When Love Feels Dry: Choosing Commitment Over Emotion

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Let’s be honest—love doesn’t always feel like “butterflies in your belly”. There are days in marriage when your spouse gets on your last nerve. There are seasons in dating when the person you thought was perfect suddenly looks very human.

Feelings are wonderful, but they are not stable. They rise and fall like waves. If you build a relationship only on how you feel, you will walk away the moment emotions dry up.

That’s why love is more than a feeling—it’s a decision. Real love chooses. It chooses to stay when the spark is faint. It chooses to forgive when hurt creeps in. It chooses to serve when selfishness feels easier.

Singles, don’t just look for someone who excites you today. Look for someone who can choose you tomorrow, even when you’re not easy to love. Ask yourself: Does this person have the strength of commitment? Do they know how to stand when life tests love?

Married couples, remember this: passion is beautiful, but partnership keeps you. Don’t wait for feelings to lead before you act in love. Don’t wait to feel like before you submit. Speak kindly even when you’re frustrated. Do the small things—help with chores, listen without interrupting, pray together. Those are choices that even reignite the feelings.

Commitment is what carries love through seasons. When the excitement dips, let choices lead. Because feelings follow actions, not the other way around.

A strong relationship is not one that never feels dry—it’s one that refuses to give up when it does.

P.S.: Singles, if your relationship is toxic, do well to run far from it o… lol