Delving into the Magic of True Love. One of the questions I asked God was, “How do I know which of the millions of guys on the planet truly loves me?” In my seriousness, I asked God to help me discern who the guy is who truly loves me. God did it. The rest is today’s narrative. True love discovered me.
The question is, how do you know whether you’ve found true love? Everyone will tell you that you should never marry someone who does not sincerely love you. This morning, I’ll teach you how to recognize true love. You can use a litmus test to determine true love. Singles can use this as a guide. Couples can use this to develop their love more!
True love can be detected no matter how well it hides itself.
Don’t fall in love with anyone until you’ve put what appears to be love to the test.
Delving into the Magic of True Love
1. There will be commitment, not just feelings if it is true love.
Many people are persuaded, but how dedicated are they to you?
Commitment necessitates sacrifice. Is he or she prepared to make a sacrifice for you? The more the sacrifice, the greater the sincerity of the love. He doesn’t actually love you if he exhibits no signals of commitment.
It is not difficult to determine commitment; merely look for his/her commitment in small things. How devoted is he to the partnership and to your personal well-being?
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2. There will be tranquility if it is sincere love.
Peace is a solid indicator that God has approved you. There is peace in pure love – nothing is missing or broken. Peace is the umpire who gives you the green light to proceed.
This tranquility is both spiritual and natural. True love is absent in situations where there is constant turbulence, strife, dispute, and abuse. If he or she loves you, he or she will desire peace.
Colossians 3:15 (AMPC) And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].
Delving into the Magic of True Love
3. True love is quick to forgive.
True love exists where there is forgiveness. True love covers a plethora of sins. If he or she is constantly picking on every small mistake you make, the love is not genuine.
True love finds it easy to forgive and to seek pardon. A real “I am sorry” is an indication of deep affection. If he or she constantly puts you on the spot and is critical or judgmental of you, it’s not true love.
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4. Communication will be effortless if it is pure love.
The love isn’t genuine if he/she claims to love you but hasn’t called you in three weeks. True love appreciates conversing with the person he loves. Silence and boredom are not signs of deep love. True love never regards communication as a chore. When conversing becomes pleasurable, you know you’re in love.
5. Pre-marital sex is never required by true love.
If they truly love you, they will not ask for or demand sex. They will rather want to wait till after the wedding. Whether it is an outright demand, a subtle demand, a polite or deceptive request, sex outside of marriage is a shred of solid evidence that the love is not true according to God’s standard.
Some people mistakenly feel that pre-marital sex is what proves and solidifies true love. Nothing could be further from the truth.
In a marriage, arguments will always arise. When it comes to marriage, contrasting opinions are nothing new. You and your husband have different personalities and have operated in various ways for the previous years. To seek to change your partner to become more like you is akin to trying to chew stones.
If you expect your spouse to be like you, you will simply squash their initiatives. Since it is not likely to happen, you should make the necessary adjustments and appreciate your spouse’s divergent viewpoint.
Your marriage will experience the least amount of conflict if you and your spouse are aware of this reality.
Here are some tips to help you stop fighting in your marriage:
A Marriage With Less Conflict
1. Recognize your spouse’s personality
Knowing your spouse’s temperament makes it simpler to connect with them. You don’t dispute with a choleric, for instance. You must concede defeat to the choleric. Either wait till a suitable time or pray about the circumstance.
2. Determine the significance of the topic you are debating
It is not worthwhile to argue over anything if it is not important. Some issues are better left undebated, in order to avoid conflict.
3. Improve your communication skills
Life is communication. You must master this skill, and master it well. Keep talking in your marriage. Do all it takes to sustain healthy conversations.
A Marriage With Less Conflict
4. Develop a tolerance for offense
Separate the person from the issues. The fact that your spouse is expressing a different viewpoint from yours does not imply that they don’t like you. Differential opinions should not result in hatred and irritation.
5. Your spouse will benefit greatly from hearing your opinions.
Consider your partner’s healthy self-esteem. One day, you’ll need their diverse perspectives on issues. Don’t silence your spouse. Their self-esteem and confidence are destroyed when you shut them up all the time.
6. Speak your mind in a sensible, collected, and encouraging manner.
Give your husband the power to make the final choice. Do not feel that your opinion was ignored and that you should refrain from offering your opinion in the future.
It is crucial for ladies to pray for their husbands’ wisdom, insight, and fear of the Lord because of this.
There is no topic in marriage about which God does not provide suitable answers or directions. The same can be said about the problem of forgiveness in marriage.
Marriage is the place where you will be most upset or irritated, and where you will feel the most pressure to get even with your spouse.
Marriage is impossible apart from God, His Holy Spirit, and His word. That is why prayer and declaring God’s word are so essential. We must be willing to follow God’s word exactly.
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How to Forgive Your Partner and Move On
The Bible is quite clear and unequivocal on forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the act of letting go of something that has profoundly injured you, releasing it from your heart and all the negative emotions linked with it, and moving on.
Marriage should include many moving-on moments. Unfortunately, many couples do not seem to be able to move past this; they appear to be stuck in this rot. An unforgiving spirit is a killer of marital peace, joy, growth, and productivity.
If you have difficulty forgiving someone, especially your spouse, you must seek solutions, identify the main cause, and pray for God to heal you, release your soul, and restore you.
How to Forgive Your Partner and Move On
An unforgiving spirit can manifest itself in subtle or explosive ways. I used to have difficulty forgiving my spouse because I was so upset, and it was difficult for me to let go of the small and large things that hurt me.
Let us examine the verses that encourage and teach us to forgive.
Mar 11:25-26 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
Jesus stated it once more;
Luk 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Consider these scriptures and accept them into your life. The word has the power to change your life. After a while, forgiveness becomes simpler to come by, to the point that it becomes second nature.
Being Still In A Marriage Love is a wonderful thing when two hearts beat in unison. It is even more powerful when the couple has learnt how to be still!
I’ll be writing about being still today. If you wish to experience God’s majesty and greatness, you must learn to be still. Not necessarily in terms of inaction, but of being silent and admitting God’s lordship. Recognizing that He is Lord of all or Lord of none, and giving Him the proper place He deserves.
The Bible says in Psalm 46:10 KJV, Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.’
I really like the Passion translation (TPT). It says, ‘Surrender your anxiety! Be silent and stop your striving and you will see that I am God. I am the God above all the nations, and I will be exalted throughout the whole earth.’
Being Still In A Marriage
If you want to see and experience God in your marriage, you must let go of your worries and efforts and be calm. I’m not sure what the problem is in your marriage. You’ve been striving and worrying for far too long. You cannot resolve the challenges in your marriage on your own.
Be still today, recognize, and understand that God is Lord. How do you become still?
Through worship and adoration With thankfulness and a glad heart Through the study of the Bible and meditation Declaring the word or making a confession By walking in the spirit. By following His directions.
Being Still In A Marriage
You can start accepting Him as Lord today in your finances, health, misunderstandings with your spouse, every thorny issue with your husband, in-law, children, and so on.
There is a time and season for things to break forth in the spirit realm. When the breakthrough happens in the spirit realm then there will a breakthrough on the earth.
I pray to God to provide us with the necessary strength. In Jesus’ name, God bless your marriage.
There is a stirring in my heart to see couples who are unwaveringly loyal and committed to each other. When the covenant of marriage is maximized, this is the true meaning of marriage. When two hearts beat in unison.
When partners play games with each other, the power of the marriage relationship is diminished. Couples are to be open, honest, and transparent with one another.
When they are not completely focused on one other and are not on the same page, their strength cannot be amplified.
The Bible says in Ecclesiastic 4:9 (ERV) Two people are better than one. When two people work together, they get more work done.
The KJV translation Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
God loves oneness. His presence, power, and majesty will be released. God desires that the power of the godhead be mirrored in marriages. He desires that all marriages reflect His glory.
The Godhead are three separate personalities, but they function in flawless harmony. The Godhead is so in sync that they cannot be divided. They think and act in unison.
“The Father commands it, the Son performs it, and the Holy Spirit seals it,” someone says brilliantly.
The marriage covenant is the same way.
The Bible says in Matthew 19:6: ‘So they are no longer two, but one. God has joined them together, so no one should separate them.”
Nothing can separate a pair who are inseparable. We must strive and pray to be faithful to our marriage. That is all we have been asked to do.
Try to stay on the same page as your spouse. Be committed. Until death do us part. It’s a long-term and lifetime commitment.
It’s a heart connection, a knitted heart. Let go of all bitterness. Allow every offense to pass. If you have beef with your spouse, you cannot be one. You cannot be one if you harbor resentment toward your partner. You must purify your hearts and your thoughts towards your spouse. That togetherness MUST be maintained.
Pray that God may knit your heart together with that of your spouse. God bless our union.
