Best Ways To Fall In Love Again As Couples. I watched a video sent by a friend. It was about a couple having a slight argument. In fairness, the husband was cool and handled the situation well. The wife on the other hand was almost losing it probably out of frustration.
What happened was that the wife was to use a blender and it wasn’t working fine. She asks the husband to come and have a feel of the frustration she goes through in cooking a single meal without his appreciation. He rather gives her a cold shoulder with a complaint that the salt is not enough, the food is too dry, too oily, etc.
The video was very hilarious and I had a good laugh with my husband.
We should always remember and not lose sight of the fact that whatever happens, during the good and the bad times, we are still believers. We do things the word way and have the word result.
A lot of things could be responsible for causing frustrations in couples.
1. Increase your time of study
We should boost our love walk with each other and much more, with God. Increase your time studying the word. Let the Word dwell in you richly not sparingly.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. Col 3:16
2. We should increase our time of prayer
Pray without ceasing. – 1Th 5:17
3. Meditate on God’s Word
This is different from reading or studying. This is muttering God’s word.
But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. – Psa 1:2-3
4. Sing in psalms and hymns and new song
Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
5. Walking in love and confessing the word
Love is very important. When we walk in love, we are actually the better for it. Our own heavens are opened and God works mightily in our lives.
And if I give all my goods to the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it is of no profit to me. Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. – 1Co 13:3-7
It is my prayer that God keep us in His love in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to fall in love again and again.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
In our many years of counseling married couples, we have had to handle different kinds of issues in marriage. Some of the issues, simple and direct while others are pretty complicated and not direct at all.
The Holy Spirit helps us handle these issues. Some of these issues have their root causes in some generational issues, a complex parental issue, a background issue or a habit that was developed while growing up.
Some husbands are good with silent treatment to their wives. There could be a lot of reasons responsible for this kind of treatment but it takes digging into the issue to get to the root cause.
It will be good to note that there could be different things responsible for such actions. The husband could be frustrated at the wife nagging. The husband could be having issues at work. The husband might have difficulties communicating his deepest feelings. The husband might grow up seeing his dad do the same to his mum. The husband may be involved in extra marital affairs, thus his cold actions. The husband might be dealing with issues that the wife knows nothing about. It could be an act of wickedness on the husband’s part.
So, in the scenario above, let’s assume we are in the shoes of the wife, we have to be tactical in finding out the real cause of our husband’s coldness. E.g if he is cold because he is having an affair and we treat it as having issues at work or overact believing he is mean, we would have ended up majoring on the minor and minoring in the major, and not dealing with the issue.
That is why we have to depend on the Holy Spirit in handling issues in our marriage. Some issues may be complicated while some are not as complicated.
Let’s try to be more patient and think deep through the issues that may arise in our marriage.
Let’s also be prayerful, asking God for the spirit of wisdom and revelation. We also need discernment to discern the root cause of issues.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a discerning spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Our marriage is an integral part of our lives. We will notice that nothing weighs us down more like marital issues. If things are not working between us, the joy level in the home is affected.
Although, Some people might try to do as if they don’t care, but the truth is they do care.
As couples, we need to work together to ensure that our marriage remains intact at all times, no matter the situation or under whichever circumstances.
We should always stick it out together. Remain committed to each other and remain supportive of each other.
You can do these five things to keep your marriage interesting.
1. See you spouse as part of you that nothing can change.
So no matter what challenges, you remain true to each other. Whether loss of job, loss of contract or money in an investment.
2. Learn to make fun and laugh over issues
Even if your spouse is not too much of a jovial temperament, let the other less serious of the two help in lightning the atmosphere. When your spouse is dealing with guilt, shame or not just in a generally good mode, help your spouse feel a little better.
3. You can watch a comedy or action film together
The marriage should not always have to be tensed or serious. You can bring laughter of those who have packaged laughter into comedy shows. It is very helpful to do as you won’t have to bother about cracking expensive jokes or getting on your spouse nerve.
4. Eat out, order a meal or cook a favorite meal
You might want to order something nice for your spouse to eat and indulge your spouse to a treat just to take their minds off whatever is bothering them. A good snack and ice cream could also do the trick for those who like that.
5. Offer your spouse to pray for them or with them.
Prayer is the most powerful and helpful thing you can offer to your spouse when they seem to be down or things are not working.
You offering to pray speaks volumes. It shows you genuinely care and that you recognize the power of God as the ultimate power that can change things.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will not be an adage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me to be a loving spouse oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
The Family Altar And Your Marriage. You can have the eyes of the Lord upon you as a family and leave His presence with the assurance that He is around you.
The eyes of the Lord cannot be upon you and you not have His presence. His presence is all you need in this life. His presence is the carrier of His glory, His wisdom, His beauty, His intelligence, His understanding, and all of His personality.
His presence gives all-round victory.
The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry. – Psa 34:15
There is an assurance that comes to you as you gather together as a family to call upon the Lord. That’s one of the reasons the family altar or devotion is very important.
In my family, we didn’t use to have family devotion before. We all woke up at different times and had our prayers separately. My husband was busy with our online ministry and had a different waking time. He was so busy that at times he will be up from 3 am and wouldn’t leave his desk until 9 am or 10 am.
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Thank God things have since changed and now our day does not start without our family devotion, where we pray, take daily confessions, and read the Bible.
During our family devotion this morning, I learnt that the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and His ears open to their cry. When we come together as a family, the Lord’s presence is with us. He sees us and He is there. Our gathering together is not a waste of time or religion.
We come together as a family and are confident that He is with us and that His eyes and ears are present with our family. We approach our altar with this attitude.
We also leave our family altar with confidence and assurance that God is with us. We know that we are not alone as we go about our daily activities. Whatever we face in the course of the day, we know He is with us. We rejoice all day knowing that He has got our backs.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know that God is with me as I go out today.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the grace to always stay faithful to your family’s devotion
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 34:15 [ESV] The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and his ears toward their cry.
Celebration is the source of life and joy. Keep Celebrating. If you want to experience constant life and joy in marriage, learn to celebrate. Let there be a constant feast in your marriage.
By feast, I don’t mean a party. It is more of the condition of the heart than it is a physical thing.
All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. – Pro 15:15
All forms of moodiness and gloominess are not meant to be allowed in your home. You have to learn to disallow certain things in your home and family. You allow joy and happiness.
Celebration is something you practice consciously. You make it a habit in your family. There are a lot of opportunities to celebrate that God brings our way. We should seize these opportunities.
Celebration puts us in faith. Abraham celebrated God by giving glory to God even when the covenant child was not even born. His celebration kept his faith alive.
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When you learn to celebrate, you acknowledge God as the source of your very life. You recognize God as the Lord over your marriage.
There are several opportunities in which we have to be sensitive to celebrate. Some people in a bid to appear humble say to celebrate is not to be sober like the Bible says. But the same bible says we should rejoice and again it says we should rejoice.
To celebrate is to be thankful and grateful. Celebrate every of your birthday. Celebrate the life and the lives of all those around you. Be grateful to God for victory and sparing your life. Many have been laid aside, so be grateful and celebrate life.
Celebrate your children. Celebrate your husband. Celebrate events. Create memorials. Celebrate the beginning of the term for your children. Celebrate the end of term. Celebrate anniversaries, Christmas, holidays. Look into each and find out what to celebrate.
Make things special. Make every dinner and lunch a memorable one. Let your spouse and children have sweet memories. Celebrate your pastors, your boss. Celebrate your parents, your siblings, celebrate everything and anything.
As you celebrate, you will have more reasons to celebrate.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to celebrate at every opportunity I get.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
