In a world where emotions are easily mistaken for divine direction, it’s important to pause and ask: How do I truly know this is God’s will for me?
Butterflies are beautiful, but they’re not divine confirmation. That quickened heartbeat when they text or the way they make you smile, though exciting, does not automatically mean they’re God’s best for you. Feelings are fleeting; God’s will is founded in truth and peace.
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9, KJV).
Your emotions can scream “yes!” even when God is gently saying “wait” or “no.” That’s why peace in your spirit is more reliable than the thrill in your chest.
Proverbs 3:6 says, “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” If it’s truly God, His direction will be clear, not chaotic. His peace will rule in your heart, not anxiety or fear (Colossians 3:15).
You’ll know it’s God when the relationship pushes you closer to Jesus, not away, when purity is protected, not compromised, when conversations are edifying, not manipulative. A relationship led by God will reflect 1 Corinthians 13, which states, patient, kind, honoring, not self-seeking.
God may confirm His will through wise counsel, Scripture, godly mentors, dreams, or even closed doors. Don’t ignore spiritual red flags just because you like the person. Remember, God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33).
Sometimes “the one” won’t fit your list, but they’ll fit your destiny. They will honor your calling, carry God’s grace, and bring out the best in you.
Before you say “yes,” ask: Is this God’s leading or just my longing? Let your emotions be quieted. Allow your spirit to listen. And above all, let God confirm it.
When it’s God, you won’t have to force it. His love story for you will be marked by peace, purpose, and His undeniable presence.
You text first. You call first. You plan the hangouts, say sorry just to keep the peace, and always fight for the connection even when it’s clear they’ve stopped showing up.
Let’s be honest: nothing hurts more than feeling like you’re the only one trying in a relationship that was supposed to be mutual.
Love Wasn’t Meant To Be Begged For
Real love is intentional. It gives, it shows up, it sacrifices on both sides. When only one person is carrying the weight of the relationship, something is fundamentally wrong. You weren’t created to chase someone into loving you back; that’s not love, that’s survival.
In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, love is described as patient and kind, not self-seeking. Notice how these qualities flow both ways. God designed love to be mutual, not a one-person show where you’re constantly proving your worth.
The Reality Check You Need
Stop making excuses when love feels one-sided. Stop making excuses for someone’s lack of effort. If they wanted to text you back, they would. If they cared about your feelings, it would show consistently. Matthew 7:16 reminds us, “By their fruit you will recognize them.” People’s actions—not their occasional words—reveal their true heart toward you.
Amos 3:3 asks, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Healthy relationships require two people moving in the same direction with equal commitment.
You Deserve Better
You deserve someone who chooses you back without confusion, without pressure, without delay. Someone who meets you halfway, prays with you, and values your presence. Ephesians 5:25 shows us that love should be sacrificial and intentional, on both sides.
Permission to Pause
If you’re exhausted from being the only one trying, it’s okay to pause. It’s okay to stop texting first. This isn’t about games but about protecting your heart and seeing the relationship clearly.
God sees every unanswered text, every one-sided conversation. Psalm 56:8 says He keeps track of all your sorrows and collects your tears. Your heart matters to Him.
Sometimes God is trying to pull you out of places where you’re not truly valued. Don’t shrink yourself to fit into someone’s limited capacity to love. Trust that He’s writing a better story, one where love flows both ways.
You’re not too much. You’re simply asking for what love should naturally provide. And that’s not too much to ask for at all.
You see it, but you tell yourself it’s nothing. You feel it, but you keep making excuses.
Deep down, you know something’s off but you don’t want to lose them.
That’s how many people end up trapped in relationships that drain, damage, or delay them.
Red flags aren’t random. They’re warnings. Signals from God, from your spirit, and sometimes even from your own peace. When you ignore them, you invite unnecessary pain.
He never apologizes when he’s wrong. She constantly belittles you. He pressures you into sex. She ghosted you for days with no explanation. He mocks your walk with God. She plays mind games and calls it “vibes.”
Those are not cute. They’re not quirks. They’re red flags.
The Holy Spirit doesn’t whisper without reason. When something doesn’t sit right in your spirit, don’t silence Him with your emotions.
“A prudent man foresees danger and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”Proverbs 22:3
Discernment is not suspicion it’s protection.
If someone constantly disrespects your values, ignores your boundaries, or manipulates your emotions, don’t spiritualize it. Don’t tell yourself they’ll change after marriage. Marriage doesn’t fix character it exposes it.
Love is not blind. Real love sees clearly and chooses wisely.
Yes, people can grow. Yes, God transforms hearts. But your job is not to play the Holy Spirit in their life. Your job is to obey God and protect your heart.
Don’t ignore what God is trying to show you just because your heart is already involved. Feelings fade. Red flags don’t.
So before you say “yes,” before you call them “God’s will,” ask yourself:
Am I ignoring what I shouldn’t?
Pay attention to patterns, not just apologies. Watch for fruit, not just words.
You deserve love that is pure, peaceful, and aligned with God’s plan, not love that leaves you confused and anxious.
Have you ever been wounded so deeply that the very thought of forgiving felt impossible? The betrayal was sharp, the pain undeniable, and in that moment, it seemed more justifiable to protect your heart than to release the offender.
Unforgiveness is a prison, and you are the one locked inside. Holding on to offense doesn’t punish the other person; it poisons your peace. In every meaningful relationship, romantic or otherwise, conflict is inevitable. But what separates brokenness from breakthrough is one divine gift: forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not saying, “You were right.” It is declaring, “I refuse to let your wrong define my heart.” It’s choosing peace over pain and refusing to let bitterness take root where love once bloomed. Jesus modeled this powerfully.
In His greatest moment of agony, hanging on the cross, betrayed by the very people He came to save, He whispered a prayer that echoes through eternity: “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). That wasn’t just an act of mercy, it was a blueprint for us to follow.
Scripture makes it clear: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14). To walk in intimacy with God, we must walk in forgiveness with others because when we release others, we free ourselves.
Bitterness is a burden that weighs down the soul. It steals your sleep, robs your joy, and numbs your capacity to love. But forgiveness? Forgiveness is freedom. It heals wounds and restores what the enemy tried to destroy.
I’ve witnessed it, couples on the brink of separation who found fresh intimacy because one person chose to forgive, singles who found peace and clarity after finally releasing an old hurt. Forgiveness doesn’t erase the past, but it gives you power over it.
So I ask you, dear reader: what if your healing and restoration, your next season, your answered prayer, is waiting on the other side of your forgiveness?
Say it aloud today, even through tears: “I forgive. I release. I let go.” Not by your own might, but by His grace (Zechariah 4:6).
Let the Great Healer mend what was broken. He still restores hearts. He still brings beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3).
You will smile again. You will love again. And when you do, it will be deeper, stronger, and sweeter because forgiveness made room for the miracle.
In this fast-paced world, it’s easy to get fixated on WHERE one is going. You set goals, chase dreams, and often measure success by how close you are to that “next big thing.”
It could be a career move, a relationship, or a breakthrough you’ve prayed for. But in God’s Kingdom, there’s something more important than just arriving at a place – that’s the person you’re becoming on the way there. Your destination is the place you’re headed, your vision, goals, and future plans. But your destiny is far deeper. It’s God’s intentional design for your life. It’s the purpose written in His heart long before you ever took your first step.
God isn’t scrambling to figure out your life. He has already crafted it with care. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope.”
So even when things don’t go as planned, your destiny isn’t shaken. Life may bring unexpected turns, detours, delays, and even disappointments, but those are not derailments. They are tools in God’s hands to mold your character and deepen your faith.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. – Proverbs 19:21
Destiny is about becoming someone whole in Christ. God is more interested in WHO you are becoming than just WHERE you are going.
Philippians 1:6 says, “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Be intentional with your walk in purpose. Embrace the process, trust God even when the road seems long, because your destination is ahead, but your destiny is unfolding daily, and it’s beautiful.
