The Drawer of Relationship and Marriage. Back then in our University days, we had to go and fetch water some five houses away when our water tank got depleted. We would usually use a water drawer, which could be scarce in those days.
Without the drawer, you are on your own. The one with the drawer was always the champion.
When you are the one that owns the drawer, you simply guard it jealously, because some fellows can be careless and break the drawer, spoil the rope and it would start leaking and all.
I want to teach you this morning how not to spoil your drawer! What is The Drawer of Relationship and Marriage?
Salvation is more than being saved from sin. The word salvation is “Yeshua” in Hebrews and it means deliverance, welfare, prosperity, salvation, victory (in relationship and marriage) and more.
Think of Salvation as well. Think of drawing protection, life, deliverance, health, prosperity, and more from that well.
What is The Drawer of Relationship and Marriage? How do I ensure my drawer is not spoiled so I can fetch good relationships, courtship, and marriage?
Here it is!
Isa 12:3 (KJV) Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.
With joy! Joy is The Drawer of Relationship and Marriage!
No wonder the devil attacks your joy! No wonder your exuberance is always in contention!
Yorubas call Drawer “Doro!” Hey, don’t come and spoil my Doro!
When that guy starts disturbing you as a single for sex, he wants to spoil your drawer! Because afterward, you are going to be filled with guilt, lose your joy, and can’t fetch anything!
Husbands and wives, those little altercations that you allow to degenerate into strife and bickering, you are spoiling your drawer!
Guard your joy! Protect your Doro.
Leave my drawer alone!
It is not every quarrel you respond to. It is not every right you contend for. Go for peace and apologize quickly so you can fetch all you need out of that well per time!
Envy, jealousy, gossip, strife, bitterness, unforgiving spirit, animosity, and the like will spoil your drawer.
Avoiding them like a plague is simply how not to spoil your drawer!
Know this and know peace!
Good morning!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I keep my joy intact
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 12:3 (MSG) Joyfully you’ll pull up buckets of water from the wells of salvation.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY End all strife and bickering
The Rock And Hole of Marriage. The ubiety of duality cuts across the landscape of human endeavors. Life has a way of dishing it out in twos. Man and woman. Boy and girl. Husband and wife. Heaven and earth. Light and darkness. Life and death. I could go on and on.
In the same vein, there are two coordinates I want to establish this morning with their significance and application.
The Rock And Hole of Marriage.
Let’s take a look at scripture.
Isa 51:1 (KJV) Hearken to me, ye that follow after righteousness, ye that seek the LORD: look unto the rock whence ye are hewn, and to the hole of the pit whence ye are digged.
We are exhorted to look at two things; the rock and the hole.
In our relationship or marriages, you are dealing with two dimensions in your spouse or lover if you are not yet wedded.
Your spouse or lover is a product of rock and hole.
The rock is that which you look up to. The scripture says that rock is Christ.
Look unto Jesus, constantly and continuously beholding His word.
In your relationship or marriage, that rock must be your motivation, allowing it to draw you and pull you closer to God. The closer you and your spouse or lover yield to that rock, the more you experience God, and the more you are established as a rock.
But then, we are told to look at the hole as well. The hole from which we are dug.
The hole represents that past where you came from. The mess from which your message emanated. The hole is that which you were delivered from. It is the snare that has been broken, and from which your soul has escaped. It is the past bondage that held you by the jugular, that the power of Christ, the rock pulled you from.
Why look at the hole? I can understand looking at the rock, it’s positive, and it presents a picture of progress. But the hole?
Well, looking at the hole is to usher you into perpetual gratitude, to have an overwhelming heart of thanksgiving to God for where he dug you from.
You could have died in that hole, but He brought you out and made you whole! Glory to God.
Looking unto the rock keeps you fired up and productive. Looking unto the hole keeps you humble and filled with thanksgiving.
These two dimensions, when engaged, keep you in your marriage and relationship. The Rock And Hole of Marriage.
May God grant you more understanding.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I look to the rock constantly
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, establish me upon the rock
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 51:1 (MSG) “Listen to me, all you who are serious about right living and committed to seeking GOD. Ponder the rock from which you were cut, the quarry from which you were dug.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Thank God for digging you out of the hole
Kisses of Enemies And Wounds Of Friends. Ade met Sally and professed his love. He was all over her. Six months later, Sally was heartbroken. Ade became her enemy. There have been several kisses, but they were kisses of an enemy.
Mr. and Mrs. Johnson have married two years ago. Mr. Johnson had a bad habit that only his wife knows. His wife was on his case, until he began to make changes. His ego was bruised, and his pride was punctured, but he got better. He was wounded, but they were wounds of a friend.
The scripture is filled with God’s wisdom. There is enough wisdom in God’s word such that, if followed, crises in relationships and marriages will be minimized.
Let’s take a look at the scripture
Pro 27:6 (KJV) Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
There is an obvious contradiction in the verse above. I would have understood if the Bible says “The kisses of a friend and the wounds of an enemy. But the scripture says “Wounds of a friend and the kisses of an enemy.”
The friend comes with wounds. The enemy comes with kisses. Kisses of Enemies And Wounds Of Friends
Your lover or spouse will often come with wounds, yet he meant well. Corrections and confrontations will burst you ego, will dissolve your pride and will challenge your weakness zone! You will feel wounded either in courtship or marriage because that which you are used to is being unsettled.
Never refuse instructions from your spouse because your spouse knows you in and out.
Pro 15:32 (KJV) He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding.
Get ready to be wounded by those who love you! The one decorating you with kisses only is actually an enemy! The one that doesn’t correct you and tells you what you want to hear all the time is an enemy.
True love can be tough. God chastises those He loves! It pleased God for Jesus to be wounded so that we might be saved. It took a kiss from Judas for Jesus to be betrayed.
A kiss came from the devil because the Bible says Satan entered Judas. But a wound came from God to Jesus. He was wounded for our transgressions!
Your friend is a “wounder” and your enemy is a “kisser! Know this and know peace!
When you understand these dynamics, you will know that your spouse is not an enemy, the one who is not your spouse but is taking advantage and telling you stuff is actually an enemy! This is where we will stop on Kisses of Enemies And Wounds Of Friends. May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not cooperate with my enemy
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God to show you the motives of people around you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 15:32 (MSG) An undisciplined, self-willed life is puny; an obedient, God-willed life is spacious.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Appreciate those who correct you
Love Before And After Wedding. Don’t Fall In Love With Just Anybody. Why fall in love with another person’s spouse? What do you wish the other person? That he or she should die so that you can get married to that person? Not a good wish and that is a prayer God will never answer.
Such desires waste your time, it blinds you to the original thing God wants to do in your life and ultimately bring delay in God’s individual plan for you. Besides, you will be endangering your life. The wrath of a man or woman whose spouse is being trifled with is not something to experience.
It’s the same when you have sex with your neighbor’s wife: Touch her and you’ll pay for it. No excuses. Adultery is a brainless act, soul–destroying, self–destructive; Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good (Proverbs 6:29,32-33 Message)
Why fall in love with a person you cannot spend your life with? You don’t like him, but you are in love. You know he doesn’t like you but you are in love. The pastor must not know about the relationship, but you are in love. Your parents must have none of that relationship, but you are in love. All your friends are warning you about this person, but you are in love. God’s principles are being violated but you are in love.
Well, that would not really be love, because you cannot love a person you don’t like! Something is amiss somewhere and it is an indication for you to apply the brakes.
Why fall in love with a man because of money?
You don’t love him, you hate his guts, but now you have fallen in love with his money. Man is not designed to be Jehovah Jireh, so don’t attempt to invent that.
That man promising you heaven and earth will fail you in the end. Why? Man is built to disappoint!
Why do you put up with him? Money? The wrong purpose for sticking together! Why would you put up with an older woman? Money? Wrong way of living! It is what Jesus Christ referred to as the deceitfulness of riches.
Married Couples – Love Before And After Wedding
Married couples, You fall in love over and over again with your spouse after the wedding because it keeps the marriage fire burning. It is what you must do deliberately.
Love Before And After Wedding. Let’s talk to married couples.
In marriage, you should not allow the fire to go out. Be creative. Never stop wooing each other.
There are intense temptations and traps out there, so you protect each other by falling in love repeatedly! Take yourselves out again. Toast her again. Get the flowers and write the poems again!
When you make that sacrifice for each other, you will have peace of mind in your marriage and you will be able to maximize the power of agreement that lies in a good marriage!
Finally, what do you do when you find yourself in love with the wrong person? Walk away. Run away. Fly away! By all means, save your soul!
Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler. (Proverbs 6:5 KJV)
I know it can be uneasy because of emotional connection, but when you think of the inevitable agony that lies ahead, the consequences of disobedience that are sure to come, the disenfranchising of oneself from the favour and support of God, and the delay of God’s beautiful plan, when you think about all those and more and you sum them together, you will muster enough strength to fly away and say a “strong NO” to a wrong lifestyle.
And the beauty of it all, God will be waiting to embrace you and make all things right! Decide today! May you receive strength today to live for God! This is Love Before And After Wedding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will give you direction
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:5 (MSG) Run like a deer from the hunter, fly like a bird from the trapper!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all ungodly relationships
How To Be Romantic And Spiritual. Being spiritual is one thing, being romantic is another. One should not take the place of the other in marriage. Both are essential, necessary, and needed for successful family life.
The Speaking After speaking in tongues, make sure you speak to each other. This “speaking” is important and should be perpetual. Toasting should not end on the wedding day, in fact, it should just begin. Speaking the right words is needed for a great sexual experience, especially for the wife. It helps her to get ready!
On the other hand, singles should use the right words for each other, and align their souls rather than their bodies. The bodies are meant to come together after the wedding, not before.
What should come together before the wedding is the souls, in the place of beautiful conversation, healthy chats, romantic exchanges of words, making plans for the future, and envisioning the future together.
Speaking in tongues should not replace speaking loving words to each other. Both are very important. Speaking loving words to your lover should not replace speaking loving words to your creator.
Both are lovers. God is the lover of your soul, your dear one is the lover of your body! God loves you to speak loving words to Him. Your lover craves loving words to be spoken to him or her. After you have prayed, make sure you also play with your loved one!
There must be a balance of the romantic and the spiritual in order to keep your love life going and in order to make the relationship lead to marriage. This is How To Be Romantic And Spiritual
Speaking loving words to each other will keep false assumptions away. Speaking in tongues will keep demonic influence away.
Speaking loving, romantic words to each other adds strength to your love life. Speaking in tongues adds strength to your inner man.
With your love life, you fight doubt and insecurities. With your inner man, you fight and wade off attacks of the enemy.
That is why the scripture emphasizes that romance alone will not deliver.
Rom 14:17 (KJV) For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
That is, if you want to bring the kingdom of God into your relationship or marriage, it is not in meat and drinks alone, it is not in ice cream and cinema outings alone, it is also in right living, in Shalom, and in the Holy Spirit!
Do you get it? That he is handsome alone would not be enough, can he speak in tongues? That she has hot legs alone would not suffice, does she have a hot heart as well?
I will stop here this morning! This is How To Be Romantic And Spiritual
As we begin a new month, I pray for you, that God will bring a new beginning into your life.
I prophesy new beginnings in your relationships, marriage, home, family, finances, and career.
So shall it be for you in Jesus’ name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a love being
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to balance my love life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 14:17 (MSG) God’s kingdom isn’t a matter of what you put in your stomach, for goodness’ sake. It’s what God does with your life as he sets it right, puts it together, and completes it with joy.
