When Children Enter the Picture

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When Children Enter the Picture

Children are a blessing from God. They bring joy, laughter, and a sense of legacy. But… Ehm… children also bring stress, sleepless nights, financial pressure, and less time for romance. And many couples love their kids but quietly lose each other in the process.

But here’s a reminder:

Marriage is the first covenant, parenting comes after. If you neglect your marriage while raising kids, you’ll one day look across the table—after the children are grown—and see a stranger. That’s why wise couples learn to guard their love even in the chaos of parenting.

For singles, hear this: don’t just ask, “Will this person be a good spouse?” Ask, “Will this person be a good parent—and will they still choose me when kids come?” A person who doesn’t know how to balance love and responsibility will either pour everything into the children and starve the marriage, or neglect the children chasing their own freedom. Neither is healthy.

If you’re married already, learn this: your children need a healthy marriage more than they need perfect parents. Yes! So, SHOW them what love looks like by loving each other openly. Go on dates, hold hands, talk beyond school runs and house chores. Let your kids see that before “Mum and Dad,” you were “husband and wife.”

Parenting works best when love in marriage remains the anchor. Children thrive in homes where security is not only provided by rules and routines, but also by affection and unity.

So, whether you are single or married, prepare yourself. A family is not just about raising children—it’s about building love that can raise children well.