Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
Marriage is an institution that has existed for thousands of years. It’s a union between two people who commit themselves to one another in the most intimate and personal way possible. The fact that it’s lasted this long suggests there is something about marriage itself that we value. But what, exactly?
Here are a few thoughts on what makes a good marriage.
A good marriage is based on respect
A good marriage is based on respect. Respect is a two-way street. It means that each partner respects the other person’s feelings and opinions, as well as their own.
This doesn’t mean that couples are never at odds with one another. Conflict is inevitable in any healthy relationship, but it should never be allowed to escalate into disrespect of one another.
The partners need to be open to speaking frankly with one another, while also listening attentively to one another and understanding the other person’s perspective or point of view.
Communication is key
It sounds very cliché, but it’s true: communication is key to achieving a good marriage. You have to talk to each other and work on the problems together.
There’s nothing worse than being married and not knowing what your spouse feels like because they don’t talk to you.
One of the most important aspects of a successful marriage is good communication.
There are many ways to communicate, but it’s particularly important for both parties to share their feelings and thoughts with one another.
For example, if one partner feels neglected and begins to withdraw from the relationship, it’s vital that they tell the other person how they feel.
Communication creates understanding and can help prevent problems before they escalate.
To have a good marriage, you need to be committed
The commitment is the key ingredient for a good marriage. Successful marriages are about two people who are willing to commit to one another and work together through the good times and bad times.
It’s also so important that both partners are committed to the relationship. If one person isn’t committed, then it could doom the marriage from the start.
A good marriage isn’t perfect
The first thing to keep in mind about marriage is that it’s not perfect. Even when two people are deeply committed to one another, there will be times where you disagree and times where you might feel unhappy. But with a good marriage, these disagreements are just part of the process.
In fact, research suggests that a marriage can grow stronger after a disagreement has taken place because the couple knows they have each other’s back. This type of relationship is better able to withstand the inevitable challenges life throws at it.
Marriage is work
Marriage is work. It’s not just a piece of paper you sign to make it valid. Marriage takes commitment and sacrifice – but the rewards are worth it.
You have to make time for one another
Marriage is all about commitment, and making time for one another is a big part of it. Too many couples put everything else in their lives ahead of their significant others. That’s not what marriage is about! You need to make time for your spouse or you will lose them.
Love is also an important aspect of a good marriage. If you don’t love each other, get divorced. Marriage should be about more than just living together and having kids. It should be about loving each other unconditionally and doing whatever you can to make the other person happy.
Lastly, take care of yourself as well as your spouse, do things that make you happy without feeling guilty!
This will help ensure that your marriage lasts longer because it won’t feel like a burden or obligation anymore.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is a blessing
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do a miracle in my marriage today.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
Being a good husband can be difficult. In today’s society, with more pressures than ever, it’s no wonder that some husbands feel like they don’t know how to be good husbands.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 (KJV)
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a partner in life because this will help to fulfill your wife’s needs as well as your own. However, you also need to have respect for yourself. This blog post will give you some practical tips on how to be a better husband and maintain your relationship with your spouse.
Important qualities of a good husband
There are 10 qualities that make a good husband. One of the most important is the ability to make your wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a great partner in life.
How to make your wife feel loved and respected
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. One way you can do this is by creating time for your spouse and making sure that both you and your wife have time to pursue your own interests. Another way to make your wife feel loved is by building up her self-worth. You need to show her that she matters and it’s important for her to be able to talk about any problem she may be facing.
How to be a partner in life
It’s important to be a partner in life for your spouse. This means making sure you’re supporting them through both good times and bad. If your spouse has a problem, help them solve it. Don’t shut them down or tell them they’re wrong.
It’s also important to respect yourself as well as your wife. You want to feel like you have a say in the relationship, too. That way, you’ll both feel more fulfilled and satisfied with how things are going.
Don’t always put your wife first; make sure that your needs are met, too. Your wife should be able to depend on you if something bad happens so she doesn’t have to bear the weight of it alone.
Loving someone is hard work and requires effort on both ends. You’ll need to make an effort at all times if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Conclusion
If you have read this blog post and agree with these qualities of a good husband, we ask that you share your thoughts with us.
We are interested in what you think about these qualities and if you agree or disagree with any of them. We would also love to know if you could add any more qualities to this list.
Leave us your thoughts in the comment section below!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:23 [TLB] Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be a good husband
We started on this topic of what every husband must do his wife yesterday, I’m sure we’re being blessed and are learning. Let’s continue…
3. Husbands, know that your wife is vital to your success and progress.
She was taken out of you and so provides the other side to make you balanced. The man is logical but the woman is emotional.
She is given to details. When she is part of your success and progress, then the success is well-rounded, not loop-sided.
Your wife is a co-heir of the divine grace of life, she is vital to your destiny.
She is an important entity and her input is relevant in the equation of your life. This is important so that your prayers will not be hindered. Even God recognizes the vital role your wife plays.
Husbands, you have to treat your own wives well according to the scriptures.
Be a friend. Provide a conducive atmosphere for her to communicate and express her innermost thoughts to you.
She is your helper, let her function in her role. If she is not able to function well, the loss is yours, but if she is given the opportunity to function maximally, it is to your benefit.
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4. She wants you to know that she looks forward to your leadership.
God has placed the man in a leadership position over the woman in their relationship. He has been given what it takes to lead the woman because he has the map of their destination.
The woman needs a good head for her to function maximally. She is meant to follow but needs someone to provide that good leadership.
It is important that husbands know that the way they lead their wives matters. You are not to dominate or shout out commands and rules. You are to guide lovingly.
The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. – Eph 5:23 (MSG)
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23 (KJV)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1Co 11:3 (KJV)
In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God. -1Co 11:3 (MSG)
I will stop here and continue tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
For the next few days, our devotionals will be centered on showing every husband how God wants him to treat his wife
1. Husbands, treat your wife with tenderness
Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Husbands according to scriptures, you MUST treat your wife with tenderness. It is a requirement for your prayers not to be hindered
What does tenderness mean? It means each husband has to look at his wife and know what tenderness is to her.
Tenderness is a feeling of concern, gentle affection, or warmth. Tenderness is not a general thing in a sense because what I regard as tenderness, another lady may not see it as such.
In a general sense, you are tender to a woman when you are considerate of her and when you are kind and thoughtful of her.
Men have to learn this because men generally are logical beings. You have to be emotional and not stay on the side of logic to be tender.
Some husbands have a hard stance and are very rigid when it comes to showing their ego. To fulfill this instruction, you cannot afford to do that.
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2. Husbands, know that your wife is your feminine partner who deserves to be honoured.
You know every woman and wife deserves in the least to be honored.
God wants each husband to forever celebrate and honor their wives. If for anything, she left her father and mother, changed her last name, and decided to follow you and live with you.
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] -1Pe 3:7 (AMPC)
Honour – Greek – value, that is, money paid; esteem (especially of the highest degree), or the dignity itself: One way to honor your wife is to spend money on her and make her feel special, especially on her anniversaries.
Some men didn’t have anything when they got married, yet your wife stayed by you. Your wife deserves to be honored, that is what the Bible says.
Now how do you honor her? That is up to every husband to decide and determine.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Every marriage will go through its season when the wind will go contrary and the storm boisterous. Whether you are an unbeliever or a pastor, bishop or circumference bishop we will all go through that dark season.
Thank God it is only a going through. We are meant to pass through it and come out stronger, better and bigger. The season is not meant to swallow us or swallow our marriage. The test of commitment to each other and to the marriage covenant is known here.
It is in this season that whether our love for each other is unconditional or conditional is tested. Whether we will stay with each other for the long haul or whether our faith in the God of the marriage will dwindle.
It is here that the believers have to hold on to the Word of God, To His promises. This claiming God’s promises is not a once and for all thing. It took the family of Abraham and Sarah standing in faith for over 20 years for the promise to be fulfilled. The same with David and Joseph.
Bible says we should hold on to the profession of our faith.
Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) – Heb 10:23
The reason why we should hold fast is because He is faithful that promised. We hold on not wavering because we will reap if we faint not.
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What each marriage will face will be different. But standing on God’s promises and declaring His word is common to all. It could be a health challenge, financial difficulty, issue of work, business or career, children issues, spiritual issues or emotional challenges.
For any of these issues that combat the marriage, we have to stand strong knowing that God is faithful to bring His promises to pass in our lives. We have to keep the promises in our mouth because the miracle is in our mouth. We release the miracle by speaking it out loud, in the face of any contradictions.
We must use the covenant we share of one chasing one thousand and two putting ten thousand to flight to resist any onslaught of the enemy. We should also use the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ to resist the lies of the enemy.
The blood of Jesus, the name of Jesus, the word of God, the communion, and speaking the Word out of our mouth to defeat whatever the enemy brings our way.
We are meant to face and resist our challenges just as David faced Goliath. The challenge seemed insurmountable but David knew well that the Word of God never fails. Whatever he says, He is also able to fulfill it.
So I want you to be encouraged. You have to also learn to encourage yourself in the Lord. Fight the good fight of faith.
Whatever you may be facing, the main attack is your marriage. Let me make you know this, ‘The Devil Is After Your Marriage’.
The main bone of contention is your marriage. He is scared of your marriage. He is scared of the power of unity you carry. The power of your oneness. So whatever attack it is you are faced with, you have to face it together as one.
Whatever comes against your marriage is to be seen as something against your covenant to disrupt and distract you.
May the Lord grant you strength to stand on His promises in faith.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God’s word is working in my home.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do a miracle in my marriage today.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) – Heb 10:23
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start declaring God’s word
