Love Is Not a Competition

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Love Is Not a Competition

Why do some couples act like teammates, while others act like opponents?

Marriage was never designed to be a scoreboard. Yet too many homes sound like this:

“I did the dishes, so you owe me.”

“I work harder, so my voice should matter more.”

“I prayed more, so I’m more spiritual.”

Singles, kindly pay attention now. If the person you’re dating always has to “win,” they’ll treat marriage like a battle, not a partnership. Marriage is not about who shouts louder, earns more, or sacrifices the most. It’s about carrying destiny together, side by side.

Couples, remember—you’re not enemies. You’re allies. If you treat your home like a competition, someone always ends up defeated. But if you treat your home like a partnership, both of you win. That’s why Scripture says,

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour” (Ecclesiastes 4:9).

The goal is not to outshine but to out-serve one another.

So stop competing over who did more yesterday. Celebrate each other’s efforts today. Say “thank you” for the small things. If one person cooks and the other cleans, that’s not weakness—it’s teamwork. If one spouse earns more money and the other manages the home, both are building a legacy together.

Singles, don’t look for someone who only wants to be impressive. Look for someone who wants to be cooperative. Marriage isn’t about scoring points; it’s about scoring purpose.

At the end of the day, love is not “me versus you.” It is “us versus life.” And when couples get that right, they stop keeping score and start building together.