There are seasons in life where you are actually doing the right things — trusting God, praying, waiting, showing up — but it still feels like nothing is happening. You’re obeying, but it feels quiet. And the longer it stretches, the more you start to ask questions you thought you already settled: “Did I miss something?” “Is God even still in this with me?” “Why does this feel so hard if I’m doing what He asked me to do?”
Luke 4:2 – “…for forty days he was tempted by the devil. He ate nothing during those days, and at the end of them he was hungry.”
Jesus understands that feeling more than we often realize. Luke 4:2 tells us that He was in the wilderness for forty days. And for those days, He was tempted by the devil. He didn’t eat. He was isolated. There were no crowds, no miracles, nothing… Just Him, the silence, and the pressure.
Temptations, in this context, are not necessarily just about sin. It is about the pressure to move ahead of God.
To prove something, force an answer, lower your standards, take matters into your own hands, question your identity and worth, or choose what is easy over what is right. It is subtle, and that’s what makes it dangerous.
That is exactly what Satan was trying to do to Jesus:
“If You are the Son of God…” (trying to make Him doubt who He already was),
“Turn these stones to bread…” (trying to make Him use power to satisfy Himself),
“Bow and I’ll give you all this…” (offering Him shortcuts to things that were already His through obedience).
Jesus was tempted during those forty days, not when He was strongest, but when He was physically at His weakest. That is when the enemy often comes.
Dealing with Temptations
Not when you are busy and everything is going well. But when things are quiet, when you are tired of waiting, when nothing seems to be changing, or when it feels like God is slow or silent.
So, what can you do while you’re in that season?
Start by being honest about where the pressure is showing up. Are you feeling the urge to settle for what’s available instead of waiting for what’s right? Are you starting to question your worth or rush ahead because you’re tired of being still? Recognizing those feelings is not weakness — it’s wisdom.
Next, hold onto what you know is true. That’s what Jesus did. He answered every pressure point with, “It is written…” He didn’t argue with feelings. He stood on what God had already said. Find Scriptures that speak to your identity and your season, and let those become your grounding point when your emotions are loud.
Also, be careful not to equate God’s faithfulness with speed. God was just as present with Jesus in that empty desert as He was when the miracles started. Your “quiet” season isn’t proof of God’s absence. It might be where He’s doing His deepest work. Don’t rush it just because it’s uncomfortable.
And lastly, instead of just praying for this season to end, try praying for the strength to walk through it well. Ask for clarity. Ask for peace. Ask for endurance. This isn’t just about getting through — it’s about who you become on the other side.
Happy weekend to you all. Today, we continue from where we stopped yesterday on letting go. If you missed yesterday’s article, you can catch up here
1. Recognize the tie.
It starts with honesty. You can’t break free from something you won’t admit exists. So what’s pulling your heart back? Is it how they made you feel? The what-could-have-beens? The fear of having to start over?
Being honest about it isn’t weakness; it’s clarity. And that clarity is where healing begins.
“Search me, God, and know my heart… see if there’s any offensive way in me.” – Psalm 139:23–24
2. Ask God to break that bond.
Emotional ties can feel spiritual, and sometimes they are. But even those deep connections can be severed when you bring them to God.
You might not feel ready, but you can still pray:
“Lord, I know this isn’t healthy for me. Help me to let it go.” Let God handle what you can’t. Nothing is too small or too complicated for Him to heal.
“So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” – John 8:36
3. Fill up that space you’ll be leaving behind.
Letting go creates a void—emotionally and sometimes spiritually. And that void wants to be filled. If you don’t intentionally fill that void with truth, purpose, and God’s presence, something else will take over—old habits or new distractions.
Stay close to God. Read the Bible. Talk to someone you trust. Serve God in your local Church and stay committed . The goal isn’t just to “move on”—it’s to become whole again.
“When an impure spirit leaves… it comes back to find the house empty…” – Matthew 12:43–45 (paraphrased)
4. Don’t forget to forgive.
Forgive the other person—even if you never got closure. Forgive yourself for ignoring the signs, for hanging on too long, or for giving your heart away too easily.
And if you’ve been quietly frustrated with God, let that go too. It’s perfectly okay to feel disappointed or confused; just bring those feelings into the light. God can handle it.
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing what happened; it’s about freeing your soul to heal.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
5. And finally, stay surrendered.
Healing isn’t just a one-off event; it’s often a daily choice.
Even after you let go, the memories might stick around. The emotions might pop back up. But that doesn’t mean you’re not healing—it just means you have to keep surrendering.
Ask God daily for the grace to trust His plan and resist the urge to go back to what you’ve already released.
Let your healing go deeper than your need for answers. Let your wholeness mean more than your desire for control.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart… and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5–6
In conclusion
It’s okay to mourn the loss. It’s okay to miss what could’ve been. But don’t be stuck there forever.
God has more in store for you—not just another person, but peace, clarity, and a kind of love that doesn’t come with confusion. Letting go isn’t the end; sometimes, it’s the kindest thing you can do for yourself and your future.
Letting go isn’t just about ending a relationship. Sometimes, it’s more about freeing your heart from someone who has had a grip on it.
Perhaps there was someone you felt a deep connection to, invested a lot of emotion in, and even prayed about. You saw the potential, and you were so hopeful for more. But for some reason, things never blossomed like you imagined. And even when communication fades or they move on, it’s like your heart is still tangled up in those feelings.
It can be tough to put into words. You’re not in a relationship, but you don’t feel fully free either. You catch yourself thinking about them, checking in on them, or just in a way waiting—even if it’s all in your head—for something to change.
These emotional ties can linger quietly, but they can really weigh you down. They might not seem like sin, but they create confusion and make it difficult to hear God clearly. They can also mess with how you see love, timing, and trust.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, Hebrews 12:1 (NIV)
The scripture above tells us to let go of anything that ensnares us—things that stop us from fully running the race God has laid out for us. This includes relationships, feelings, or expectations that aren’t based on truth.
God doesn’t just tell us to let go of the wrong things; He helps us do it. But it takes intentionality. Sometimes it’s not a grand gesture. It could just be a quiet release, some honest prayers, and a slow healing process.
Tomorrow, I will share some practical steps to help you let go.
Commitment can feel pretty overwhelming. A lot of folks today are nervous about getting tied down or making the wrong choice, especially when it comes to love. We all want something real, but deep down, there’s that fear, not because we don’t want to love, but because we’re scared of what love might ask from us.
“Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.” Ruth 1:16
Take Ruth from the Bible, for example. She made a bold choice to stick with her mother-in-law, Naomi, even though she could’ve gone back to her own people. She didn’t have a husband, no clear plan for how she’d be taken care of, and no guarantee that her future would be brighter. But she chose to stay anyway.
Ruth’s story shows us that commitment isn’t always easy, but it can mean a lot and often comes from a place of faith.
Where does the fear of commitment come from, and why are people afraid of commitment? Many people struggle with the idea of commitment for several reasons:
Past hurt – Some of us have been let down, betrayed, or had our hearts broken before.
Fear of making the wrong choice – No one wants to tie themselves to someone, only to later think it was a huge mistake.
Loss of independence – Some people worry they’ll lose themselves or their freedom in a relationship.
Unrealistic expectations – With social media and those romantic movies, real relationships can feel kinda boring in comparison.
Unhealed wounds – If we’re still carrying baggage from the past, it makes trusting again really hard.
These fears are totally valid, but they shouldn’t run your life or your relationships.
What are the lessons we can learn from Ruth’s life?
1. Commitment is a choice, not just a feeling.
Ruth didn’t feel forced to stay; she made a deliberate decision. Real commitment kicks in when you choose to stick around, even when your feelings are all over the place.
God can guide you toward purpose through commitment.
By staying by Naomi’s side, Ruth eventually met Boaz and became part of Jesus’ family line. She had no clue how her story would unfold, but God honored her loyalty. Commitment often paves the way for unexpected blessings.
Having the fear of commitment is okay, but don’t let it hold you back.
Courage isn’t about the absence of fear; it is moving forward in faith despite it. You don’t have to know every little thing to trust God in your relationships.
2. Healthy commitment comes after healing.
Ruth didn’t jump into another marriage right after. She found healing by walking in faith and making wise, loyal choices. Before jumping into a relationship, give God a chance to help you heal and grow both emotionally and spiritually. Godly commitment aligns with purpose, not just feelings. When God leads your commitment, it brings peace instead of pressure. You don’t have to chase after love—just be ready when it shows up, how God wants it to.
So it’s okay to be nervous. The fear of commitment is ok. Most people aren’t really scared of love itself; they’re just worried about what might go wrong if they give their all. But real growth happens when we confront those fears instead of running away.
Ruth’s story reminds us that healthy and meaningful commitment is out there—it often takes us to the beautiful places God has waiting for us. If you’re single, now’s the time to face your fears honestly, let God work on what needs fixing, and start building the strength and trust that lasting love demands.
No need to rush or pretend. Just be yourself and stay open to the idea that love, when it’s God’s will, it is absolutely worth going for.
What to Do When Your Relationship Feels Spiritually Unbalanced
There are times in a relationship when the excitement starts to settle, and what really matters begins to rise to the surface. And for anyone who is serious about their walk with God, that moment usually comes with a question: Are we spiritually aligned?
“Can two walk together unless they agree?” – Amos 3:3
Because love is not just about chemistry. That spark might get things started, but it takes shared conviction to keep things standing. It takes two people walking in the same direction, the same heart for God, and a shared desire to grow in Him. If only one person is carrying that weight, imbalance is inevitable and one will feel it — in the conversations that do not go deep enough, in the silence during prayer, in the way faith becomes something one person keeps trying to bring into the middle, while the other quietly leaves it at the edge.
And the hard part? You might really care about this person. You might want it to work. But when your spirit keeps feeling out of sync, it is a sign worth paying attention to.
So what do you do when you are emotionally in, but spiritually out of step?
1. Be Honest About What It Really Is
Do not spiritualize red flags. Do not minimize it by saying, “They are trying in their own way.” If you are constantly dragging the spiritual atmosphere forward, that gap matters. Spiritual imbalance is not a minor issue — it is a core one. If they are not walking with God, it will affect how they walk with you.
2. Pray
Before talking to them, talk to God. Prayer is where confusion breaks and wisdom flows. Ask Him to show you what is really happening — not just how you feel, but what is true. Ask Him to give you clarity and courage. He is not the author of confusion, and He will lead you into peace.
3. Have the Real Conversation
Be honest. Ask them where they truly stand with God. Share how important your faith is, not in a controlling way, but in a clear one. You are not asking for perfection — you are asking for shared pursuit. If they respond with resistance or apathy, let that inform your next steps.
4. Set Boundaries Where Needed
You are allowed to take a step back. Whether it means pausing the relationship, re-evaluating boundaries, or spending time alone with God, always guard your soul. Anything that consistently drains your spiritual life is not from God. Real love draws you closer to Him, not further.
5. Be Willing to Let Go, If God Leads You There
This is not easy. If God is asking you to release it, trust that He sees the whole picture. Sometimes, the person you are trying to “spiritually carry” is not your assignment. It is not your role to fix or save them. You can love them and still walk away in obedience. God would never give you someone who pulls you further from Him. Letting go does not mean the relationship was a mistake. It might simply be a lesson. And choosing obedience now could save you from heartbreak later.
Conclusion:
Do not settle for a relationship that makes you shrink spiritually. Wait for one that grows you. One where you are not begging for prayer, or dragging someone to purpose, but walking side-by-side with someone who shares your convictions. Someone who knows it is not just about feelings but shared convictions.
Because chemistry might bring you together. But shared conviction is what keeps you aligned.
