Four Areas Marriage Will Test You

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1. Selflessness.

As a single man or lady, you sometimes are all about yourself alone. Certain decisions are made without considering anyone. When you get married, that narrative will change. Whatever you do, you put your spouse first.

What to eat, what to wear, when to return home, where to go, how much to spend, what to buy, etc.

When taking such decisions, you will have to consider your partner.

Mk 10:8 [ESV] and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.

2. Forgiveness.

There is no place where offence is frequent other than marriage. The reason is clear. You get hurt by the one you love so dearly.

Marriage is not a place to keep malice. As a matter of fact, in marriage, you forgive ahead.

Who do you think can offend you 490 times in a day?

Who? Your spouse. You don’t believe, right? Ask a married person beside you.

Mat 18v22 [NIV] Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

3. Assumptions.

Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge. In marriage, couples don’t just make babies; they talk.

They talk about everything.

What you discussed in courtship, you discuss again in marriage. Life happens, and seasons change, so the conversation you had last year may need to be revisited this year.

The moment communication dies, assumptions set in.

You can’t live your life based on hearsay. Always ask.

Oh, I am not the talking type. Really? And you want to get married?

If you don’t talk to your spouse, someone else will do the talking.

Gen 3:1 [ESV] Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?”

4. Teamwork.

Marriage is not a competition where you want to find out who the better parent is. You are a team. It is both of you against the world, not against each other.

You don’t have to always have the final say; that’s why you are a team.

Carry him along. Carry her along. That way, it will take extra effort for anyone to come between you.

I am an independent person. I like to do things my own way. That is very good for your level, but the moment you agree to sign the dotted lines, that mentality has to change.