When You Find Conflict In Love

by Ogbonnaya Akpoke | May 30, 2025 | Singles and Married

When You Find Conflict In Love

Disagreements are not proof that something is wrong with your relationship.

They are proof that two different people have chosen to do life together — and that’s bound to get “messy” sometimes.

Singles, have you heard that myth that “real love means we never fight”? Don’t fall for it!

Conflict isn’t the enemy. Disrespect is. Watch how the person reacts when you disagree. Do they listen? Do they shut down? Do they insult or withdraw?

Because how they handle small disagreements is a preview of how they’ll handle bigger ones in marriage.

Married couples, stop expecting your spouse to read your mind.

Your silence isn’t helping. Your sarcasm isn’t solving anything either.

If there’s a disagreement, speak! Speak clearly. Speak kindly. Speak early — before frustration builds.

And when they talk, don’t listen just to defend your point. Listen to understand.

When next you find conflict in love, here are a few practical things to try:

1. Use “I feel” statements instead of accusations. (“I feel hurt when…” is better than “You never…”)

2. Avoid yelling or storming out — take a break if needed, but promise to return to the conversation.

3. Pray before confronting, not after exploding.

4. And please, don’t bring in friends or family to take sides. Protect your relationship from unnecessary eyes.

“Let every word you speak be drenched with grace and tempered with truth and clarity. For then you will be prepared to give a respectful answer to anyone who asks about your faith.” Colossians 4‬:6[TPT]‬‬

Conflict, handled with grace, deepens connection. It forces growth. It teaches patience. It invites humility.

So no, conflict isn’t a sign of failure. It’s an opportunity to love better — if you let it. So let it.

Shalom