How to Love Your Spouse by Loving God

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Loving God is knowing how to Love Your Spouse

Loving God is the foundation of every meaningful relationship. Whether single, waiting, or married, the more you grow in loving God, the more you understand what it means to love someone else deeply and selflessly. God doesn’t just teach love—He is love.

 5  truths with scripture about how loving God first can transform your relationship

1. God Teaches You to Forgive First

Loving God opens your heart to grace. You begin to forgive not because your spouse deserves it, but because God forgives you daily.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32

2. God Shows You Love is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

Love isn’t always butterflies. It’s a commitment—a decision to stay, serve, and give even when it’s tough.

 “Love is patient, love is kind… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4,7

3. God’s Love Deals with Self First

When you love God, He gently reveals what needs healing in you. You stop blaming and start growing.

 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” — Matthew 7:3

4. God’s Voice Trains You to Listen Better

Loving God teaches you to slow down and truly listen—first to Him, then to others. This creates space for deeper intimacy in relationships.

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19

5. God’s Presence Fills Your Loneliness

Single or married, moments of loneliness come. But God’s love fills every gap and teaches you to love from a place of wholeness.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

Let God be your first love—and let that love transform how you see, choose, and care for your spouse or future spouse.

Loving God teaches you how to love, so pursue loving God, and your relationship and marriage will thrive.