Loved ones frequently abandon us. Life happens, and relationships fade.
What appears to be promising frequently falls apart.
Wedding arrangements are frequently canceled or shortened.
Jilting stories, abandonment stories, cheating escapades, and infidelity adventures are all common occurrences.
As a result, many leave.
What occurs in such situations?
People may walk away but God will never walk away.
Managing Rejection and Disappointment
Let us delve at the scriptures.
Isa 54:10 (MSG) For even if the mountains walk away and the hills fall to pieces, My love won’t walk away from you, my covenant commitment of peace won’t fall apart.” The GOD who has compassion on you says so
Eh! That should be read several times!
My love will not abandon you.
My peace covenant will not be broken.
Whoever wishes to walk away may do so, but as long as God’s love does not walk away, everything will work out for you.
I want you to look disappointment in the eyes and exclaim, “God’s love will not leave me!”
Stop sobbing.
Allow God’s love to heal you.
Managing Rejection and Disappointment
God utilized a nearly impossible scenario to demonstrate the depth of his love.
Mountains, as we all know, do not walk.
We all know that hills don’t just break apart.
But even if the mountain goes for a walk and never returns, and the hills disperse beyond repair, God promises that His love will not go!
Be optimistic.
Take pleasure in that love.
Swim in that ocean of love.
You will discover healing, restoration, and blessings beyond your wildest dreams in that love.
Dexterity in asking a lady out is not the victory, getting married to a good woman is. Having a true help-meet in the journey of life is one the sweetest things that can ever happen to you.
Changing your status from single to “Engaged” is not yet anything to rejoice about, getting married to a good faithful, responsible man is where the victory is.
There are men who are very spiritual but are completely unromantic. They don’t know more than to be quoting Bible.
Such men will have Bible study first upon any meeting before they even greet you. It is good. You are a spirit but don’t forget you are living here on earth.
From A Love Affair Into Marriage
It is true that marriage is made in heaven, but it is also a truism that it is lived on earth.
On the other side of the divide, there are those who are very romantic, but their spiritual life is a write-off.
The most beautiful thing then is to have a romantic and spiritual partner!
The first and major step is to become that yourself. Become the kind of person you want to attract.
Relationships don’t work out because you are convinced.
It works out because you work at it.
Relationships don’t work out because you really love the person.
It works out because you first love yourself.
Forgive easily.
Pray.
Work on becoming better.
Keep improving.
Read and study.
Going into relationships and coming out over and over again is not God’s plan for you.
Sit down and find out what went wrong.
From A Love Affair Into Marriage
Learn all you can learn.
Slow down. Don’t rush into a new relationship immediately after a failed one.
If you skip this process, the relationship will soon end as well.
I am praying for you, God will pilot your relationship into marriage in Jesus’ name.
All things will work out together for your good.
God will fill your mouth with laughter.
God will collapse all the wasted years and bring beauty from the ashes.
All will be well with you, this is my prayer for you this day.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.” (Son 1:2, KJV)
Love can be like wine. It can be intoxicating. It can make you lose all sense of logic. It can make you disown friends and even family members sometimes.
Before you taste the wine of love, know what you are doing and that you are of age.
Before you allow him to kiss you with the kisses of the mouth, make sure you are married. When you get intoxicated at the wrong time, it can really be counter-productive.
The Bible says it is not good for man to be alone, but it is perfect for boys to be alone. You can be thirty-five and still be a boy if you have not learned how to delay gratification.
In marriage, the wine can often go low and so the couple must do everything possible to keep the wine up and be intoxicated with each other.
2. Love is more than a feeling
Love starts as a feeling, but for it to last it must graduate into a decision and a commitment, howbeit, you must not allow the feelings to die.
Passion is very necessary, but you must decide. Yes, there are times you wake up and there is no iota of feeling. Not even one drop. What do you do at such times? Do you divorce? No, you wake up with the feeling. You get some new wine into your marriage because you have made a decision to be with that person you love.
He that hath an ear….
3. Fall in love with God first
Finally, fall in love with God first. That is the foundation of all successful love stories.
God is love. So, in other to find true love, find God first.
Before you embrace that man or woman, have you embraced mercy first? Before you spend time with that man, have you tarried in His presence?
These are fundamental principles that make relationships work. You cannot ignore God for long before everything comes down crashing!
Get into God’s word first and learn His principles, then these principles will guide you to make proper and quality decisions.
I pray for you this morning, you will not fall in love with the wrong person. I pray for you in the name of Jesus, God will give you fresh wine in your marriage in Jesus’ name. There is a Yoruba prayer, “O ni gbe eegun eleegun o, loruko Jesu! Meaning, you will not marry the wrong person in Jesus’ name!
I curse that spirit of confusion in your life in Jesus’ name! I come against every militating spirit over your destiny, I proclaim you free in Jesus’ name, and I declare it is well with you in Jesus’ name! For everyone going through a storm in marriage, I declare, Peace! Be still! In Jesus’ name!
All of us know how we have tried threatening God before!
Lord, If I don’t meet my spouse by next month, I will marry just anybody that comes!
Yes, the threats come in many flavours and colours,.
And somehow, I believe God is never threatened.
He would probably be amused.
Those threats do nothing to God, but they can put you in the desperate mode.
That God is not threatened does not mean He is not concerned.
In fact, if you will like to know, God is more interested in your marriage than you are interested in it.
So, then why is it not happening?
For the same reasons!
He is not only concerned, He wants to ensure you get it right!
So He crosses the “T”s and Dots the “I”s.
God is never for once confused about the whole thing.
He has all of it figured out, not when you clocked twenty five, not even after you were born, but before you were ever born!
Yes, spouse, wedding, location, career and more were all figured out.
With God, you can never enter “one chance!
O Lord, I Must Marry Or…
Jeremiah 29:11 (MSG) I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.
Hey, take some rest, don’t panic! All of it has been planned out! Up to your bride’s maid and your ring bearer!
Even the food we will “chop” on that day!
Trust in God.
He will not fail you.
Try and look back, each time you try to put things in your hands, it wouldn’t work out!
So, rest in Him! Hold on. Be patient. You will see GOOD!
O Lord, I Must Marry Or…
For married couples, the same principle applies. God has played out how He will take care of you and your family! Just be sure to walk in His plans and follow His map! Stay with the divine blueprint by finding out His plans for your life at every stage and every phase. This is the secret of a long lasting successful relationship!
Romantic and marital relationships can be interesting!
When two people fall in love, they seem to lose the ability to reason.
You close your eyes to obvious discrepancies, you ignore visible faults and you even disregard counsel, all because you are in love.
Well, like they say, Marriage is always an eye-opener!
Your eyes will open!
But one needs not to wait till then.
I want to attempt to show you three areas where you need to make decisions in the midst of your romantic and marital adventures. These are also relevant to married couples.
Love Lifeline: 3 Crucial Choices
1. Happy, Fulfilled, and Scriptural
Both of you must agree that all decisions made should be scriptural and should leave you happy and fulfilled.
Anything that leaves you guilty, sad, and regretting is a red light!
Both of you must commit to ensuring you do all needed to have a successful relationship.
Be it prayer, fasting, learning, reading, abstaining from sex, or whatever it takes, the two of you should be on the same page.
As married couples, don’t do anything that will leave your spouse unhappy, sad and disappointed.
Love Lifeline: 3 Crucial Choices
2. Correction and Criticism.
If there is any correction or criticism, you should decide to work on it and not ignore what is being presented. Also, criticism should not be seen as an attack.
This is the only way you can both grow.
A relationship where there is not one single correction of expression of dislike is a fake one. It will not last.
Also to note as singles or married, there must be enough regular compliments and appreciation before your corrections can make sense at all.
Love Lifeline: 3 Crucial Choices
3. Long-term solution
If there is a problem to be solved, there should be a decision to go for a long-term solution and not a temporary one just to let time pass.
Every issue and problem that you apply a short-term solution to is invariably postponed, waiting to be resurrected in marriage.
For example, if there is a bad habit, chances are that you ignore it or once your spouse tells you that he will change later, you forget it, because you are in love.
Don’t make that mistake at all.
Go for counsel. Pray about it. Confront the issue. Don’t sweep it under that carpet.
