Why Men Are Losing Authority

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Why Modern Men Are Losing Authority

There’s a growing crisis in relationships today, and it’s making both men and women frustrated, confused, and bitter. Men are asking, Why won’t she submit? while women are asking, Why should I follow someone who acts this way?

The present generation of men wants the authority their grandfathers had. They want to quote “wives submit to your husbands” while conveniently skipping the part about dying for their wives.

Meanwhile, women are waking up, educated, financially independent, spiritually growing, emotionally intelligent, and asking a fair question: “Why should I submit to someone who hasn’t earned the right to lead?”

“Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.” (James 3:1)

If you want authority, understand that God holds leaders to a higher standard. Yes, the Bible speaks about male leadership in marriage and family.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:25-28)

Did you catch that? Biblical authority isn’t about SACRIFICE nor CONTROL. It’s about loving your wife the way Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church? He died for it. Not occasionally inconvenienced or slightly bothered. He gave everything. He put her needs above His own. He washed feet. He served. He protected. He provided. He led by example.

That’s the biblical standard for male authority. If you’re not willing to meet that standard, you have no business demanding submission.

Selah!