daily process that requires dedication and intentionality. Don’t just be a child of God by words, but let your thoughts, actions, and mindset reflect His glory. As you commit to this journey, remember that the Holy Spirit is your helper. He will guide you and transform you into the likeness of Christ.
Four Destiny Questions You Should Ask Before Falling In Love
Life is a journey of destination that only God knows and understands its beginning and ending (Jeremiah 1:5). This is why you shouldn’t take your purpose discovery lightly; it is a determinant of the answers to your existence.
There’s a primary assignment that is committed to every individual on earth and that assignment is greater than the purpose that life offers after your arrival on earth (Ephesians 2:10).
Here are four destiny questions you should ask yourself:
1. Who am I?
The discovery of YOU is the awareness of what God has embedded into you. I want you to understand that everyone has a reason for being here. That reason is to propagate God and His work. So, take a deep breath and ask yourself, who am I? (1 John 3:1)
2. Why am I here?
Your existence on earth is never a mistake and if you’re an afterthought child, you’re still not a mistake because there’s a greater reason why you’re here; to compliment and fill up the space God has created for you. (Isaiah 43:21)
3. What is my purpose?
The moment a man gets to a stage in life and that big question pops up, the depth of your existence is about to be revealed. Purpose is the real intent of your creation and this can only be found in God. God is the revealer of our assignment on earth, so cling to Him and He will direct your paths (Jeremiah 29:11)
4. Where am I going from here?
There’s something we call CLARITY in the journey of life. This clarity doesn’t uncover all the details you need to finish the journey but it will give you a heads-up to start. In other words, whatever God has shown you is enough to start, clarity unfolds as you progress in the journey. (Deuteronomy 31:8)
How do I navigate through the journey of discovering ME?
1. Build a personal relationship with God
2. Read the word of God daily and meditate on it
3. Pray always and develop your spirit man.
4. Have a mentor or a spiritual parent to guide you on the journey
5. Stay committed to doing the will of God in every area of your life.
The world is filled with shifting values and fleeting connections, however, building a Christ-centered relationship stands as a testament to lasting love that is rooted in faith. It’s more than just being together; it’s about aligning your hearts, values, and actions with God’s purpose for your union.
A Christ-centered relationship thrives when both individuals are committed to walking with God, seeking His guidance, and allowing His word to shape their story.
This type of relationship does not rely on worldly measures of success; instead, it finds strength, purpose, and direction in Jesus Christ. The principles of a Christ-centered relationship can guide you toward a fulfilling and God-honoring partnership.
Here are seven key principles of building a Christ-centered relationship:
1. Make Christ the Foundation: A Christ-centered relationship begins with a personal relationship with Jesus. Both individuals need to prioritize their faith journey independently before they can align spiritually. When Christ is the foundation, your relationship is built on unshakable truth and unworldly expectations. (Matthew 6:33)
2. Prioritize Praying Together: Praying together as a couple invites God into your relationship. It builds intimacy, creates unity, and allows you to seek God’s guidance for your future. Prayer is also a powerful tool to fight against misunderstandings and spiritual attacks that might arise.
3. Practice Selfless Love: Jesus modeled sacrificial love, and we are called to do the same. This means putting your partner’s needs above your own, serving one another with humility, and seeking to outdo each other in love. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
4. Study the Word Together: Make Bible study a regular part of your relationship. This strengthens your faith and helps you navigate challenges. The Word of God offers wisdom on how to treat each other, resolve conflicts, and make decisions.
5. Establish Healthy Boundaries: A relationship centered on Christ respects purity and holiness. So, set clear boundaries to protect your hearts and honor God. Have physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries to prevent situations that could lead to temptation.
6. Take Godly Counsel: As long as you’re in the right spiritual community i.e. Church, you will find trusted spiritual leaders and married couples that can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability.
7. Purpose Before Propose: The description of your life partner’s revealed in the discovery of YOU and what God will have you DO. Have you discovered yourself? Have you started fulfilling your purpose? Can you both serve His kingdom together? Allow your love story to testify to God’s faithfulness and grace. (Deuteronomy 32:30)
