Practical Ways To Stop That Thing

Practical Ways To Stop That Thing

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Practical Ways To Stop That Thing! Sandy has been locked in the intricacies of sexual sins for a while. The more she tried to stop, the more she plunged further into the abyss of sexual misadventures.

Her story seemed unfortunate, but there she was. She found that out she has been entwined in the duo of sexual perversion and mammon spirit.

Would she ever be able to stop this misadventure?She doubted herself.

In a few years of counseling singles and married couples, never has there been any problem or issue as intense as sexual sins.
Almost akin to a mountain, it stands tall in the life of any one who has dabbled into sexual sins. The person becomes completely intertwined and entangled, like an ant caught in a giant spider’s web!

In the early years of Kisses and Huggs Club, I was as frustrated as the ones I was counseling when I see that most of these people would go back to their vomit, even after counseling sessions and prayers.
Both the counselor and the counselee were at a loss on what to do. Until God opened my eyes to see that sexual sins are spiritual! Then God graced me to be able to deal with the spirit of perversion and deception which is largely behind most sexual compromises including homosexuality! Then I saw people set free supernaturally!
I have seen people weep in repentance only to go back into sexual sins. I have had to counsel pastors who just preached about sexual compromise only to find them locked up in sexual embrace afterward!
I have been called on the phone concerning a Bishop that was asking out a member right on the altar on the prayer line in one of his branch churches.
I have seen people who fasted forty days to deal with sexual sins only to be back in bed with another man on the fortieth day!

vractical Ways To Stop That Thing!
1. You see, the first thing you need to realize is that the scripture says emphatically:
For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. (Romans 6:14 KJV)
Yes, no matter your experiences, the scripture shall not be broken. Jesus already dealt with the sin issue. The power of iniquity is broken! That was a major reason Jesus Christ died for you and me.
In the Old Testament, our sins were atoned for. It means they were kind of covered by the blood of goats!
In the New Testament, the blood of Jesus, because of its superiority and holiness, did not just cover our sins; it wiped them away with no trace of remembrance! In God, when you embrace redemption, you were reconfigured back to who you were before you ever sinned! As much as that sounds difficult to grasp, that is what happened. You see, the things of God cannot be grasped with our natural understanding!
2. The second thing you need after this understanding is to go to God and ask Him to forgive you of all misdeeds and mistakes. And you know what? He will forgive you! When He forgives you, He will also forget!
Listen to me dear, God does not condemn you! Do you remember what He told that woman caught in adultery, whose destiny would have been truncated by stoning, Jesus Christ told her, I do not condemn you, BUT, go and sin no more!
In the same way, rather than stone the ones caught today, we are to restore them because that is why Jesus died for them!
You also need to understand that not a few are caught in sexual compromise not because they are promiscuous, but like Mephibosheth, they were dropped before they reached the age of accountability!
Some of them were abused by some big cousin, raped by some unsuspecting relative, fingered by some lesson teacher, innocence stolen by some big brother, and such! In hiding these for many years and not being able to open up, that which they were a victim of; found them becoming another victim or even the prey!
I come in the name of the Lord this morning that you don’t have to be under the weak and beggarly elements, under demonic powers again in your sexuality! You don’t have to succumb to every cry of the flesh. You can master your body with the Help of the Holy Spirit and make your destiny a significant one!
Go to God and ask for help. Talk to your father, every help you need can be found in Him. Refuse to cooperate with the devil. These are Practical Ways To Stop That Thing!
We will stop here this morning.

Sin shall not have dominion over me!
Pray and ask God to cleanse you of all sins and give you the grace to forgive all that hurt you many years ago
Do good, O Lord, unto those that be good, and to them that are upright in their hearts. (Psalms 125:4 KJV)
List everybody you will need to unfriend!
John 5

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A Checklist For Your Marital Journey

A Checklist For Your Marital Journey

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A Checklist For Your Marital Journey. The life of a man is always in seasons. There are three major seasons and milestones in the life of a man.
M – Morning
A – Afternoon
N – Night

The month of October here. These seasons in a man’s life are productive or wasted depending on the habits and activities of the man.

The scriptures says:
So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalms 90:12 KJV)

This morning, I will like to remind you on a few things, though not exhaustive, that you should consider as the month begins. Here is a Checklist For Your Marital Journey 

1. Read The Book and at least a book
What has knowledge got to do with it? The scripture says a man of knowledge increases strength! The Book is God’s word, it should be read daily and consistently. It is good to read The Book and at least a book! A book could be on any other topic which ensures self development of perhaps on relationships and marriage.

2. Fast and pray at least one day.
This is good for you because it helps you to stay tuned spiritually. You see, the success of any believer is dependent on his ability and discipline to connect with God, hear His voice and do His bidding. Fasting and Prayers helps you to hear God more. You can join KHC Global Fasting and Prayer Programme on 3rd to 5th October 

3. Walk in love and forgiveness throughout
As the month begins, can you truly say, “I have forgiven all?” This is very important. Make sure you don’t begin the month with any kind of offence from previous months or years. Begin the new month in a new way and with a cleansed heart. Let the hurts and the wounds go with past month, so that newness of God’s favour can be yours in Jesus name.

Married Couples who have issues and have not be talking can use the opportunity to end all quarrels and start again. Let love cover a multitude of sins. End all strife and let the healing balm of God work on your soul. The Psalmist said, “He restoreth my soul!” I pray for you this morning, God will restore your soul in Jesus name!

4. Stay away from all sexual compromise and other sins
A child of God is never comfortable with habitual sins. Something in him does not agree with a sinful lifestyle. It is possible you have made a mistake or two, but you should be quick to ask God for forgiveness, and then refuse to go back into such sins. Sin shall not have dominion over you, so says the scriptures. Don’t go back into what you already walked away from. It is not fashionable to eat one’s vomits!

2Pe 2:21-22 (MSG) Better not to have started out on the straight road to God than to start out and then turn back, repudiating the experience and the holy command. [22] They prove the point of the proverbs, “A dog goes back to its own vomit,” and, “A scrubbed-up pig heads for the mud.”

5. Talk to your mentor at least once
Life is in phases; men are in sizes. You will never come to a place in life where you know it all, you will always need people around you who have done what you are trying to do. Never abuse the gift of access granted you by people above you. Learn to ask questions. You don’t go to the house of your mentor and start watching TV or chatting away. You ask questions, because the wisdom of a man is encapsulated in his words!

6. Save some money
It is a good habit to always save some money, however small. As the month begins, can you truly say how much came into your hands, how you expended it and how much you are able to save in the past months? Do you have a money diary? You should, where you keep you transactions to the last Kobo.

7. Honour God with your tithe and seed
You already know this if you are a child of God. It is one thing you should never stop doing, and it is one thing you should constantly do. It is the pathway to your financial increase, and as you give, God, gives you more! It is the plan of God that He will prosper you as you give and enable His work to be done on earth. God wants to make you a channel, not a dam. 

It is a partnership that God is calling you to. If you never pay your tithe, you wouldn’t know how much you are missing out until you start to honour God. Even in business world, when someone helps you to get a job or deal, you give a certain percentage to that person voluntarily. It is ethical. Has God been good to you in any way? Then it is simple common sense to give back to His work.

8. Serve God with your time
This is a powerful principle. Wherever you find yourself, make sure you get busy for God and you know what? God will get busy for you. Service preserves your health and provides for you. 

Above is A Checklist For Your Marital Journey

Exo 23:25 (KJV) And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.

May God grant more understanding!

I will go forward and press forth

Pray that God will honour you

Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well! (Psalms 90:12 Message)

Read a book today

John 4

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Here’s What You Do When Discouraged

Here’s What You Do When Discouraged

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Here’s What You Do When Discouraged. The very life itself seems to be oozing out of Sandy! She was just recovering from a major disappointment that life meted out at her and then another thing happened. Yes, she lost a relationship, and while she was still licking her wounds, when she was laid off her work. 

The whole horde of hell seemed to be against her. Has God abandoned her? What do you do when discouraged?

Mr. and Mrs. Johnsons were not exempt from their own share of happenstances of life. They quarreled in repeated cycles till they began to demonize themselves. Would that ever end?

Here’s What You Do When Discouraged. There is one thing I will like to tell you this morning! In the midst of that discouragement, Never Compromise!”

Disappointments can often make a person vulnerable. The reactions from people, friends, family, and the environment can create unbelievable pressures that can quickly increase vulnerabilities to temptations around.

Now, I speak to you this morning, as by the Spirit of God, don’t compromise!
Singles, never allow pressures to push you into the “whoever-comes-corner! That is not your portion! You cannot end up with a wife beater because of pressures! You cannot end up hooking up with a son of Belial because of pressures. You can’t walk down the aisle with a strange woman because of pressure. You cannot dine with an adulterer because of pressure.
Listen to me, you have waited a while, your waiting will not be in vain! Your waiting will not culminate in shame! Your waiting will not be a ‘wasting!” God has you in mind and He will not fail you.

He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. (Isaiah 40:29 KJV)
When you are down and out, rather than turn to compromise, turn to God. He will lift you up in that weak moment. It is not a sin to become weak, it only becomes a problem when you try to feed your weaknesses by compromise rather than turn to God. God is waiting to give power to the faint and increase in strength when you turn to him.
So, my dear, when you are so down and discouraged when you are so weak and feel like crying all day, go back to God in that moment! He will speak to you and assure you of what He will do in your life.
When you feel like going back to the world, go to the word and to the throne of grace lest you become like the proverbial dog that went back to its vomit!
But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire. (2 Peter 2:22 KJV)
That will never be your portion. Continuing from the verse above,
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: (Isaiah 40:30 KJV)
Many people will fall around you. Many will go back and compromise and for a while it would seem to be working for them. In fact, it would like they are smart while you are so foolish! You cannot follow people; you are to follow God. Why? You’ll see it in the next verse.
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 KJV)
Here’s What You Do When Discouraged. Let your waiting be a ‘waiting upon the Lord.” It will change your level, it will bring speed into your life, and you will be able to do a lot without getting tired. It will all end in a testimony, when you refuse to compromise in those vulnerable moments!
Couples, be in agreement with your spouse. Avoid any form of rancor that may lead to bitterness, for such can dissipate the anointing quickly. Don’t allow concerned family members to push you into compromise of any sort, focus on God and you will surely see His salvation!

Here’s What You Do When Discouraged. Enjoy your moments together, at the times you abound or you are abased.
For those trusting God for fruit of the womb, I pray for you this morning, that God will open your womb in Jesus name! Whatever could be the hindrance, low sperm count, blocked tubes, abnormal hormonal level or whatever it is,  in Jesus name. 

I will not compromise

Lord, give me strength in Jesus name in areas of weaknesses

He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts. (Isaiah 40:29 Message)

Cut off from every compromise and all negative influences

John 3

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Handling The Marital Valley Of Death 

Handling The Marital Valley Of Death 

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Handling The Marital Valley Of Death. Sandy was on cloud nine. It was just a few weeks before her wedding! D-Day was approaching and her ecstasy was palpable. God has given him a handsome pocket-loaded man! Preparations were in top gear and then the unexpected happened. His husband-to-be called off the wedding! No warnings, no reasons, he just withdrew. Sandy was paranoid.

What? Sandy thought she was going to die! Suicidal thoughts crept up. What would people think? What kind of curse was that? Her tender heart spiraled down into an emotional abyss where darkness enveloped her very mind and despondency wrapped her up.

Mr. And Mrs. Johnson on the other hand, who got married three years ago, faithfully serving God with their time, money and energy just had hell unleashed on them as the husband lost a plush job he had barely engaged in less than a year! It was devastating for them as a family. How could God allow this? They had given testimony, they had told several people, they had made plans and then all that comes crashing down!

Well, Sandy and the Johnsons are passing through the valley of the shadow of death!

Psa 23:3 (KJV) He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Everything looks good and yummy here. He is leading me on the path of righteousness. Cool. But wait for the next verse!

Psa 23:4 (KJV) Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

What? How did paths of righteousness quickly turn into the valley of the shadow of death? To now think that it is God leading me? What is going on here?

Now here is the catch. Here is what to do in Handling The Marital Valley Of Death 

Valley experiences will come in relationships and marriages. Jilted, abused, cheated, disappointed, abandoned, used, and so on.

Your reaction is what determines your victory! You are not to murmur or complain! You are to thank God for where you are and then you will see why He led you through that valley!

There are things you hold on to, that He does not want for you. There are people in your life that will ruin everything five years down the line. There are possible suitors who might turn you into a widow or widower in a few years and you can’t see it! There are handsome evil men and beautiful strange women!

The only way God can deliver you is to lead you into that valley. It is the valley of the shadow of death because things die there, that the old might go and new can be ushered in.

Did you notice what it says in the second part of the verse?

…I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Don’t fear. Don’t panic. He is right there with you and you won’t perish in the fire!

Don’t complain that the guy left you in the cold. There is the new you are not aware of, which can only be unveiled and possessed with the right attitude. Don’t blame God because you lost a job or contract, rather rejoice and thank God.

Tell God, I don’t understand, but I believe you are my shepherd. You may lead me round, but you will not lead me wrong!

The devil wants you to get angry, murmur, throw tantrums and get offended, when you do that, you actually lost. Like job was told by his wife, the devil wants you to curse God and die in that valley!

Job’s response was epic!

Job 2:10 (MSG) He told her, “You’re talking like an empty-headed fool. We take the good days from God—why not also the bad days?” Not once through all this did Job sin. He said nothing against God.

In verse 13, he said;
Job 13:15 (KJV) Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.

If you can switch into praise if you can sing a song, if you can rejoice in the midst of obvious contradictions, you will see the salvation of God, you will see victory and you will laugh last. You see, it is after you have the right response in praise and joy that the next verse becomes a reality.

Psa 23:5 (KJV) Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

God then gives you victory before those that have mocked you and clarity comes to your mind and your cup runs over, which is abundance! When this happens, then you’ve done great in Handling The Marital Valley Of Death!

May God grant you more understanding! Good morning!

I choose to rejoice

Lord, open my eyes to see the new in this situation

Psa 23:2 (MSG) You have bedded me down in lush meadows, you find me quiet pools to drink from.

Pray in the Spirit for about an hour

John 2

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Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You

Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You

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Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You. Sandy was badly hurt, that ten years after the blow meted to her by her lover, she was still hurt! Without knowing, the hurt has morphed into wounds and the wounds have crystallized into bitterness. This in turn affected everything about her life.

How do you forgive in the real practical sense of it?

Forgiveness is not talking about the issue. Forgiveness is not explaining the situation. Forgiveness is not reporting the person to your pastor. Forgiveness goes beyond that especially when the issue is very grave and hurting.

Usually, the female gender is the most hurt, they are more like at the receiving end. A lady attaches more to a relationship than a guy will. Man is a logical being, so it is easier for him to walk away from relationships and console himself so that somebody else will show up.

The lady on the other hand, has her whole life, emotions and essence woven and intertwined in a relationship because she is a relationship being, so it is usually more hurting for her especially when she is not the one initiating the break-up.

In marriage; it is the same, the wife is more hurt. When I am settling quarrels between a couple, you find the man smiling after a while, but the lady finds it more difficult to let go like that, depending on the process that led to the hurt. However, in marriage, the greatest thing you can learn to do is to forgive! In fact, it is good you practice advanced forgiveness!

Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You. The first thing to do in forgiving a person is to

1. Decide to forgive

This step is actually important because you can say “I have forgiven so and so,” when in reality, you never decided to forgive such a person. Forgiveness is a conscious and deliberate decision you make. You have been jilted, used, abandoned, rejected, abused sexually, treated shabbily, and so on? Let go! Decide to forgive so that you can move on. The best revenge is success and good marriage. But that will only come when you forgive! Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You is a must!

2. Ask God to give you the needed strength to forgive. 

If the name of the person who hurt you is mentioned, and your countenance changes, you have not forgiven yet. If you hissed at the thought of the person, you have not forgiven yet. In such instances, you need strength from God. You need to pray that God should reach within you, touch you where no man can touch you, and heal you indeed.

Your offender who you thought would rot in hell can meet Jesus along the way and go to heaven! You that were offended too should make heaven and not allow someone to occupy a space in your heart springing up into bitterness. Being bitter will never make you better! Wives, forgive your husbands, yes, you think he is naughty and sometimes wicked, but forgive him all the same, so that you can both believe God for greater things! Never curse your husband in your heart!

Embrace him tonight. Let your love be rekindled. Don’t give the enemy space in your home. Husbands, forgive you,r wives, You think she is stubborn and disrespectful but forgive her so that your prayers will not be grounded. Call her on phone and assure her you have forgiven! She might come up with uncooperative attitudes, but ignore it, and bury your ego, she probably wants to be sure you are remorseful. Ignore her attitude and be resolute in making your marriage work. This is what Forgiving The Lover Who Hurt You entails.

I will probably still write more on this tomorrow.

I forgive all who have hurt me

I receive strength to forgive in Jesus name

bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. (Colossians 3:13 ESV)
List out names of all who hurt you and forgive them one by one
John 1

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