This is the concluding part of our series on knowing the right man for you.
8. He Builds Trust Through Consistency
Trust doesn’t happen overnight—it’s earned through consistent behavior over time. The right man for you will align his words with his actions, proving himself dependable and faithful. Psalm 15:4 describes a trustworthy person as someone “who keeps an oath even when it hurts.”
Pay attention to how he handles commitments, promises, and challenges. Consistency is a hallmark of genuine character.
9. He Seeks Wise Counsel and Accountability
A wise man surrounds himself with godly influences and isn’t afraid to ask for guidance. Proverbs 12:15 says, “The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.” If he values input from pastors, mentors, or trusted friends, it shows he’s intentional about growing spiritually and relationally.
Additionally, accountability ensures that he remains grounded and accountable in areas like purity, finances, and decision-making.
10. He Shares Your Vision for the Future
Finally, the right man for you will share your vision for building a Christ-centered home, raising children (if applicable), and serving the Kingdom together. Amos 3:3 asks, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
Alignment in core values—such as family, ministry, finances, and lifestyle—is essential for long-term unity. A shared vision ensures that you’re heading in the same direction, hand in hand.
Choosing the right man for you isn’t about perfection—it’s about partnership. No one will meet every ideal, but these qualities provide a solid framework for evaluating whether he’s the right person to journey with you through life.
Above all, seek God’s guidance in prayer and trust His timing. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
If you believe he could be the one, continue nurturing the relationship with patience, discernment, and reliance on God’s wisdom. Remember, a godly man will reflect Christ’s love and leadership in everything he does—and together, you’ll build a legacy rooted in faith, love, and obedience to God’s calling.
Yesterday, we started writing on this topic. We mentioned qualities like his relationship with God, how he treats you, his ability to protect your purity and your heart, and his ability to communicate openly and honestly.
True love involves sacrifice—an unselfish willingness to put your needs above his own desires. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
While this passage specifically addresses husbands, sacrificial love should characterize all godly men. Does he prioritize your happiness? Does he serve you willingly, even when it costs him something? These actions reveal the depth of his love.
6. He Supports Your Dreams and Goals
A man who sees you as a co-laborer in life—not just a companion—will encourage you to pursue your passions and fulfill your God-given purpose. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
Similarly, finding the right man means discovering someone who celebrates your talents and stands beside you as you grow. He’ll cheer you on and help you overcome obstacles along the way.
7. He Leads with Humility and Integrity
Leadership isn’t about control; it’s about serving others with humility and leading by example. The right man will take responsibility for his actions, admit mistakes, and seek wisdom from Scripture and mentors.
Micah 6:8 challenges us to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God. A humble leader inspires trust and creates a partnership based on mutual respect.
Finding the right life partner is one of the most significant decisions you’ll ever make. It’s not just about chemistry or compatibility—it’s about aligning with someone who shares your values, respects your boundaries, and walks alongside you in faith and purpose. Here are 10 key indicators that he might be the right man for you.
1. He Pursues a Relationship with God First
The foundation of any godly relationship is a shared commitment to Christ. If he prioritizes his walk with God—through prayer, Bible study, worship, and service—you can trust that his character will reflect spiritual maturity.
2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.” A man who loves God wholeheartedly will naturally lead your relationship in alignment with biblical principles.
2. He Treats You with Honor and Respect
A godly man treats you as a cherished daughter of the King. He listens attentively, speaks kindly, and values your opinions. Ephesians 5:33 instructs husbands to love their wives and treat them with respect—a principle that applies even before marriage. If he consistently honors you and avoids belittling or dismissing you, it’s a strong sign of his integrity and care.
3. He Values Your Purity and Protects Your Heart
The right man understands the importance of purity and won’t pressure you to compromise your values. Instead, he’ll create an environment where you feel safe and respected.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 calls believers to live holy lives, avoiding sexual immorality. A man who truly loves you will protect both your physical and emotional well-being by honoring God’s design for intimacy within marriage.
4. He Communicates Openly and Honestly
Healthy relationships thrive on clear communication. The right man will express his thoughts, feelings, and intentions without hiding behind games or manipulation. James 1:19 encourages us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
Look for a man who seeks understanding, resolves conflicts peacefully, and isn’t afraid to have difficult conversations when necessary.
In today’s digital age, social media has become an integral part of our daily lives, but it has also introduced new challenges into romantic relationships. Establishing healthy boundaries around social media use is about honoring God and your partner in the way you present yourself and your relationship to the world.
Social media boundaries begin with trust and transparency. When couples openly discuss their expectations about online interactions, they create a foundation built on mutual respect. This aligns with Proverbs 27:5, which tells us, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love.” Honest conversations about what feels comfortable regarding likes, comments, direct messages, and connections with ex-partners prevent misunderstandings and build deeper intimacy.
The Bible emphasizes the importance of guarding our hearts and minds. Philippians 4:8 instructs us to focus on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable.” This principle should guide how we engage with content and people on social platforms. If certain interactions or content consumption create jealousy, temptation, or discord in your relationship, it may be time to establish firmer boundaries.
Social media can become a breeding ground for comparison and dissatisfaction when couples constantly expose themselves to others’ highlight reels. Set limits on sharing intimate details of your relationship online. Some moments are sacred and meant to be private between you, your partner, and God. Matthew 6:6 speaks about the importance of private devotion: “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen.”
Effective social media boundaries might include agreeing not to air relationship conflicts publicly, being transparent about friendships and interactions with others, limiting time spent on social platforms when together, and regularly evaluating how social media affects your relationship’s health.
Ultimately, healthy social media boundaries reflect a couple’s commitment to prioritizing their relationship and glorifying God in their digital interactions. When both partners willingly establish and respect these boundaries, they create space for deeper connection, greater trust, and a relationship that honors the Creator who designed love itself.
The goal isn’t to eliminate social media entirely but to use it in ways that strengthen rather than strain your relationship.
Regret in relationships usually does not come because God was silent. Most times, it comes because we went ahead without any plan. We rushed decisions in the heat of attraction, excitement, or even pressure from friends and culture.
Emotions can be very loud; they have a way of drowning out values if those values are not firmly in place. And the truth is, when you are “in the moment,” it is almost impossible to think clearly if you have not already decided where you stand.
That is why you need to set some things in place before you get swept up. Call them your non-negotiables, your personal rules, your anchors — whatever name you give them.
You need anchors already planted.
Examples? Let them be simple, clear, and gospel-centered. Something like:
• “I will not date someone who consistently disregards God, no matter how attractive they seem.” That rule saves you from long explanations and compromises later.
• “I will seek counsel before committing to a relationship that feels rushed.” That keeps you from being swept away by the charm of a moment.
• “I will never stay in a relationship that feeds secrecy, shame, or sin.” That one principle can save you from years of heartbreak.
Notice something? These decisions are not about fear, and they are not about ticking boxes. They are anchors — steady points that hold you in place when everything inside you wants to drift. They remind you that God’s wisdom is not about limiting joy, but about protecting it.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault.” — James 1:5(NIV)
The good part of making these decisions and commitments is that it saves you from yourself. It is like having a trusted version of you — your clear-minded, prayerful, Spirit-led self — speak into the moments when your emotional self is too clouded to think. It is you saying ahead of time, “I know what I believe. I know where my boundaries are. I know what honors God.” And that brings freedom. You no longer have to panic in the face of pressure or compromise, because the decision has already been made.
Think back on your biggest regrets — chances are, most of them came when you did not stop to ask: What principle should guide me here? Imagine how different your story could have been if you had a pre-decided anchor to hold onto.
In conclusion:
You need at least one clear line you can fall back on when your emotions get loud. Write it down. Save it on your phone. You can even tell a friend to call you out, to check you…. Do that and you will save yourself from a lot of “if only” later.
