Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and do you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
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No one talks about how scary it is to fall out of love with someone you thought you’d love forever.
One minute, they’re your answered prayer; the next, you struggle to feel anything. You smile less and withdraw more. The connection that once lit up your world now feels like a flickering flame.
But before you make any rash decisions, pause. Love is a commitment, not an emotion. Feelings fade, but godly love doesn’t. The Bible says, “Love bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things. Love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13:7–8). So the spark isn’t gone, maybe it’s just buried under disappointment, unmet expectations, or unspoken frustrations.
Falling out of love doesn’t always mean the relationship is over; sometimes, it’s time to rebuild.
Ask yourself:
Have we stopped communicating?
Have we stopped praying together?
Have we grown apart because we’ve stopped growing with God?
Many relationships drift because people stop being intentional. Love can’t thrive where neglect lives.
What if you’ve done all you can and the feeling is still gone? Then you need to be honest with yourself, with them, and with God. Staying in a relationship out of guilt, fear, or obligation is not God’s will. He wants you in a relationship that brings peace, not confusion. “God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown…” (Hebrews 6:10).
If you’re in this space where you’re no longer sure, don’t run, reflect. Also, don’t settle; seek clarity from the One who knows your heart even when you don’t. God is not afraid of your silence, confusion, or breaking point. He specializes in restoring what feels lost. However, He also gives you the grace to walk away when love is no longer aligned with His Will.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
Don’t miss it. Spread the word!
Loving Someone Who Isn’t Ready Yet
There’s a special kind of ache that comes from loving someone who isn’t ready. You see the potential, the prayers you’ve prayed seem to be forming in them but they’re not quite there yet. You’re emotionally invested, but spiritually torn. And so, you wait. Now, the real question is: did God ask you to wait?
Many times, we romanticize waiting. We tell ourselves we’re being patient, loyal, and long-suffering. Meanwhile, love without wisdom is an idol, and you may unknowingly be putting yourself in the place of God. If they’re not ready for commitment, consistency, or growth, then you need to call yourself back. If you keep hoping they will change, you have to ask: Is this faith or fear of letting go?
God’s kind of waiting always brings peace, not anxiety. He doesn’t keep us in emotional limbo. When God says “wait,” it comes with assurance, clarity, and purpose, not confusion or heartbreak. “For God is not the author of confusion but of peace…” (1 Corinthians 14:33).
It’s okay to love someone or something deeply and still choose obedience. God will never ask you to lose yourself while trying to prove your love to someone else. If they are not ready, that’s it. No amount of waiting can make them become who only God can shape them to be.
Sometimes, the most powerful display of love is letting go and trusting that if it’s God’s will, He’ll bring it back matured, whole, and aligned. Until then, choose your peace, clarity, and God’s timing over emotional desperation. “He has made everything beautiful in its time…” (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
Here are five steps to detach from someone who isn’t ready yet:
1. Accept the truth
Stop holding on to their potential. You may see glimpses of who they could become, but love must be rooted in reality. God doesn’t call us to wait on maybes. If they’re not showing up with clarity, commitment, or growth, believe what you see, not just what you hope for.
2. Pour your emotions out to God
God can handle your heartbreak. He can bring the tears, confusion, and disappointment to Him without filters. This is where healing begins. “Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
3. Create a healthy distance
Love doesn’t mean unlimited access. Guard your heart by setting boundaries emotionally, mentally, and even digitally. Muting, unfollowing, or creating space isn’t cruelty; it’s wisdom. You can’t heal while staying where you’re constantly triggered.
4. Reclaim your identity and purpose
You are not less because someone wasn’t ready for you. You are still chosen, loved, and whole in Christ. So, refocus on who you are and what God has called you to do. Your worth is not tied to their readiness.
5. Surrender the outcome to God
Let go of the emotional control. Trust that if it’s truly God’s will, it will return whole, healed, and aligned. Until then, choose obedience and peace over those pressures.
Dear KHCites, love is a beautiful thing, but it must be mutual, mature, and God-led. If they’re not ready, don’t stay stuck. Trust God with your heart. He knows how to restore, redirect, and reward those who obey even when it hurts.
Some days, love feels like butterflies. Other days, it feels like a sacrifice. If you think godly love is just about how you feel, you’ll walk away the moment the feelings fade.
The truth is, love that lasts is not always powered by emotion; it’s powered by intention.
Feelings come and go. They rise and fall with mood, stress, seasons, and even hormones. But real love, the kind God talks about, is deeper than that. It shows up when it’s hard. It stays when it’s uncomfortable. It chooses even when it doesn’t feel like it.
1 Corinthians 13 doesn’t say love is a feeling. It says love is patient, kind, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs. Those aren’t emotions. They’re decisions. Daily decisions.
You won’t always “feel” in love, and that’s okay. What matters is what you do in those moments. Do you still choose to honor? To forgive? To pray for them? To show up? That’s godly love.
You see, culture tells us to follow our hearts. But God says to guard it (Proverbs 4:23). Feelings are unstable in everything, especially in relationships.
Even Jesus didn’t feel like going to the cross. He prayed, “If it be possible, let this cup pass from me” (Matthew 26:39), but love made Him stay. Love made Him choose obedience. That’s what godly love looks like. It’s a decision to honor God even when it’s uncomfortable.
Commitment is the only virtue that will take you further than chemistry, so you won’t always wake up with butterflies. I encourage you to choose love, not just when it feels good, but when it reflects Christ.
You started the relationship with joy. The butterflies were flying, prayers were loud, and everything felt like a dream come true.
But slowly, your devotion to God started fading. Your prayer life grew cold. The fire you once had started burning low, all because of love.
Get on the seat and let’s gist. Look, it’s easy to get so caught up in someone that you forget the One who gave them to you.
Dating was never supposed to pull you away from God; it’s supposed to pull you both closer to Him. Any relationship that weakens your spiritual life is not a blessing; it’s a distraction.
Romans 12:11 says, “Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.” That means even while dating, your fire should still be burning. Your altar should still be alive.
If your relationship is costing you your connection with God, it’s too expensive. Love shouldn’t make you skip devotionals. It shouldn’t make you hide. It shouldn’t silence your convictions. True love doesn’t compete with God.
Don’t fall for the lie that says, “It’s just a season” or “It will get better.” Many have carried spiritual dryness into marriage because they never checked it during dating.
Pray together, yes. Also, pray alone.
Talk about your future, yes. Also, grow in your personal walk.
Love them deeply, but love God deeper.
You don’t have to choose between love and fire. You can have both when the relationship is built on the right foundation.
So, if you feel your fire slipping;
Pause
Reconnect
Return to your first love.
No matter how amazing they are, only God can satisfy your soul. You’re not just dating for fun, you’re dating for purpose, and purpose starts with staying connected to the One who holds it all together.
Why Godly Relationships Require More Than Just Prayer
You’re praying, fasting, and declaring, but the relationship still feels shaky. You keep saying, “God will change him/her,” even though the signs are clear. Prayer is powerful, but prayer alone doesn’t build a relationship.
Yes, God answers prayers, but Godly relationships require effort, wisdom, and responsibility. You can’t pray your way into a healthy relationship while ignoring red flags, poor communication, or a lack of commitment.
Some people are using prayer to stay in what God is trying to rescue them from. Just because you’re praying together doesn’t mean you’re growing together. You can hold hands and still be heading in two different directions.
James 2:17 says, “Faith without works is dead.” That includes relationships. You can’t pray for a godly partner but stay with someone who dishonors your boundaries, mocks your convictions, or refuses to grow. You can’t build something strong if you’re the only one doing the building.
Prayer should not be used to cover dysfunction. It should invite clarity, correction, and confirmation. Godly relationships require communication, accountability, honesty, service, maturity, and action. Not vibes, excuses (God told me you’re my wife) with no follow-through.
Yes, pray, but while you’re praying, also pay attention. How do they treat people? Do they honor your values? Do they have vision? Do they lead with love and responsibility? Stop using prayer to ignore reality. When God brings two people together, He doesn’t just give them emotions; He gives them instructions. Godly love must be nurtured intentionally.
So, keep praying for your relationship, and don’t ignore the work. Set boundaries, communicate, seek counsel, heal, apologize, and grow. Even the best prayers need the right actions. A godly relationship doesn’t just fall from heaven; it’s built with prayer and purpose.
