This morning, we are looking at an explosive combination, probably the most volcanic of couple types!
Vocal Husband, Vocal Wife!
What?
As uncommon as it could be, this coupling type exists!
Well, Pastor, you said opposites attract, so what happened in this scenario?
Well, there is every possibility they started as vocal and quiet, but as time goes on, the other quiet spouse adopted being vocal as a coping mechanism with a vocal spouse!
This person assumes the only way they can survive in that marriage is to match their spouse, word for word, trouble for trouble, and vice for vice!
Couple Types: Vocal Husband, Vocal Wife
This type of couple is very explosive, they fear one another, and the house is usually one of shouting matches.
The spouses are unwilling to give in to one another. There is no mutual submission and any form of submission is seen as a sign of weakness on their part.
In some cases, they get violent with each other and sometimes destroy things!
This type of couple is sitting on a gunpowder and it is a matter of time before it explodes on their faces.
They are both angry and volatile with their emotions.
I am sure you remember the case of Simeon and Levi .
Gen 49:5-6 (KJV) Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. [6] O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall.
Two angry people in a marriage is never recommended!
In the Amplified version, it says
Gen 49:5 (AMPC) Simeon and Levi are brothers [equally headstrong, deceitful, vindictive, and cruel]; their swords are weapons of violence. [Gen 34:25-29]
Note the word, EQUALLY! No marriage can survive where the couple is equally vocal, vindictive, troublesome, and angry!
For this marriage to survive, they have to be willing to die to their flesh and sacrifice for one another.
To be continued tomorrow.
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We have been looking at couple types and we looked at vocal husband and quiet wife. We started looking at quiet husband vocal wife yesterday and we will delve into Part 2 today.
The quiet husband, though inexpressive is like a pillar of strength for the family. He is the definition of strength, without noise. He has this quiet noiseless faith that can get the job done without much noise.
However, his weaknesses also come to the fore because he can be withdrawn, and secretive and can make decisions without informing his spouse.
The quiet husband will often struggle with the need for validation because his quiet nature presents the picture of a weak husband in the light of societal expectations. He has to learn to appreciate his uniqueness while also working on his extreme reservation.
The immediate challenge is that he is married to a wife who is vocal and who enjoys talking chatting, babbling, and everything in between.
His quietude will be seen by his wife as a deliberate neglect of her needs. She is emotional, so she can hardly understand why she can talk and her husband won’t talk.
It becomes even more intense if the husband can get chatty with his friends but won’t talk chattily with his wife.
The husband must learn to talk because his wife will never understand his reservations, The vocal wife must learn to talk less because her husband won’t understand why she can’t keep her mouth shut.
Incidentally, if the husband begins to talk a lot and the wife shuts up too much, we will have even more crises. So, what is needed is actually for them to be balanced in their relationships with one another.
They must love and accept one another’s personalities and then begin to work together to improve their communication. Marriage is a place of sacrifice! So they both need to sacrifice “This-is-me” syndrome and seek to please the other person!
The goal is peace and tranquility without strife in the home and guess what,? It is very possible!
Good morning!
Have a fantastic week ahead of you!
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Hello, people of God. We started looking at different couple types and we have seen vocal husband and quiet wife. Today we will quickly look at the quiet husband and the vocal wife. When we have this combination, there are some peculiarities to be expected.
The quiet husband usually has a phlegmatic temperament and because opposite attracts like I always say, he is likely to attract somebody opposite his temperament, maybe a choleric or a Sanguine. So what do we have here?
At any provocation, because the wife is the vocal one she goes into a lot of babbling and rattling which of course the husband doesn’t like.
The vocal wife talks when she’s happy and when she’s unhappy, she talks when she’s friendly and she also talks when she is angry. She draws her fulfillment from talking.
We see a lot of frustration for her because the husband is not the talking type. So most of the time, she has nobody to talk to which makes her unfulfilled.
In this case, we usually see a situation where she becomes a gossip because her husband doesn’t enjoy talking.
The husband has to learn to move away from his quietude and learn to talk to his wife so that there can be some fulfillment for the vocal wife. Also, the wife has to bridle her mouth so that she doesn’t get on his nerves all the time. Of course, we also know that respect is a major issue for a man, and when a wife talks a lot, especially angrily, that comes as disrespect to the man.
The man also has to be careful not to mute his wife completely otherwise there won’t be peace in that particular home. So a lot of balance and maturity are needed in that particular family.
To be continued!
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I am going to take a break briefly from our series on Couple Types and bring to us a word from the Lord for this month!
So dear people, members, and partners of Kisses and Huggs Club, Happy New Month!
What is God’s word for us this month?
Psa 30:11-12 (GNB) You have changed my sadness into a joyful dance; you have taken away my sorrow and surrounded me with joy. [12] So I will not be silent; I will sing praise to you. LORD, you are my God; I will give you thanks forever.
Every point of your life where you have been sad in these past twelve months, there is a divine CHANGE for you, and that sadness is being changed into a joyful dance in the name of Jesus!
1. So there is a change!
Yes, God Himself recognizes that there has been sorrow in some area of your life, but He is going to change the narrative in your life! Wow! God is changing the narrative for you!
2. There is a “taking away!”
God is taking away every sorrow from your life! You will look for sorrow and you won’t find it any longer! Why? God is taking it away, never to come your way again!
3. There is a surrounding!
The next thing in the scripture above says God is going to surround you with joy! Wow!
Everywhere you look, what you will see is joy! Every place you enter, what will meet you is joy!
4. As a result of this, you can’t be silent!
You can’t be silent this December! You are going to sing your praise unto your God this month! You will give thanks forever for what the Lord will do in your life this month!
Can you say this with me: This month, I am surrounded by joy, no more sadness around me, and sorrow is gone away from me, I will sing continually this month!
The deepest desire of your heart is being granted this month in Jesus name!
So shall it be for you in Jesus’ name!
Good morning!
Rev Dunamis Okunowo
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The Vocal husband is the life of the party in the family. If he dares keep quiet, the whole house shuts down. When the vocal husband goes quiet, something is really wrong that needs urgent attention. You see, his default mode is to keep talking.
The Quiet wife is the definition of peace, tranquility, and serenity in the house. If she ever starts talking in anger, there is a real problem.
In order for there to be balance in the family and for the children not to be tilted out of balance in one direction, the couple has to work on their marriage and be on the same page.
Our weaknesses are always strengths turned inward, so what this means is that a weakness is actually within the strength and it has to be managed well so that strength will win.
For example, a husband who talks a lot brings fun to the house, but will equally use strong words at the slightest provocation.
The wife who is on the quiet side seems very peaceful but will continually aggravate the husband with her shell-like withdrawal, her easy tendencies for depression and despondency, her unresponsiveness to her husband’s vibes, and so on and so forth!
The vocal husband must learn to shut up when angry and the quiet wife must learn to express herself when angry.
Interestingly, the vocal husband can easily forgive when he vents, while the quiet wife can be vindictive and unforgiving in her quietude. Note that venting with negative words and abuse is not always the best way to go.
The balance is that they must work together and understand one another while improving their communication skills.
If you are like the couple above and you seem to have done everything possible with no headway, you might want to reach me via WhatsApp for some deep therapeutic steps both of you can take! The issue must be resolved!
We will be looking at more couple combinations in the coming days!
