5 Don’ts in Courtship – Part 2

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5 Don’ts in Courtship – Continued from yesterday.

3. Don’t Ignore Red Flags
Overlooking warning signs—such as dishonesty, controlling behavior, or unresolved baggage—can set the stage for future problems. Matthew 7:15 warns, “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.”

Solution: Address concerns early and honestly. Seek wise counsel if something feels off, and don’t justify harmful behaviors.

4. Don’t Play Games or Manipulate
Courtship should be marked by authenticity, not manipulation or mind games. Using tactics like jealousy, silence, or guilt trips damages trust and respect. Ephesians 4:25 says, “Each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor.”

Solution: Communicate openly and sincerely. Treat each other with kindness and transparency, fostering a foundation of trust.

5. Don’t Lose Sight of Your Individual Purpose
While courtship involves growing together, losing focus on your personal calling can hinder both individuals. A healthy relationship complements your purpose—it doesn’t replace it. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us that God has plans for our lives.

Solution: Continue pursuing your passions, ministry, and spiritual growth while navigating courtship. Ensure that your goals align before committing long-term.