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The Five Magic Words Every Couple Should Know

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Dec 2, 2021 | Couples

Reading Time: 2 minutes

I was thinking about why they are called magic words. Are they really magical in the use of them or they are merely nursery rhymes, we learnt when growing up?

I believe these words are truly magical. Just as the Bible says that soft answers turn away wrath

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Pro 15:1

In marriage, words are so important because in marriage what we do basically is talk. We express our feeling, our emotions, our thoughts, our insecurities, and all these could either be positive or negative.

Communication is however not complete until what we are saying is understood by the other party. Ninety percent of the quarrels in marriage can and would be avoided if we follow the Bible injunction of using soft answers.

Couples who have mastered the art of speaking in certain ways or using certain phrases in their marriage have been more successful in avoiding strife.

It really works, when my husband and I started saying to ourselves, ‘I cannot fight you, we are one and we are joined together. It helped us better resolve whatever was bothering us.

As insignificant as these words seem, their effects on the hearer work wonders. Remember, God will not come down to help us speak to our spouse. We have to learn the art of being pleasant, speaking calmly, and avoiding harsh words.

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Of course, we are not restricted to just these five words:

1. I am sorry

2. Thank you

3. Please

4. Excuse me

5. Pardon me

We can adapt these words in our different situations. Let learn to stop, calm down before we speak. Don’t let us be rash in our speaking and with our tongue. Let us learn better ways to communicate better.

We can say the same things in several different ways. Let’s also watch our tone and our body language. Respect is important to guys and any form of disrespect, they frown at it immediately.

Dear husband, your wife is an emotional being and they respond to words.

The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.

Psa 55:21

If your words are kind and soft, you will get a better reaction from her. You cannot get the best from your wife if you keep shouting at her and throwing commands at her as though she is your servant.

Make your marriage better by speaking to yourselves more kindly.

God bless our marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I speak with my spouse kindly and respectfully

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
I receive help to bridle my tongue

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Pro 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Register for KHC Couples’ camp meeting.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Pro 15

Rev. Sophia Okunowo