Emotional Maturity In Relationships

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Emotional Maturity In Relationships

It’s not age that makes a relationship work.

It’s not titles, talent, or even how committed a church worker one is.

There are things that make relationships work, and one of them is emotional maturity.

You can’t build a healthy love life with someone who looks and sounds spiritually deep but emotionally shallow.

Someone who prays in tongues but pouts when corrected.

Or fasts for 21 days, but gives you the silent treatment for 21 days when upset.

Our journey with God ought to influence our walk on the earth!

Emotional maturity is being able to feel deeply without falling apart.

It’s the ability to hear hard truths without turning them into a war.

It’s saying, “I was wrong. I’m sorry,” without needing a three-day warm-up.

Singles, emotional maturity should be high on your list.

Don’t just ask if they are financially stable— ask if they know how to handle anger. If not, you will “chop” money and also “chop” slaps. You will eat spaghetti bolognese and also eat the silent treatment bolognese.

Find out.

Do they apologise or always shift the blame?

Do they shut down when corrected, or do they grow from it?

You’re not marrying their talent or their looks — you’re marrying their emotional patterns.

Married couples, it’s time to grow up emotionally.

Love isn’t just “feeling butterflies” — it’s being emotionally responsible.

Here are some ways to be emotionally mature:

1. Pause before reacting. Just because you’re upset doesn’t mean you should unleash it.

2. Stop keeping score. If you forgive it, don’t resurrect it with every argument.

3. Don’t use emotion to manipulate. Tears are not tools. Silence is not a weapon.

4. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Don’t say “I’m fine” when you’re clearly not — that’s not maturity, that’s avoidance.

Emotional maturity doesn’t mean you never feel pain. It means you know how to handle it without destroying people in the process.

Let’s grow. Let’s mature. Let’s build love that doesn’t just feel good, but actually works.