Why Radical Honesty is Revolutionizing Relationships

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The dating game is changing. And honestly? It’s about time. Stop me if you’ve heard this before: Three months into a relationship, you discover your partner wants completely different things in life. Or worse, they’ve been hiding who they really are, wearing a mask just to impress you. Sound familiar?

Welcome to 2025, where a new trend called “Loud Looking” is flipping the script on modern dating. And surprisingly, it looks a lot like what the Bible has been teaching for thousands of years.

What is “Loud Looking?

Loud Looking is the practice of being radically transparent from day one. No games, pretence, or holding back your true intentions, flaws, or deal-breakers until you’re safely in a relationship. It’s about being loud and clear about who you are and what you want immediately.

Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.(Ephesians 4:25)

God designed us to be truthful with each other because we’re interconnected. When you hide your true self from someone you’re dating, you’re not just being dishonest, you’re preventing a real connection from happening.

For years, dating culture has taught us to:

Hide our “crazy” until they’re hooked
Downplay our needs to seem “low maintenance”
Pretend we don’t want commitment when we actually do
Filter ourselves to be more “dateable”

The reality is that you will attract someone who likes the filtered version of you, not the real you. Then you spend months or years trying to maintain an exhausting performance, only to have it all fall apart when reality catches up.

Jesus had something to say about this, too: