One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid. At the meeting of married couples I facilitated sometimes back outside the country, I was asked whether married couples can view pornography since they are already married. My response was No!
“Pastor, why would you say so? At least, we are married, and we can do anything in the sanctity of our marriage!”
James 1:14-15 But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
Well, here are a few reasons why I would not advocate that you bring viewing pornography into your marriage.
There is a spirit behind pornography
The strongman of perversion is behind pornography. When you start viewing pornography, single or married, you open yourself or your home to the influence of these spirits.
There will be what is called transference of spirits. And you will not like the consequences of that, especially years later.
When a two-year-old who has not been exposed to anything sexual whatsoever, start humping against the wall or against a teddy bear, you can guess where the inspiration is coming from.
Everything carries a spirit. You wouldn’t want those wrong spirits messing up your home.
Avoid soft porn, Kama-Sutra, and some disguised pornography. It is a subtle attempt of the devil to have an in-road into your precious family. Do not cooperate with the devil in that area!
2. It would suck you in the more The second reason is the fact that it will not only get your heart dirty with all the sadistic and demonic drama, but it will also come with a strong pull at your heart.
The possibility of addiction is so strong that if you are not careful, sex will be incomplete until you have watched pornography. After a while, regular pornography will not satisfy you, and there will be a pull towards more unimaginable perversion like bestiality, bondage, and submission dimensions!
You will start exploring sexual toys! All these terrains are not the way to go for a believer!
It has the capacity not only to mess up your sex life but to destroy the marriage and also to mess up your relationship with God. This is One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid
3. There will be a comparison Your spouse would be placed under undue pressure of performance of all you have seen and watched.
What you fail to realize, however, is that all the drama and sexual antics are mostly done under the effect of drugs, so powerful to numb every dignity out of a human!
It will be so unfair and almost bothering on wickedness to ask your wife to act out what you see in pornography.
You might be violating her conscience, and yours as well and then eventually awakening the liberty for her to cheat on you as a result of all you watch together.
You need to know that what you see is acted. They are performing for the screen and money!
Forced to act enjoying what is humanly debilitating! Well, I will stop here this morning! I want to believe you have been blessed with this topic “One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid”
Remain blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse every form of perversion
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, set me free from all forms of bondage in the mind
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 5:28 (MSG) But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out every pornographic item from your house and destroy them
What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. We are going to be looking at five things that a lady expects from her lover.
1. She expects that she would be genuinely loved Every lady wants to be loved. The need for love can be so strong that ladies can give their body to get it, but sadly, they never get it that way. Love can never be gotten on the platform of sexual compromise.
Husbands love your wife, so says the scripture because God knows this is a great need of women. If you are not going to love her genuinely, let her be!
Don’t leave that beautiful, vivacious lady depressed, despondent and disappointed! Love her genuinely!
2. She expects that he is no longer living in sin A believer does not live habitually in sin. He can make mistakes, but that is different from a habitual sinful lifestyle. He is not constantly talking about some hyper-grace message in other to keep living in sexual sins.
Rom 6:1-2 (KJV) What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? [2] God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
She does not want the man that would spend hours trying to show her in the Bible why sexual sin is not really a sin!
3. She expects himto pray for her Every lady wants a priest! A priest, not a pest! Honestly as a man, if you cannot pray for her, if you cannot take spiritual responsibility and provide spiritual leadership, leave her alone!
Don’t tag along into marriage with that attitude. Being a man is not just about pointing your nozzle and filing tanks all over the place, it is about leadership and modeling God to her and the children.
It’s a huge responsibility! What Else Does A Lady Expect from her Lover?
4. She expects that he will not take advantage of her She wants a man that will not take advantage of her! She wants a protector, a man of integrity, a head, not a headache, a gardener, not a scavenger. Are you in that lady’s life to take advantage of her? Don’t do it, remember seed time and harvest.
A lady expects you will not capitalize on her weaknesses to set her up. She expects you will not use all info about her against her eventually.
5. She expects that he is responsible and will be able to care for her Finally, a lady expects to be cared for. As a man, be responsible. If you are out of job, find a work. Sometimes, the loss of a job or inability to get a job while your other friends are getting could be an avenue to lead you into the discovery of God’s purpose for your life.
It takes a wicked man to willfully and deliberately rip apart a lady’s once peaceful life. God judges such things! If you are not going to care for her, stop telling her lies.
If you want her as a side chick, you will bring chaos into your life and her own. Ladies, allowing yourself to be labelled as a side-chick is an embarrassment on your dignity in God.
Disallow such. Why be a side-chick when you can be the main and the only chick?
Your husband cometh! Do not give up on God! These are What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. Be blessed
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be shortchanged
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, surround me with your favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 6:1 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships
You Don’t Have Much Time! Sometimes back, in not too much of a distant past, God gave us a boy. So tiny, so little, I could carry him with one of my palms. Fast forward to now, the guy is presently serving with NYSC.
Everything was fast! In a couple of years, I would easily and successfully become a grandpa! What? I am still trying to feel like a dad and now the grand dad thing is beckoning gently!
The scripture says: Eph 5:15-16 (KJV) See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, [16] Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Eph 5:15-16 (MSG) So watch your step. Use your head. [16] Make the most of every chance you get. These are desperate times!
Dear husband and wife, this is the time to work together. This is the time to make the most of every chance you have.
Don’t use half of your lifetime quarreling, settling quarrels, getting in and out of strife, living in perpetual suspicion, and never harnessing the power that lies in the prayer of agreement.
The scripture makes us understand that as husband and wife, your productivity is supposed to mount up in leaps and bounds.
You are supposed to get better in a divine synergy that will touch lives around you.
This requires you to make up your mind to avoid unnecessary quarrels, stay out of strife and forgive quickly.
Not talking to each other for weeks, picking quarrels at every instance, and trying to change your spouse are all energy wasters. You Don’t Have Much Time!
Take a look more at this: Rom 13:11 (MSG) But make sure that you don’t get so absorbed and exhausted in taking care of all your day-by-day obligations that you lose track of the time and doze off, oblivious to God.
Never get so absorbed in other things at the expense of God
It is only with God that your time can be maximized.
It further says:
Rom 13:12 (MSG) The night is about over, dawn is about to break. Be up and awake to what God is doing! God is putting the finishing touches on the salvation work he began when we first believed.
The night is about to be over!
You don’t have much time, do you?
That dream that lies in the pages of your diary, gathering dust on the shelf, when will you give birth to it.? The pregnancy of aspirations you have carried for years when will deliver?
I think it is about time! Finally look at this:
Rom 13:13 (MSG) We can’t afford to waste a minute, must not squander these precious daylight hours in frivolity and indulgence, in sleeping around and dissipation, in bickering and grabbing everything in sight.
Work together as a husband and wife and let the glory that is embedded in the purpose for which you came together come into reality!
The price to pay is to decide to follow God, forgive easily, love each other unconditionally and pray more!
I pray sincerely for you this morning!
God will strengthen you to work together and fulfill your destiny!
The reason for which you came together as a family will become a reality in Jesus’ name! Remember, You Don’t Have Much Time!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We will be productive
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, keep us together
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 13:12 (CEV) Night is almost over, and day will soon appear. We must stop behaving as people do in the dark and be ready to live in the light.
How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage. When the devil wants to finish a person, he would plant bitterness in the person’s heart.
It could be bitterness toward men or towards God.
However, it is, bitterness will cripple every good thing that God is trying to do in your life.
Heb 12:15 (KJV)
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
The grace of God over a man would fail when bitterness is allowed.
Grace for finances will fail.
Grace to have a good marriage will fail.
Grace to succeed in business will fail.
Grace for financial abundance will fail.
Not only that, bitterness will not only affect the one that is bitter, the scripture says it will cause many to be defiled.
And then, the scripture calls it the root of bitterness!
Roots are hidden, but they are there!
Roots are not visible, but they are responsible for everything happening to the plant.
Their invisibility should never be interpreted as impotence.
This is the same way it is, bitterness will not show on the face, but it will take over that person’s life.
Like the root within the soil, the fruits will come forth.
Like the bitterness within the heart, the fruits will wreak havoc.
Just as the root is responsible for the kind of fruits that eventually come forth, bitterness will ensure that wrong fruits come forth.
Bitterness would literally cause praise to be suffocated.
Learn to laugh like a little child!
Don’t let the bitterness of past relationships and disappointments of the past keep you from the reality of today’s praise!
Praise is powerful. You must learn How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Thank God for where you are.
Thank God for where He is taking you.
Praise your way out of rejection.
Praise your way out of delay.
Praise your way out of generational curses.
Praise your way out of diabolical influences.
Praise is a potent weapon.
Praise puts a sword into your hands.
Psa 149:6-9 (KJV) Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand; [7] To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and punishments upon the people; [8] To bind their kings with chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron; [9] To execute upon them the judgment written: this honour have all his saints. Praise ye the LORD.
The moment high praises are in your mouth, a two-edged sword will be placed in your heart!
You don’t need to take vengeance on people, praise will handle it.
Praise will punish destiny offenders.
Praise will bind erring kings with chains.
Praise will execute the judgment written.
All saints have this honor.
What honour?
To praise your way into victory.
To lift up your voice without lifting your hands.
Praise! This is How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Keep praising!
You will surely see that salvation of God in Jesus’ name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a God-praiser
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me reasons to praise you for the rest of my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 149:5 (KJV) Let the saints be joyful in glory: let them sing aloud upon their beds.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Schedule a praise time for today!
How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse. The words “Leave” and “Cleave” stand out in the verses we are considering today. An understanding of those words will greatly help us in our marriage!
Gen 2:24 (KJV) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The word “Leave” means to loosen, relinquish, permit, and forsake
It is a total departure.
But it is never a disconnection.
The man has to do the leaving.
Without leaving, there will never be a successful marriage.
All undue interference and control from the parents must be minimized.
The word “Cleave” means cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit: – abide, follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), and pursue hard
Allegiance must shift from parents to your wife.
This is what marriage is.
Your wife comes first on the wedding day.
Your spouse becomes your priority.
Your mum is another man’s wife, not your wife.
Your own wife must be your priority.
Cleaving means to catch by pursuit, so you never stop pursuing your wife.
You keep at it, even after the wedding.
In the pursuit lies the cleaving.
The man is to cleave unto HIS OWN wife!
An attempt to cleave to another man’s wife will usher in a marital crisis.
It also means to follow close.
Be joined and connected to her emotionally and otherwise.
When things seem not to be going right, you don’t quit.
This is How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse
You don’t pack your stuff and start singing songs of divorce when there is a little provocation.
This is what cleaving is.
It is just like your relationship with God.
You are to cleave unto Him and not try to leave when things seem not to be going your own way.
Leaving God and refusing to cleave will complicate issues, and that is the same thing in marriage.
You are to cleave for life!
Any attempt to leave is a tearing part that would be painful.
Stay with each other no matter what.
Cleaving means that you are dedicated to each other.
It means sharing with each other on the deepest level.
It means enjoying each other and supplying warmth for yourselves. This is How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse
Ecc 4:11 (KJV) Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
I pray that God will grant understanding.
Your marriage will not suffer a crisis.
Your marriage will not lose that godly steam.
I pray that God will pour new wine into your marriage and cause the love between you to come alive!
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will cleave to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to leave completely and cleave fully to my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecc 4:11 (CEV) If you sleep alone, you won’t have anyone to keep you warm on a cold night4
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cleave to your spouse in a special way today
