The Danger of Silent Drift

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The Danger of Silent Drift

Not every marriage ends with a big fight. Sometimes it ends with silence.

There was once a couple who didn’t argue much. No raised voices, no plates broken. But slowly, they stopped talking about their dreams. They only spoke about bills, children’s school runs, and whose turn it was to do the chores. Years passed, and one morning they looked at each other and realised—they were strangers living under the same roof.

My dear singles, you don’t want a relationship where there’s no conflict simply because there’s no depth.

Better pay attention now—or you will pay dearly tomorrow.

Does the person you’re with ask about your dreams, your fears, your calling? Or do they only skim the surface—what you ate, what you wore, where you went? If they can’t open up emotionally now, marriage won’t magically fix it.

Couples, silent drift begins when you stop being curious about each other. You used to talk for hours. Now you only exchange schedules. You used to pray together. Now you scroll your phones in silence.

But remember: intimacy is not automatic; it has to be nurtured.

Break the silence. Ask questions again:

“How are you—really?”

“What’s been on your heart lately?”

“What are you dreaming about these days?”

Sometimes the spark returns simply because you took the time to listen deeply.

Proverbs 20:5 “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”

Draw your spouse out. Draw your friend out. Don’t let silence swallow your love.

Love rarely dies loudly—it dies quietly, when we stop talking. Don’t let that be your story.

The Danger of Silent Drift