Drawing The Line Between Flirting and Leading On

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Drawing The Line Between Flirting and Leading On

In a world of DMs, emojis, and constant access, it’s easy for lighthearted banter to morph into emotional entanglement. Flirting can be harmless play, but when it plants expectations you have no intention to nurture, it becomes deception. The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy (Proverbs 12:22). Kingdom relationships require clarity, consistency, and care.

Where’s the line? Ask:

– Does my communication suggest commitment I’m not offering?

– Do my repeated compliments, late-night conversations, and exclusivity signal more than I intend?

Jesus counsels radical clarity: “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’” (Matthew 5:37). Paul adds, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt” (Colossians 4:6). Grace communicates kindly while salt preserves the truth.

Guardrails for integrity:
1) Communicate purpose and be upfront about friendship (1 Thessalonians 4:3–6; Philippians 2:3).
2) Watch the rhythm. If chats are frequent, vulnerable, and exclusive, you’re building a bond (Proverbs 4:23).
3) Set healthy boundaries for time, topics, and touch (Song of Songs 2:7; Proverbs 25:17).
4) Invite accountability loop in trusted friends/mentors to keep your motives clean (Proverbs 27:17).
5) If interest grows, honor them with direct pursuit, not hints (Proverbs 24:26).

Perhaps, you feel led on, replace assumptions with questions like: What are your intentions toward me? If answers are unclear, take that as guidance. God’s wisdom is peaceable and sincere (James 3:17). Pray for a clean heart and a clear path.

Hold on to this; love doesn’t play games, it tells the truth, protects hearts, and moves with purpose (1 Corinthians 13:4–7).

Shalom!

Drawing The Line Between Flirting and Leading On