Once you realize that love isn’t being returned, it’s important to take action. Hoping someone will change while ignoring the reality can lead to more hurt. God wants us to be wise and take responsibility for our emotional health.
“The Lord will perfect that which concerns me.” — Psalm 138:8
Steps to handle one-sided love:
1. Assess the situation honestly: Look at actions, not just words. Consistent lack of effort is a clear sign that the love is not mutual.
2.Set boundaries: Protect your emotional space. Limit communication or interactions if necessary. Boundaries are not rejection—they are protection.
3.Redirect your focus: Invest time in personal growth, family, friends, and spiritual development. Your heart needs replenishment.
4.Trust God’s timing: Let go of the idea that this person must fulfill your needs. God has a plan and can bring the right person at the right time.
5.Heal and learn: Reflect on what this relationship has taught you about your emotional needs and patterns. Use it to build wisdom for future relationships.
Conclusion:
Realizing that love is one-sided can be painful, but it’s also an opportunity to grow and protect your heart. It teaches you to recognize your value, set healthy boundaries, and focus on relationships that are mutual and God-honoring. Your worth is not measured by someone else’s affection, and the right person—someone who truly values and respects you—will match your love. Use this time to strengthen your relationship with God, invest in yourself, and prepare your heart for the love that is meant for you.
Sometimes in relationships, we find ourselves giving a lot of love and effort and never getting it back. You call, you text, you make plans, but the other person doesn’t even run to meet you halfway. It can be not very encouraging and even make you question your own worth. But know this that your value is not based on someone else’s feelings or actions. A one-sided love doesn’t mean you’re wrong; it just means they aren’t ready or able to give the same energy right now.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23
Signs you might be in a one-sided relationship:
You’re always the one reaching out.
They rarely prioritize spending time with you.
Their words don’t match their actions.
You feel emotionally drained but keep hoping things will change.
Reflect on these questions:
Am I depending on their love to feel good about myself?
Have I ignored warning signs because I wanted the relationship to work?
How can I make sure I’m loving in a healthy way without needing something back?
In conclusion
God cares about your heart. Investing in someone who does not reciprocate can drain your energy and distract you from God’s plan for your life. One-sided love is often a signal to evaluate the relationship honestly and protect your emotional and spiritual health.
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love – Part 2
2. “I do not deserve something this good.”
Many singles harbor a quiet, often unspoken belief that they are unworthy of love. So when someone treats them with honesty, respect, and intention, they doubt it. They assume there must be a catch or that disappointment is inevitable. This mindset is dangerous because it creates self-sabotage, making you dismiss or undermine a relationship before it has a chance to grow. God wants to replace this belief with truth: you are worthy because He made you, and the right love will reflect the value He sees in you.
3. “If it is real, it must be perfect.”
Expecting flawless communication, constant understanding, or zero mistakes is unrealistic and sets relationships up for failure. Real love is imperfect people learning together, adjusting, and growing over time. When we demand perfection, we reject love that is actually healthy and life-giving. God wants us to embrace growth and maturity, understanding that His love is perfect even when human love is not.
Recognizing these mindsets is the first step toward change. God can renew your mind so that your heart stops rejecting the blessings He is sending. It takes honesty, prayer, and reflection to identify where fear, insecurity, or unrealistic expectations have been shaping your decisions. But once you allow Him to transform your thinking, your actions in relationships begin to align with His truth, and you create space for good love to flourish.
CONCLUSION
Today, take time to reflect on the thoughts you carry about love. Pray for God to reveal areas where fear, unworthiness, or perfectionism have been holding you back. Ask Him to renew your mind, reshape your expectations, and help you recognize and receive the love He has been preparing for you. Transformation starts in the mind, and a renewed mind allows your heart to embrace love fully and wisely.
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
Sometimes we pray and pray for the right person, someone kind, honest, and intentional, yet when that person appears, we sabotage it without even realizing. We feel uncertain, suspicious, or distant. Many singles experience this, and the root is often not the person—they are good—but the mindset we carry into relationships. Our heart may be ready, but our mind may still be shaped by fear, past hurt, or false expectations. God knows this, and Romans 12:2 reminds us that transformation begins in the mind. Until we renew our thoughts about love, our hearts will continue to reject what we truly need.
Here are three mindsets that commonly push love away, explained so you can recognize them in yourself and allow God to renew you:
1. “I must protect myself at all costs.”
This mindset may sound wise, but it often comes from fear, not discernment. When you believe that guarding your heart means keeping everyone at a distance, you unconsciously push away good love. You misread kindness as manipulation, overanalyze every gesture, and withdraw when someone approaches sincerely. Protection is important, but fear-driven isolation keeps you from receiving the very love you are praying for. God wants you to guard your heart, yes, but He also wants you to trust Him enough to open it when His timing and plan bring the right person.
To be continued…
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love
One of the hardest challenges for those trusting God for a life partner is learning to wait without growing impatient or making decisions out of fear, loneliness, or pressure. Many of us have experienced situations where we rushed into relationships because it “felt right” or because everyone around us seemed to be moving faster. Yet God’s timing is not about convenience or immediate gratification—it is about alignment, preparation, and purpose.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.
The above passage reminds us that everything has its season. Love is no exception. There is a time to meet, a time to court, a time to commit, and a time to wait. Learning to discern these seasons is crucial if you want a relationship that lasts, glorifies God, and nurtures your heart.
Discerning God’s timing begins with recognizing the difference between desire and direction. Desire can be emotional, impulsive, and focused on comfort or companionship. Direction is spiritual, intentional, and rooted in God’s plan for your life. Singles often confuse the two, rushing because they feel ready emotionally or because society pressures them to “settle down.” God wants you to pause, reflect, and ask: Is this person, situation, or opportunity aligning with His plan, or am I acting on my own timing?
Another key aspect is preparation versus presence. God may bring the right person into your life, but your heart may not yet be ready to receive them fully. Timing often involves internal growth—healing past wounds, developing patience, clarifying your values, and strengthening your faith. Discernment requires self-examination: Are you seeking a relationship to fill a void, or are you ready to share life with someone in a healthy, intentional way?
God’s timing is often revealed through peace, confirmation, and alignment with Scripture. When a potential relationship is truly from Him, it often comes with clarity, consistency, and a sense of calm that aligns with Godly wisdom. Conversely, if you feel constant stress, confusion, or guilt, it may be a sign that the timing is off or that the person is not yet right. God may use circumstances, delays, or even closed doors to prepare you, sharpen your discernment, and guide you toward someone who will honor both Him and your heart.
Practical ways to discern God’s timing include prayerful reflection, seeking counsel from trusted mentors or spiritual leaders, observing actions over words, and paying attention to how your relationship aligns with God’s standards and your spiritual growth. Waiting is not passive—it is active preparation, learning, and listening. It is growing into the person God wants you to be so that you are ready to receive the love He has been orchestrating.
How to Discern God’s Timing in Love
CONCLUSION
True love rarely happens by accident—it comes in God’s perfect timing, and it is meant to strengthen, encourage, and build both hearts spiritually and emotionally. Trust Him, prepare intentionally, and let your discernment guide you to a relationship that is not only fulfilling but deeply God-centered.
